The wedding is Sat & we haven't stopped fighting! needed to vent!

He goes back to SI lalst Sunday, leaving me w/ all the last minute details ....

All this stress & pressure & he thinks I'm getting my nails done every night! He's on the last nerve I've got ....

Does everyone go through this? I'm afraid that I'll be mad at him coming down the aisle!

Re: The wedding is Sat & we haven't stopped fighting! needed to vent!

I went through the same thing. Try to relax before the wedding. The day of the wedding you will be fine. You 2 will be soooo excited you will forget why you were mad at him or if he didn't help or not. Try to take it step by step and try not to stress yourself out. The day of your wedding you want to be relax.

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Listen, all my married girlfriends went through this. It is 'normal' or something like that. If it makes you feel any better, none of them walked down the aisle mad, it is the stress of the whole thing. Men will be men, that is why it is really the bride's day--she EARNS IT! In the end all the grooms appreciate it, at least the ones I know. My FI and I didn't have a fight but we had some interesting debates over the reception places. We walked into one place in Manhattan, I proceeded to the bathroom--walked out and said 'nope', not here.
Relax it will all be wonderful.

Re: The wedding is Sat & we haven't stopped fighting! needed to vent!

I'm sure once you see each at the end of the aisle all the reasons for choosing to spend your lives together will come rushing back and it will be all good!

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I hate to say it's 'normal' - but it is! The Tuesday prior to my Sunday wedding - when there was soooo much yet to do - my FH told me he was going to the movies w/a friend in the city. We got into such a fight. I felt like I was doing all the work - and handling all the stress - while he was able to socialize? We still weren't getting along later that week... And I thought how can I marry him in just a few days - would I have to 'fake' being happy? Could I? But - somehow that all melted away before the big day. My guests told us that we both didn't stop smiling the whole day! We really had so much fun. (I'll get my review in soon.) So - just hang in there. It WILL get better. try not to think about it too much. Although it sometimes doesn't seem possible, it will all work out!!

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We went through the same thing. ANd I promise on the wedding day it will be a faint memory and you will only feel love and happiness on your wedding day!!

Re: The wedding is Sat & we haven't stopped fighting! needed to vent!

it's terrible.... but what i've heard is that mostly everyone goes thru this... it's just a guys way of dealing with the stress instead of atually dealing with it! good luck!!!!!!!!!

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All of my married friends have gone through this. As long as you're not fighting over huge unresolved issues, and are only arguing about small things, try not to sweat it. It will pass, I know, easy for me to say right?

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It is probablynerves. Go with the flow. Congrats and good luck

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It does happen to 95% of couples!! I worked w/ a girl that on the week of their wedding her & her then Fi were screaming on the phone at each other. And she ended the conversation w/ 'Go f' your Mother' personally I would of dumped her there on the spot. But nope not him he married her & they were both huge smiles the whole day!!

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Well I don't have any experience (still 5 months away and all discussions have been calm)

Is there anyone (MOH/ BM) who can help you ? or just listen to you and maybe do some of the things?
It will all be worth it on Saturday

Re: The wedding is Sat & we haven't stopped fighting! needed to vent!

Christine, all my married girlfriends have gone through this, I think it is so natural. There is so much stress around the B&G (even though WE do all the work LOL that both of you just take it out on each other.

I'm sure walking down the isle will be so emotional and wonderful you'll immediatley forget how much he's on your nerves
I'm sure you;ll be fine.

Hey, I have 5 months, and Len is already got me stir crazy

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Planning a wedding is the most stressed I've ever been in my entire life! I always thought it wouldn't be, but it is. There are just so many decisions and things to think about you can't help but get on edge.
We fought a lot during planning....but deep down we both knew we weren't mad at eachother - we were just stressed about stuff!
Don't worry! This is perfectly normal.
You're wedding day is going to be the best day of your life....and you'll both fall in love all over again!

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OF course I spent the night in tears trying to get my GIFT BAGS done, but later he called to say good night. I told him how overwhelming it all was .... we had a good talk & I felt much better b/f going to bed.

I guess I never expected that it would be so difficult ... You think it'll be bliss & it's sooooo stressful! I'm emotional as it is ... AND I'm getting my period today!!!

Thanks for letting me vent!

Send me some cool - stress free vibes please!

Re: The wedding is Sat & we haven't stopped fighting! needed to vent!

You bet! Just take a deep breath and know that in the end everything will get done and it'll be better than you imagined!