I'm thinking about cancelling the wedding. I just found out that my father who lives in FL isnt doing to well health wise. I feel in my heart that he will not make it to the wedding in 2011. There is no way that I would be able to walk down the isle without my father being there. I would not enjoy myself and probably cry all night. We originally thought of moving the wedding up but we cant afford to do that. My father and I are closer than white on rice. He is my best friend. I talk to him about everything and was actually going to come with me to pick my dress out. We have put down money on every major vendor and are about $3000 into this wedding already.
Do you ladies know if vendors will refund the DP? Have you ever heard of selling your contract.
I'm so sorry most halls have a cancellation policy check your contract - if not contact the banquet manager and see if they'll help you out in this circumstance...
jlt2010
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i'm so sorry about your dad. like many of the pp, maybe you could do a private ceremony in FL and then have the reception here. but talk to your vendors and explain your situation. i'm sure they could work with you and you wouldn't lose the deposits.
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So sorry to hear about this.
I agree with having a very very small and intimate ceremony in florida so your father can take place. Even if it's having it at a church and then just having dinner at a restaurant.
In 11' if u wish you can have the larger reception and still know that ur father walked you down the aisle.
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Is it possible if you can just have immediate family so it can be less $$ and then you can move it up? That's what fh and i did.
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Posted by regy_k
why moving up the wedding won't work? maybe u can change the date to this year even. or fly over there and have a small private ceremony with ur dad?
sorry that ur dad is going thru this
ITA with this idea... have an intimate wedding with your father in FL and have a Sunday Brunch gathering or beach reception. It would be wonderful. I am so sorry that your dad isn' t feeling well...but knowing how close you are, I don't think he would want you to put everything on hold. He knows how invested you are and more than anything wants you to be happy. He's your father and best friend. Think about it...you have some time. Unfortunately, I do not think your vendors will refund your money. It is business...no matter how personal it is to you.
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I'm so sorry that you are going through this. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
I agree with the girls who are suggesting you have a private ceremony now and continue with your plans for that RH, and know that if you're father can't be there in person, he'll still be the one walking you down the aisle.
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I am very sorry to hear that your father is so sick. You and your family are in my prayers. I am very very close with my MOH (at least i used to be) and she was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer not long ago. I always said that if it looked like she was not going to make it, we would get married at city hall just so she could be there. Maybe that is an option for you. It is a lot to consider, and you really want to think through your decision. But are you going to cancel your wedding forever? I am sure no matter when you reschedule to, it will hurt that your dad is not there. And you never know... Miracles do happen. We are date twins and i am praying for you
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Awww, my WM girl. I am going to keep your dad in my thoughts and prayers. I hope things get better for you and your family soon.
I am making the same suggestion as the other girls. Have a small private ceremony in FL and your reception in NY in 2011. Hopefully, he will improve and it will all work out.
Until then many and
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You will be in my thoughts and prayers!!
MayBride2010
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My thoughts and prayers for you and your family...
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I'm very sorry to hear this. Could you have something super small, maybe get married at court and have a small recpetion afterwards so your father could be involved?
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I am so sorry. I felt the same way that you feel bc my Dad has been sick for a couple of years. I let DH know that God forbid something were to happen the wedding would be cancelled. Like you I couldn't stand to walk down the isle without my Daddy. Can you do something intimate where you wear your gown at a closer date and keep the celebration for the later date. Even if its reducing your guestlist drastically, don't cancel it. Your dad would want to see you get married whether its in a backyard or in a lavish hall. Good luck with your decision
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I am so sorry to hear about your fahter. He will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Posted by regy_k
why moving up the wedding won't work? maybe u can change the date to this year even. or fly over there and have a small private ceremony with ur dad?
I was thinking the same thing. Maybe you could do an extremely low-key ceremony with your dad (no reception, but a ceremony in a church) so that he's there for your marriage. And then have another one later on (with the rest of your family & friends) at the time originally scheduled.
Many many prayers going out for you & your dad & family!
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So sorry to hear about your dad! You and your family are in my thoughts. I can't imagine how you are feeling. I hope the reception hall is understanding and you can work things out. Take care and I hope the Lord guides you in your time of need.
