third baby topic post

sugarnspice Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:52 PM

third baby topic post

can we share thoughts about serrogate mothers?

people that cant do in-vitro for whatever reason, and people who cant health wise carry their baby...

would anyone ever BE a serrogate (sorry i cant spell it) and would anyone ever want to use one?

AngnShaun Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:53 PM

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i dont know... i guess it would depend who was asking... i dont think it would be an easy thing to carry a child/children and then have to give them up

kris_gets_hitched Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:53 PM

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No and no.

I don't even want to give up alcohol and caffiene for 9 months for my own kid (though I wouldn't give it up alltogether, IMO American culture gets bent about a preggo lady enjoying a random glass of wine whereas it's common elsewhere).

And it kind of freaks me out to have my egg and his sperm in someone else.

However, that's because most medical procedures give me the heebie-jeebies.

JAAMS Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:54 PM

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I'm not sure... I don't know if I could emotionally handle it

mrsdraskin2009 Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:55 PM

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Posted by AngnShaun

i dont know... i guess it would depend who was asking... i dont think it would be an easy thing to carry a child/children and then have to give them up

I agree. I think if I needed to have a surrogate mother carry my babies it would be something I'd have to reconcile at that time. I think women who ARE surrogates are some of the most sefless individuals and deserve a lot of praise for what they help give a family

I don't think I would personally be a surrogate, but I never say never.

MrsC2010 Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:55 PM

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i dont think i could ever be one. i admire people who can do that, but i think it would be so difficult to carry a baby for 9 mths and then give it away even if you knew it wasnt 'yours'

not sure if i would use one.

brittndave Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:55 PM

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if it was for my sister or FSIL then yes. anyone else, no.

AdriandSteve Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:55 PM

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I would DEF not be a serrogate. I am scared to have my own kids, be pregnant and give birth... i couldn't do it for someone else.

As for using a serrogate. umm.. I don't think it's for me. Imo, and again this is my opinion, it's too similar to an open adoption for me which i'm not 100% for.

Clover23 Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:56 PM

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I'd do it for my sisters (thankfully i can say this won't happen, they each have two/almost two kids)

I don't think i could ask someone to do it for me.

christine2010 Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:57 PM

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i would be a surrogate but only for my sister.

regy_k Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:57 PM

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will never carry someone else's child and if we're on the subject I am against me or FH donating egg and sperm

I cant imagine giving up my kid - doesnt matter what the DNA says, after carrying the baby for 9 months its is like ur child

would not use a surrogate, would prefer to adopt

halfbaked Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:57 PM

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Posted by mrsdraskin2009

Posted by AngnShaun

i dont know... i guess it would depend who was asking... i dont think it would be an easy thing to carry a child/children and then have to give them up

I agree. I think if I needed to have a surrogate mother carry my babies it would be something I'd have to reconcile at that time. I think women who ARE surrogates are some of the most sefless individuals and deserve a lot of praise for what they help give a family

I don't think I would personally be a surrogate, but I never say never.

ITA. I don't think I'd be able to give the baby up after all that, even if I already had my own kids.

I would definitely use a surrogate though if necessary and I'd want her to stay in the child's life... if she wanted to, of course.

MrsSoto Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:58 PM

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more than anything, i want to help people in this world and if i could give anything i will however in some situations like this, i would have to put myself first. personally, i know that the mental repercussions of doing this, for me would be unbearable and i dont know if i would ever get over having to give up a baby that i gave birth to and carried

eta: and i would personally never want to have a surrogate as the carrier of my child. kind of for the same reasons why i wouldnt want to be one myself. i would always fear that it would rouine the surrogate's life plus other reasons

flibbertigibbet Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:59 PM

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i would definitely be a surrogate. especially if it was for if my brother's needed one or a good friend.

i think being pregnant is so beautiful. i cant wait to be pregnant in a few years.

watch me actualyl end up hating it but i'm one of those girls with like super maternal baby yearning so i feel like i'm going to love it.

JayBee216 Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:59 PM

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would not be a surrogate

prob would not use a surrogate, unless all other options were exhausted

BriansWifey Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:59 PM

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i would be a surrogate mother. but i dont think i could do it for just anybody. it would have to a friend or family member or something (like phoebe from friends lol). as for me having a surrogate to carry our child? idk what i would do.

marinai7 Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:59 PM

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I would only be a surrogate for my sister and I know she would for me.

AngnShaun Posted: Dec 30, 2009 12:59 PM

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Posted by weddingbees

i would definitely be a surrogate. especially if it was for if my brother's needed one or a good friend.

i think being pregnant is so beautiful. i cant wait to be pregnant in a few years.

watch me actualyl end up hating it but i'm one of those girls with like super maternal baby yearning so i feel like i'm going to love it.

same here... its the after being pregnant and not having a baby there that I have an issue with... i would only do it if it were for someone in my family or a really good friend

runnerbride1023 Posted: Dec 30, 2009 01:08 PM

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I am currently scared to death about pregnancy and child birth and I have joked to FH that we can use a surogate and he said yes, only if he can have sex with the person carrying the child

I would not be a surrogate -which might make me pretty selfish, but i am deferring to my giant fear mentioned above.

DaniandKen2010 Posted: Dec 30, 2009 01:19 PM

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Possibly if it was for a relative but I wouldnt use one I would rather adopt if for some reason I cannot get pregnant than there are many children out there who need a good one that I can provide.