this 'plus one' issue is become our biggest stress!

i am not even going to go into detail but i just hope i am not the only one out there that is going through this. it is after we send out our invites that one cousin decides to tell all they are seriously dating someone and 'talking about getting engaged' and that they MUST have them come to the wedding... even though we NEVER heard of this before and frquently speak to this family.... blah blah.... but asking my parents to pay for 1 more person might truly make them freak.

there is much more to this story---- but all i have to say is people have to suck it up and go single somewhere--- i mean if we never met them there is no need for them to be on the invite---- i cant wait till they get married and see what its like!

the worst part about it is FH and i do not agree on what we should do-- and its making us fight over it. i wish these cousins knew how much crap they are causing when we have so many other things we should be worrying about!

lets hope this is the only 'plus 1' issue we will have--- but considering we only sent out invites a week ago i have a feeling there are a few more to come.

Each person follows their own rules, but this is how we tackled the guest situation.

If they were in a serious relationship for over 6 months, and by serious meaning we knew about it not necessarily had met them, they were invited with a guest.

If they legitimately would not know anyone else at the event they were invited with a guest (single or not). This allowed them to bring a friend. Wasnt thrilled that a male friend of hubby's brought their sister but it is what it is.

Family did not come with a guest unless they were seriously dating. If she's a cousin she knows people. Thats ridiculous! We had people ask, even about their kids, and the answer was no. Kids were not free for us like many venues. We paid a lot per person + a site fee + upgrades etc and some people didnt even cover their own plate when giving a gift for two people. That isnt what it is about but its a reality!

Stand firm!

ahhh that sucks!!-I dont think you should fight over it, just invite them , they are going to give you money back anyway(hopefully)

I am so scared about this happening!