This'll probably stir up drama.....

Original post by LIBrideinBWI

Mar 16, 2005 04:57 PM

And who am I to say anything, as I don't post that often (or maybe it's because I type too slow)......
But WHY do people spill their guts about every little problem/idiosyncracy/issue/fight they have with their FI on a public message board?!? And then get all pissy when people point that out? Don't these people reread their posts and realize how RIDICULOUS they look?

I love to come on here to get ideas, share good news, quell wedding jitters and get advice, - I really do feel a sense of community on here, but I would NEVER, EVER talk about the issues that FI and I may have (especially if we had fights over and over and over and over). I may FM people I feel close to, but to air the dirty laundry on a public board - NO WAY

Anyone else feel like about 'some' of the repeat offenders?

If this post offends people or if it causes drama, I will delete it - just let me know (FM)

ambersmom Posted: Mar 16, 2005 05:34 PM

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When I originally went on this site (and especially when I was having mad issues at the beginning of my marriage) I was a big blabbermouth because I really didn't know where to go with my situation. But now I know better to just keep it to myself unless it's something that's seriously biting me in the azz...

The ping pong effect on BHB is giving me a cranium ache!

Summer05 Posted: Mar 16, 2005 05:35 PM

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I definitely agree that some people share way too much personal info on public boards. That being said, I think that some people find it easier to talk to and get advice from a group of 'strangers'. The advice you get from people you don't really know is a bit more objective than that of family or friends.

luvsbob4603 Posted: Mar 16, 2005 05:39 PM

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fm bri.

FeliciaDA Posted: Mar 16, 2005 05:40 PM

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Posted by ambersmom

The ping pong effect on BHB is giving me a cranium ache!

Amen sister!!

And yet I still see a big difference in what you described .. and what most of us do (just posting about family issues and seeking opinions and advice) as opposed to those who posting about other BIG relationship issues .. and not really WANTING opinions at ALL .. yet NEVER making any headway, never thank folks for and/or heeding any advice .. yadda yadda... it just goes and and on...

OK I'm done

sarahthegreat Posted: Mar 16, 2005 05:42 PM

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i completly agree. if you have issues with your SO - take it up with them. we are here for support and all that jazz, but if you are really have serious issues, this is not the place to turn. i keep my personal business to myself. i don't need it being used against me someday

BriBri529 Posted: Mar 16, 2005 05:43 PM

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Posted by FeliciaDA

Posted by ambersmom

The ping pong effect on BHB is giving me a cranium ache!

Amen sister!!

And yet I still see a big difference in what you described .. and what most of us do (just posting about family issues and seeking opinions and advice) as opposed to those who posting about other BIG relationship issues .. and not really WANTING opinions at ALL .. yet NEVER making any headway, never thank folks for and/or heeding any advice .. yadda yadda... it just goes and and on...

OK I'm done

I think someone needs to give people like this a wake-up call. Some of the things I see people posting about SO might actually end a relationship if the other found out . . .

prncssrachel Posted: Mar 16, 2005 05:56 PM

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Ok, I just realized what you were talking about and I'm with you 100%. Wow, so not what I thought we were talking about! I need a clue today!

BriBri529 Posted: Mar 16, 2005 05:57 PM

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It's ok Rach- it took me a bit myself.

RedHead Posted: Mar 16, 2005 06:01 PM

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I just think that some people post threadsa bout themselves and are relly not looking for advice, help, comfort at all...they are looking for ATTENTION...OVER AND OVER AND OVER...

I don't get why someone feels they have to tell you EVERY little thing they do...and yet NEVER SEEM to listen or help anyone else.

It gets really annoying

BriBri529 Posted: Mar 16, 2005 06:06 PM

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Posted by RedHead

I just think that some people post threadsa bout themselves and are relly not looking for advice, help, comfort at all...they are looking for ATTENTION...OVER AND OVER AND OVER...

I don't get why someone feels they have to tell you EVERY little thing they do...and yet NEVER SEEM to listen or help anyone else.

It gets really annoying

yes and then make implications about others by pointing out those who are nice and have sent FMs

suven Posted: Mar 16, 2005 06:14 PM

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Posted by BriBri529

Posted by RedHead

I just think that some people post threadsa bout themselves and are relly not looking for advice, help, comfort at all...they are looking for ATTENTION...OVER AND OVER AND OVER...

I don't get why someone feels they have to tell you EVERY little thing they do...and yet NEVER SEEM to listen or help anyone else.

It gets really annoying

yes and then make implications about others by pointing out those who are nice and have sent FMs

Amen to you both!!!

girlygrl33 Posted: Mar 16, 2005 06:43 PM

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Ahhh I know who this is about, it took me awhile but I figured it out! Lol and I agree as well, i think some people come on here to vent to strangers b/c its a way to get it out without having to worry about the person they are referring to finding out. and hurting them or regretting what they said. but true if you spill it out be prepared for the mess that may follow- like opinions you may not agree with.

RedHead Posted: Mar 16, 2005 06:45 PM

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Posted by girlygrl33

Ahhh I know who this is about, it took me awhile but I figured it out! Lol and I agree as well, i think some people come on here to vent to strangers b/c its a way to get it out without having to worry about the person they are referring to finding out. and hurting them or regretting what they said. but true if you spill it out be prepared for the mess that may follow- like opinions you may not agree with.

I see MORE than one person do this
BUT i agree with the last part...

If people are going to put their business out there...and then have the NERVE to start drama ...they better expect the mud to fly their way....

February05 Posted: Mar 16, 2005 06:46 PM

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I'm oblivious.... as usual

salsbride06 Posted: Mar 16, 2005 06:47 PM

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I AGREE SOME THINGS DO BELONG LEFT IN PRIVATE.

lolita4life Posted: Mar 16, 2005 06:49 PM

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am i missing something?!

i personally havent seen tooooo many threads like that (fights with SO, etc)... but then again.... unless its someone i am friends with on here, i ignore it and go on to the next one.

lilmrs Posted: Mar 16, 2005 06:50 PM

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Really? That happens here? I have never really noticed.

girlygrl33 Posted: Mar 16, 2005 06:50 PM

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Posted by RedHead

Posted by girlygrl33

Ahhh I know who this is about, it took me awhile but I figured it out! Lol and I agree as well, i think some people come on here to vent to strangers b/c its a way to get it out without having to worry about the person they are referring to finding out. and hurting them or regretting what they said. but true if you spill it out be prepared for the mess that may follow- like opinions you may not agree with.

I see MORE than one person do this
BUT i agree with the last part...

If people are going to put their business out there...and then have the NERVE to start drama ...they better expect the mud to fly their way....

Hmm more than one, now Im clueless but thats ok it took me awhile to figure this out, I vent on here on occasion but never about FH , mostly about my FSIL who drives just not me but everyone nuts. sorry if it was me.

nov04LIbride Posted: Mar 16, 2005 07:03 PM

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Posted by LIBrideinBWI

I guess my issue is the people that ALWAYS post about the numerous problems they have with their FI. Don't these people SEE the pattern?

And then there is ALWAYS an excuse...Or all of a sudden guess what, we're all good again!

I think some people get too wrapped up in planning a wedding to really look at the relationship behind it. I just think it is kind of sad for them... And I feel bad for their families that may be suffering from their selfishness.

RedHead Posted: Mar 16, 2005 07:06 PM

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Posted by girlygrl33

Posted by RedHead

Posted by girlygrl33

Ahhh I know who this is about, it took me awhile but I figured it out! Lol and I agree as well, i think some people come on here to vent to strangers b/c its a way to get it out without having to worry about the person they are referring to finding out. and hurting them or regretting what they said. but true if you spill it out be prepared for the mess that may follow- like opinions you may not agree with.

I see MORE than one person do this
BUT i agree with the last part...

If people are going to put their business out there...and then have the NERVE to start drama ...they better expect the mud to fly their way....

Hmm more than one, now Im clueless but thats ok it took me awhile to figure this out, I vent on here on occasion but never about FH , mostly about my FSIL who drives just not me but everyone nuts. sorry if it was me.

it is just a general statement...some people just REALLY let you all in on their personal business...And i guess i too find myself saying WOW...

Some wil post over and over about themselves and what they are doing and yet NEVER really post on anyone elses threads...offering their ear...some advice or just a friggin HUG?
BUT LOVE the responses they get after they post about their personal issues

IMO it is just self-absorbed attention seeking behavior