those who are not having children at the wedding

paintbrush91 Posted: Jan 04, 2004 09:34 PM

those who are not having children at the wedding

How did your family react to this? We have made that desion, and I think it has upset some.

palebride Posted: Jan 04, 2004 09:37 PM

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no one was upset becuase there are no young kids in our family......
well, one neice is 2, but they're in Arizona and probably are not flying in for the wedding.....

nan&dave Posted: Jan 04, 2004 09:41 PM

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They have no say. This is our wedding and plus we don't need like 40 kids running around. Our wedding is on April 2, 2005. They have enough 'warning' time. Good luck and sorry to sound mean, but I'm just being honest.

Misstene Posted: Jan 04, 2004 09:43 PM

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My family was a little obnoxious, but when you think about it, I'm getting married on a Yacht... I don't want anyone falling over board!

NovemberSue Posted: Jan 04, 2004 09:45 PM

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We only had a few children at our wedding and it was immediate family only.

luvsun27 Posted: Jan 04, 2004 09:51 PM

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We are inviting children...because they are all family! I am getting 2 babysitters for the ceremony and reception to entertain the kids. I'm also making activy packs for them. For us...it was the only way...I couldn't let some of them come and not others...like I said, it's all family. If they chose to leave them home...that's up to them. But, I will be prepared...and I'm sure the kids will have a blast! JMO.

Moehick Posted: Jan 04, 2004 10:41 PM

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I have 5 nieces and a nephew and did not invite them.. They will go to church but not reception. It is an evening wedding and frankly my brothers and sis in laws were pleased they could go and enjoy themselves and not worry about kids. Plus the kids are all sleeping over friends house's and looking forward to that. Your family will have to deal with your decision.

Jax430 Posted: Jan 05, 2004 12:15 AM

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We aren't having any children under 5, and my FH's aunt is very upset that her younger grandchildren will not be invited. She keeps commenting about it - I wish people would just learn to deal!

OctGroom Posted: Jan 05, 2004 08:11 AM

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It's YOUR Wedding. You make the rules.. BTW.. We're not having kids attend either.

Enjoy your day and lifetime together! :o)

halloweenbride04 Posted: Jan 05, 2004 09:01 AM

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FH and I decided that no kids under the age of 16 would be invited. We felt badly about this but we also did not want kids running around our reception. We set the precedent with our e-party....we did not invite children.

Kelly9904 Posted: Jan 05, 2004 09:09 AM

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Some are upset, most understand!

Make the decision as you want it to be!! But FYI there will always be someone who doenst agree and makes a stink! As long as you and your FH agree and stick with your decision thats all that matters!

Snowboardgirl Posted: Jan 05, 2004 09:12 AM

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they totally agree. They want to have fun with out the kids.

AliKing Posted: Jan 05, 2004 09:50 AM

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Oh it caused a major war between me and my MIL! We decided no children, except the ones in the wedding party, which were my brother's children. My MIL wanted to invite HER cousins children to come... they have 7 children!!! Between the ages of 3-12!
I won that argument but it I was given a really hard time about it!

bethsiar Posted: Jan 05, 2004 09:58 AM

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Why do people have such an issue with this? Its like parents automatically get on the defensive side that their is something wrong with their childrens' behavior or something.
I was talking about this just 10 minutes ago. Children do not belong at formal affairs, no matter WHOSE children it is. I wouldn't care if my SIL had the baby Jesus, hes still not invited to my wedding!

wc0143 Posted: Jan 05, 2004 10:29 AM

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One FBIL has made an issue. We planned on inviting 18 yr old niece, not inviting 16 yr old niece or 13 yr old nephew (all our other nieces an nephews are 10 or under, so def not inviting).

We are having a family dinner as opposed to a 'rehearsal dinner' at Dave & Busters so we could have a nice celebration with our nieces & nephews included.

BlondeJD Posted: Jan 05, 2004 10:37 AM

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My FI and I have already talked to my FMIL about this and she's great--totally on board and willing to handle any of their relatives who might have a problem with it. Our feeling is that we're having a Saturday night black tie wedding and it's not an appropriate place for a child--we're not even having a flowergirl or ring bearer. I think the fact that there aren't even children in the wedding party shows how serious we are about this. We're also paying for a large portion of the wedding and, quite honestly, I'm not about to pay $100 for a kid to eat at my wedding.

BoogieDownBride Posted: Jan 05, 2004 10:38 AM

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I am planning to just have my FGs (ages 1 1/2 and 4)....other than that no kids under 13. I am a little nervous about how to get this message across....I know you're not supposed to put it on any of the invites or anything....I just hope no one thinks because my FH's neices (the flower girls) are attending it means they can bring little kids too.....

kimmylyn Posted: Jan 05, 2004 10:58 AM

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I am having such a problem with this area.. Only because all my friends have kids that all consider me their Aunt. If I include all the kids of my friends and family it would add up to 50 people (that is kids alone, not parents!!)

I am having my nephews, and his nieces included in the wedding party (flowergirls and ring bearer). But that is all the kids I am having. I am getting grief from all ends on this topic. I would love to have them all there.. But it will be a kid overload if they all come.

And what stinks even more is that all those kids know i am getting married and they keep saying how they cannot wait to go.. UGH..

The whole situtation stinks.

nylisa Posted: Jan 05, 2004 11:02 AM

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My family is ok with this. They feel that a wedding is a place where adults should have a good time. MY FMIL hates the idea. We gave into her and are only having 2 little children there (my FI's two little cousins 8 and 11).

JZNCK Posted: Jan 05, 2004 11:04 AM

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We initially wanted children.. we love kids, but our families, said we were crazy. and we asked a few of our friends with kids, and they said they don't want to bring there kids, they want to leave their kids at home..