i have a odd situation. im a BM in a wedding coming up in may. the MOH has gone AWOL--her status is unknown at this point.
i want to throw her a bridal shower(because she deserves one!) but im unsure of the proper etiquette. ive heard of some showers that all BM chip in and others where the hostess pays for it in full. i dont know if this makes a difference but im closely related to bride.
any advice and locations (cheap but good food) welcomed!
dawnbon26
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It was my understanding that the whole bridal party split the cost of the shower. If I'm wrong, please correct me ladies.
JennieBee
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It was my understanding that the whole bridal party split the cost of the shower. If I'm wrong, please correct me ladies.
ive been in weddings where some asked and some didnt. but ive never actually was a host. just want to make sure im not being rude by asking.
bebita0830
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it can go either way. In my case my sisters paid for it but I've heard the bridal party splitting the cost. If u're close to her, I'd suggest talking to the other bridesmaids as well as the bride's mom/sisters and see if they have something planned already or if they'd like to plan something for them
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it can go either way. In my case my sisters paid for it but I've heard the bridal party splitting the cost. If u're close to her, I'd suggest talking to the other bridesmaids as well as the bride's mom/sisters and see if they have something planned already or if they'd like to plan something for them
im the sister (no other family member to help)...all along i was going to plan it with the MOH (shes a bit bossy, so it would of been me following her orders) I just wanted to know what's the right thing to do.
jassy119
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IMO the whole BP should chip in. Maybe even the mom also. One person shouldnt have to pay the whole bill.
renrico
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hmmm, good question. I don't know who is going to be planning mine and who is going to be paying for it...I hope they know to pay and plan cause some seem clueless...lol
JennieBee
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hmmm, good question. I don't know who is going to be planning mine and who is going to be paying for it...I hope they know to pay and plan cause some seem clueless...lol
im def clueless--gonna have to buy 'bridal shower for dummies' lololol
renrico
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haha...i'll ask around for you
JennieBee
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haha...i'll ask around for you
thanks!!
renrico
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ahaha, I'll ask around for you
renrico
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haha...i'll ask around for you
thanks!!
no problem!
LaurenT
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my mom is paying for mine..but if the mother of the bride is awol you can throw it for her..what about having it at your house and the bridesmaids each making food? that way you can keep the costs down and still make it nice and intimate!
JennieBee
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my mom is paying for mine..but if the mother of the bride is awol you can throw it for her..what about having it at your house and the bridesmaids each making food? that way you can keep the costs down and still make it nice and intimate!
i was definitely considering that route. its my sister so of course i wanna spoil her...but btwn my wedding and hers saving every penny counts lol
renrico
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my mom is paying for mine..but if the mother of the bride is awol you can throw it for her..what about having it at your house and the bridesmaids each making food? that way you can keep the costs down and still make it nice and intimate!
i think this is a very reasonable idea and makes a lot of sense...I wouldn't care if mine was held at my parents house
mjm2012
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with the exception of a friend who got married at 23 (her mom paid), i've always split the cost of the bridal shower with the bridesmaids.
JennieBee
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my mom is paying for mine..but if the mother of the bride is awol you can throw it for her..what about having it at your house and the bridesmaids each making food? that way you can keep the costs down and still make it nice and intimate!
i think this is a very reasonable idea and makes a lot of sense...I wouldn't care if mine was held at my parents house
thats good to know..seems like everyone has fancy ones these days. i wouldnt mind mine at the house either lol
renrico
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my mom is paying for mine..but if the mother of the bride is awol you can throw it for her..what about having it at your house and the bridesmaids each making food? that way you can keep the costs down and still make it nice and intimate!
i think this is a very reasonable idea and makes a lot of sense...I wouldn't care if mine was held at my parents house
thats good to know..seems like everyone has fancy ones these days. i wouldnt mind mine at the house either lol
Yea, I went to one at a girls house in the summer. It was nice outside and everyone brought something and a gift...it was fun and no pressure to fit it into a certain amount of time cause it was just at the house
JennieBee
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Posted by LaurenT
my mom is paying for mine..but if the mother of the bride is awol you can throw it for her..what about having it at your house and the bridesmaids each making food? that way you can keep the costs down and still make it nice and intimate!
i think this is a very reasonable idea and makes a lot of sense...I wouldn't care if mine was held at my parents house
thats good to know..seems like everyone has fancy ones these days. i wouldnt mind mine at the house either lol
Yea, I went to one at a girls house in the summer. It was nice outside and everyone brought something and a gift...it was fun and no pressure to fit it into a certain amount of time cause it was just at the house
thats what i really want to do have it outdoors -- its gonna be last weekend of march im praying for warm weather. so iffy around then.
renrico
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Posted by LaurenT
my mom is paying for mine..but if the mother of the bride is awol you can throw it for her..what about having it at your house and the bridesmaids each making food? that way you can keep the costs down and still make it nice and intimate!
i think this is a very reasonable idea and makes a lot of sense...I wouldn't care if mine was held at my parents house
thats good to know..seems like everyone has fancy ones these days. i wouldnt mind mine at the house either lol
Yea, I went to one at a girls house in the summer. It was nice outside and everyone brought something and a gift...it was fun and no pressure to fit it into a certain amount of time cause it was just at the house
thats what i really want to do have it outdoors -- its gonna be last weekend of march im praying for warm weather. so iffy around then.
