Time for LIW brides to be honest

Original post by myasmom

Jul 09, 2004 12:55 PM

I consider myself to have formed an online realtionship with many of you

With that said....
Is it me or has anyone else noticed that its the weddings that spent $$$$$ that get considered to be the best wedding ever but the ones that did not cost as much $$ or at lesser known places dont get the same raves.

This is not a personal attack or anything...just an observation, not only from myself but from other members who some of us havent even realized are not posting as frequently anymore...

I really htink that its time we all realize that its not the place, the flowers or anything like that that make a wedding beautiful. When u look at the pictures..are the guests smiling or is it just a pretty room...seriously...what do you think makes a wedding beautiful?

P>S I am not trying to start an argument or anything..just curious...I have gotten alot of FMS and just wanted to feel out some of my fellow brides & B2B's!

cluelessbride Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:19 PM

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Posted by Jordan

Posted by myasmom

All I am saying is..Is there a way we can make this environment welcoming to
ALL..big wedding or small? No one should feel like their post isnt appreciated... thats all...

You're going to get out of it, what you put into it. Like someone else mentioned, if your entire review is a paragraph long, with no pictures, how could you possibly expect the same amount of reactions and comments as someone who spent the time to write a page worth of reviews plus added tons of pictures?

very true

And what if I'm really excited about a particular wedding? There was a bride on here a while ago who had this really fantastic-looking reception, it was obvious she was very creative and I thought everything looked great. I told her so, and oooohed and ahhhhed over her photos. I was telling her how great I thought everything looked. So what if I don't do that for everyone? I don't expect it when I get married. It's a matter of opinion and also relationships.

MRSJLK Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:20 PM

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It's the couple getting married and how comfortable and welcoming they make you feel at their wedding. To me that is what makes a wedding beautiful.

It's so easy to get wrapped up in all the little details in a wedding and sometimes those little details are what costs the most - when in reality I feel that a great wedding is a wedding where one doesn't notice if you had roses or weeds on the table JMO

myasmom Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:21 PM

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You see..you just gave an example of why there are no responses..but honestly htis thread went into other areas than it originally intended.

september2004 Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:21 PM

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Posted by cluelessbride
It's a matter of opinion and also relationships.

i think you just hit the nail on the head...

LadyPrincess Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:22 PM

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Posted by myasmom

Cluelessbride..no offense I wasnt trying to say we should have banners and signs lol.

I meant...that some of us pointed out that regardless of if the wedding is big or small some chose not to post..and perhaps we should look to the reasons why and ofference any reassurance we can give..we are great at saying what tiara..dress..etc..this is so much mor eimportant.

DOES anyone not realize that some of the weddings we all gave input to have not yet been posted as a review..just think about that...as I cannot go into anymore details without dragging other peoplein and its not my palce to do that. I am not going any further as i tried to be the messenger and I got killed in hte process.

I glanced tha the Review baords & you have a point with all the past weddings - very little reviews etc ahhh well.....

DeadHorse 2 Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:26 PM

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eroxgirl Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:26 PM

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Posted by Robeymuse

I don't think it has to do with $$$ spent. I think the more active posters get more responses. People have folowed their planning and they want to see how everything turned out. the weddings seemed elaborate because we have heard about all the details!

that is absolutely the truth, and I'm guilty of it myself - personally, if you don't post pictures in your review, I can guarantee that I won't post on your thread, unless I have nothing else to do at the moment. It has nothing to do with the amount of money you spent on your wedding, for me.

Jordan Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:26 PM

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Posted by LadyPrincess

I glanced tha the Review baords & you have a point with all the past weddings - very little reviews etc ahhh well.....

What point?!?!?!

wc0143 Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:27 PM

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Posted by LadyPrincess

Posted by myasmom

Cluelessbride..no offense I wasnt trying to say we should have banners and signs lol.

I meant...that some of us pointed out that regardless of if the wedding is big or small some chose not to post..and perhaps we should look to the reasons why and ofference any reassurance we can give..we are great at saying what tiara..dress..etc..this is so much mor eimportant.

DOES anyone not realize that some of the weddings we all gave input to have not yet been posted as a review..just think about that...as I cannot go into anymore details without dragging other peoplein and its not my palce to do that. I am not going any further as i tried to be the messenger and I got killed in hte process.

I glanced tha the Review baords & you have a point with all the past weddings - very little reviews etc ahhh well.....

It also makes a HUGE difference when people post their REVIEW on BHB ...

holly231 Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:27 PM

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seriously, you get what you put into it, like someone said earlier..if you only post 1 paragraph, its hard to say much more than congrats I bet it was beautiful!

I look at alot of the pictures and posts, but make no comment...not becasue I do not think it is great, beautiful, etc...I just rather not...and I do not really read many reviews that are very long, I just skim them to see if I am using some of the vendors being used and the review of them...

Is it THAT big of a deal if I post on your review or not? Are you going to lose sleep over it?

I just prefer not to comment most times because it gets lost in all the other replys and you do not need my 2 cents as an outsiders comment on your special day...if you feel its special, than that is all that counts!!!!! Don;t worry about anyone else.

Aga Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:28 PM

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I think what mayasmom is trying to say is that we should be more considerate of other people's feeling because they are so easily hurt I know I say stupid things sometimes but they are not meant to hurt anyone, they are usually to express my frustrations...
but of course I could be wrong, and if I am I will just stop posting in this thread

DeadHorse 2 Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:31 PM

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This is a CHAT ROOM people.... Feelings are going to get bruised, intenionally or unintentionally........GET OVER IT!!!!

Did you ever think that people don't post their opinions because perhaps they don't have anything nice to say?

brideinapril Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:33 PM

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Posted by DeadHorse 2

This is a CHAT ROOM people.... Feelings are going to get bruised, intenionally or unintentionally........GET OVER IT!!!!

Did you ever think that people don't post their opinions because perhaps they don't have anything nice to say?

Who are you?

FLaCaTaCa Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:35 PM

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Posted by brideinapril

Posted by DeadHorse 2

This is a CHAT ROOM people.... Feelings are going to get bruised, intenionally or unintentionally........GET OVER IT!!!!

Did you ever think that people don't post their opinions because perhaps they don't have anything nice to say?

Who are you?

Yeh, who are you?

cluelessbride Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:36 PM

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Posted by wc0143

Posted by LadyPrincess

Posted by myasmom

Cluelessbride..no offense I wasnt trying to say we should have banners and signs lol.

I meant...that some of us pointed out that regardless of if the wedding is big or small some chose not to post..and perhaps we should look to the reasons why and ofference any reassurance we can give..we are great at saying what tiara..dress..etc..this is so much mor eimportant.

DOES anyone not realize that some of the weddings we all gave input to have not yet been posted as a review..just think about that...as I cannot go into anymore details without dragging other peoplein and its not my palce to do that. I am not going any further as i tried to be the messenger and I got killed in hte process.

I glanced tha the Review baords & you have a point with all the past weddings - very little reviews etc ahhh well.....

It also makes a HUGE difference when people post their REVIEW on BHB ...

Yeah!

xjulietx Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:40 PM

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Dead Horse reincarnate

FLaCaTaCa Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:41 PM

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Posted by xjulietx

Dead Horse reincarnate

What does that mean?

LadyPrincess Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:42 PM

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did anyone notice this thread got

77 replies & 1414 views

xjulietx Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:43 PM

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Posted by FLaCaTaCa

Posted by xjulietx

Dead Horse reincarnate

What does that mean?

A while back when there used to be TONS of drama around here, some clever person created an account name of Dead Horse and would use it to try to break up a fight as in 'don't beat a dead horse'