to all those who have had weddings or are getting married -
i recently started discussing with a few friends and family members about how much they tipped at their weddings to vendors (they all got married within 2 years) to my shock - they were shocked that I was even thinking of giving tips to vendors!!!
has anyone else talked to any non liw people who have gotten married lately? is this really the norm? im curious...
their reasoning being you are paying people enough for their services and that in most cases the people who they contracted owned their businesses ...
thoughts?
Espo22
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Everybody i know has tipped, dont know anybody who hasn't. Maybe not tipping certain ppl but otherwise they definitely gave tips out the day of
tinaval
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Posted by Espo22
Everybody i know has tipped, dont know anybody who hasn't. Maybe not tipping certain ppl but otherwise they definitely gave tips out the day of
well maybe i should be more specific... they tipped hair/makeup people and people at church, and reception hall people... not dj or photog or limo thooo
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Posted by tinaval
to all those who have had weddings or are getting married -
i recently started discussing with a few friends and family members about how much they tipped at their weddings to vendors (they all got married within 2 years) to my shock - they were shocked that I was even thinking of giving tips to vendors!!!
has anyone else talked to any non liw people who have gotten married lately? is this really the norm? im curious...
their reasoning being you are paying people enough for their services and that in most cases the people who they contracted owned their businesses ...
thoughts?
It's so funny you say this...I JUST had a convo with my dad (not really in the wedding loop) and asked why we're tipping everyone...limos are a given and bridal attendant and Maitre D yes but no one else should be tipped in his opinion...I have to say...I kinda agree with him.
What do you plan to do tinaval?
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to all those who have had weddings or are getting married -
i recently started discussing with a few friends and family members about how much they tipped at their weddings to vendors (they all got married within 2 years) to my shock - they were shocked that I was even thinking of giving tips to vendors!!!
has anyone else talked to any non liw people who have gotten married lately? is this really the norm? im curious...
their reasoning being you are paying people enough for their services and that in most cases the people who they contracted owned their businesses ...
thoughts?
It's so funny you say this...I JUST had a convo with my dad (not really in the wedding loop) and asked why we're tipping everyone...limos are a given and bridal attendant and Maitre D yes but no one else should be tipped in his opinion...I have to say...I kinda agree with him.
What do you plan to do tinaval?
i think im not going to tip others - just bridal attendant, limos and hair and makeup people....
it kinda makes sense what other peoples reasoning was what are u gonna do
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We are tipping all of the above and also the guy who delivers the flowers
MyLobster
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Posted by tinaval i think im not going to tip others - just bridal attendant, limos and hair and makeup people....
it kinda makes sense what other peoples reasoning was what are u gonna do
I am planning on tipping: bridal attendant & maitre d (set in my contract) limos hair makeup edited to add florist delivery person
Not tipping: band organist at church CH pianist photo video florist
I think that's it. Did I miss anyone?
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I asked my florist if people tip.........she said that it would be ok to just order a pizza for them one day when everyone is there.
tinaval
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Posted by tinaval i think im not going to tip others - just bridal attendant, limos and hair and makeup people....
it kinda makes sense what other peoples reasoning was what are u gonna do
I am planning on tipping: bridal attendant & maitre d (set in my contract) limos hair makeup edited to add florist delivery person
Not tipping: band organist at church CH pianist photo video florist
I think that's it. Did I miss anyone?
thats exactly what im going to do... except who ever delivers the flowers prob give em 20 bucks or so....
i feel a lot better about it now... i thought i was the norm to give out at least 150 in tips to each person... but im on a budget!!!
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thats exactly what im going to do... except who ever delivers the flowers prob give em 20 bucks or so....
i feel a lot better about it now... i thought i was the norm to give out at least 150 in tips to each person... but im on a budget!!!
I added the flower delivery...good point!
We are paying an arm and a leg for vendors...they are ALL making a KILLING already so I don't believe the tip is necessary. JMO
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thats exactly what im going to do... except who ever delivers the flowers prob give em 20 bucks or so....
i feel a lot better about it now... i thought i was the norm to give out at least 150 in tips to each person... but im on a budget!!!
I added the flower delivery...good point!
We are paying an arm and a leg for vendors...they are ALL making a KILLING already so I don't believe the tip is necessary. JMO
no i have to agree!
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Everybody i know has tipped, dont know anybody who hasn't. Maybe not tipping certain ppl but otherwise they definitely gave tips out the day of
well maybe i should be more specific... they tipped hair/makeup people and people at church, and reception hall people... not dj or photog or limo thooo
yes i understood you. Sorry i meant that some people have their own ideas about someone that might not need to get tipped. Not that theres specific things alot of ppl feel the same way about not tipping.
Its up to you, i did tip DJ, photographer and limo. Just do whatever youre comfortable with
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Hi date twin!!!!
36 DAYS!!! are you ready?
I think i will tip the hair/make-up, limo but i don't know who else??
jcslady
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Hi date twin!!!!
36 DAYS!!! are you ready?
I think i will tip the hair/make-up, limo but i don't know who else??
oh and maitr d (sp?)
tinaval
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Hi date twin!!!!
36 DAYS!!! are you ready?
I think i will tip the hair/make-up, limo but i don't know who else??
oh and maitr d (sp?)
omg i cant believe how close we are!!! i cant wait for our honeymoon!!
jcslady
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Hi date twin!!!!
36 DAYS!!! are you ready?
I think i will tip the hair/make-up, limo but i don't know who else??
oh and maitr d (sp?)
omg i cant believe how close we are!!! i cant wait for our honeymoon!!
i know i am soooo excited! did you have your fittings yet?
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So, it is ok to not tip the dj, photo and video guy? aren't you afraid they might mess with your pics? the limo usually includes the 20% grat, which we paid in the contract. I feel like everyone expects tips, even to go so far as to say people in the grocery stores. It is so much.
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i told FH that I dont think we should tip the DJ, video and photo guys. (but tip the photo assistant).
they are the owners. and we're already paying so much!
he called me a CHEAP A S S!
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Tina, my mom said trhe SAME thing to me the other day - that the only people that really should be tipped are the maitre d, bridal attendant, and hair/makeup. I was planning on tipping band and photog... but my band works for themselves, so I know they take home everything they are paid, and photog ... he works for a big co., so I would like to tip a bit ... who knows. but i think the difference is a *PERSONAL* service (hair, makeup, even bridal attendant and maitre d who are attending to your every need) vs. a job you hire someone to do that's not so much personal ... i mean i guess they all are, but it seems a little different to me.
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Posted by wundmoretime
So, it is ok to not tip the dj, photo and video guy? aren't you afraid they might mess with your pics? the limo usually includes the 20% grat, which we paid in the contract. I feel like everyone expects tips, even to go so far as to say people in the grocery stores. It is so much.
good point. After the wedding its not like youre done with them and wont see them again. You still need to get your pics and video from them lol
