To find out the sex or not?

My husband and I are trying to decide whether we should find out the sex of the baby. Can you share your opinions on the pros and cons of finding out the sex vs. keeping it a surprise? This will be our 3rd child.

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Posted by Butterflybride

The main reason DH and I wanted to find out the sex of the baby was so we could be prepared. I didn't want to paint the nursery in neutral colors and have neutral bedding and I didn't want clothing in neutral colors either. While it would've been nice to have to surprise, I'm the type of person that likes having things done ahead of time and now that I know I'm having a boy, I'm going to paint his room and buy bedding that's boy-oriented, so it's ready for him when he comes home.

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We are pretty much on the same wavelength Kristin...

I wouldn't mind keeping it a surprise, but DH insists on finding out when the time comes since ihe is WAY too imaptient

We're finding out for this one even though DH doesn't want to but I told him for our second it can be a surprise.
Sorry that's not much help is it

i'm not pg yet but dh insists he wants to know but i don't think i would. i heard a line from a movie that made sense...it is kind of like knowing your christmas present before it is put under the tree. but all that could change when the time comes.

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Posted by jpsgirl

We did not find out and I would never have it any other way!! Who cares about neutral colors!! This is the biggest surprise of your entire lives! That second right after the delivery when I looked down and saw that Angela was a girl was such an experience! At first we thought we would find out for the next one, but no way! I strongly recommend waiting, it was so worth it!

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Agreed.

Well, this is our first and being that I got pg on the pill, well...that was surprise enough for us, thank you very much.

I always thought I would want a surprise, but I really couldn't wait to find out the sex of the baby. And not because of nursery or clothing colors, I could care less about that stuff... but because it's nice to be able to try (futile though it may be) to prepare yourself for the joys and hurdles of parenthood and girls and boys ARE different. It also helps with picking out a name and just trying to adjust to the idea that you are going to have a child to be able to attach a gender to the baby. We really needed that. We are control freaks too, so that's part of it.



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It's so funny that you posted this. I was just going to post the same thing. I go on April 20th for my level two and the suspense is killing me....but I think I'm going to try and be patient for the first time in my life an wait because like someone mentioned earliar.....it's the biggest suprise you'll ever have in your life. Let us know what you decide!

Thank you for all your opinions. I was re-living that moment in the delivery room when the baby is almost out and you just hold your breath waiting to hear the news. Your comments definitely helped me make the decision to NOT find out, the surprise element is priceless! Thanks ladies!! Good luck to all of you!!!

We are not finding out. That to me is part of the great fun of having a baby.
IMO when you get the phone call that a baby is born if you already know boy/girl & the name there's some part of the excitement gone. Don't get me wrong your still excited that the new baby is here. It's just looses the suspense. Am I making sense?

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Posted by IrishTracy

We are not finding out. That to me is part of the great fun of having a baby.
IMO when you get the phone call that a baby is born if you already know boy/girl & the name there's some part of the excitement gone. Don't get me wrong your still excited that the new baby is here. It's just looses the suspense. Am I making sense?

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Agreed! We are not finding out either. Both of us want to live that excitement when the doctor yells out what the sex is after laboring. Every part of pregnancy is a surprise and exciting - but for us that'll be the crowning moment

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Posted by jcndd

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Posted by IrishTracy

We are not finding out. That to me is part of the great fun of having a baby.
IMO when you get the phone call that a baby is born if you already know boy/girl & the name there's some part of the excitement gone. Don't get me wrong your still excited that the new baby is here. It's just looses the suspense. Am I making sense?

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Agreed! We are not finding out either. Both of us want to live that excitement when the doctor yells out what the sex is after laboring. Every part of pregnancy is a surprise and exciting - but for us that'll be the crowning moment

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I agree. Someone I know once said There are so few truly wonderful surprises in life, why would you deprive yourself of it? I totally agree!

Also, as far as doing the nursery in neutral colors, I think that also depends on how much space you have. If you're planning on another baby after your first and planning to use the same nursery, it makes sense to do things neutral anyway because you never know what the sex of the next one will be.

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Posted by jcndd

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Posted by IrishTracy

We are not finding out. That to me is part of the great fun of having a baby.
IMO when you get the phone call that a baby is born if you already know boy/girl & the name there's some part of the excitement gone. Don't get me wrong your still excited that the new baby is here. It's just looses the suspense. Am I making sense?

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Agreed! We are not finding out either. Both of us want to live that excitement when the doctor yells out what the sex is after laboring. Every part of pregnancy is a surprise and exciting - but for us that'll be the crowning moment

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Same here...I go for my Levell II next week and we are not finding out!!

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Posted by Butterflybride

The main reason DH and I wanted to find out the sex of the baby was so we could be prepared. I didn't want to paint the nursery in neutral colors and have neutral bedding and I didn't want clothing in neutral colors either. While it would've been nice to have to surprise, I'm the type of person that likes having things done ahead of time and now that I know I'm having a boy, I'm going to paint his room and buy bedding that's boy-oriented, so it's ready for him when he comes home.

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I agree! I have to be prepared for when the baby arrives.

My husband insists we find out the sex. Actually, he said HE is finding out the sex but I don't have to (yeah right ). He wants to be prepared. He said it doesn't want his child in all yellow and green outfits . I didn't want to at first but our level II is on April 13 and now I can't wait to find out.............soooooo exciting