To see each other before OR not to see each other before??/

Ok we originally and I still want it this way do NOT want to see each other before we get married.


However, last night at our meeting with photog he gave us the option and explained how seeing each other before is beneficial in a lot of ways.

I am not willing to change my mind however FH now wants to see each other before...


SOOOOOoo does anyone have pictures of either you, your friends, family etc... seeing each other before they got married??

I understand how you feel and we are not seeing each other before HOWEVER we have 4 hours inbetween to take pictures.

If I was getting married at the hall I would be open to this idea. You can get your pictures finished and everything.

From people I know who have done it said it does not take away from him seeing you walking down the aisle and vise versa.

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Posted by Lori-Chris2008

Ok we originally and I still want it this way do NOT want to see each other before we get married.


However, last night at our meeting with photog he gave us the option and explained how seeing each other before is beneficial in a lot of ways.

I am not willing to change my mind however FH now wants to see each other before...


SOOOOOoo does anyone have pictures of either you, your friends, family etc... seeing each other before they got married??

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what time is your ceremony and what time is your reception? i think this is what it all comes down to

if your reception is soon after the ceremony then yes it makes alot of sense to take pics beforehand.

I had a big gap about 4 1/2 hours so wouldnt have made sense to see eachother before bc then what would we have done with those 4 1/2 hours. Plus my ceremony was at 2:30pm had to leave my house at 2pm. I started getting ready at 10am and my mom and moh got their hair and make up done at my house also, so if we wouldve taken pictures before then i wouldve had to start getting ready alot earlier and there was no reason why i had to do this.

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Posted by anneandchris

I understand how you feel and we are not seeing each other before HOWEVER we have 4 hours inbetween to take pictures.

If I was getting married at the hall I would be open to this idea. You can get your pictures finished and everything.

From people I know who have done it said it does not take away from him seeing you walking down the aisle and vise versa.

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I know the time factor thing and totally get it.. (chris will love you for it LOL) but i just always wanted that moment going down the aisle, everyone there watching, the music playing.. lol i am such a sap lol...

I keep telling him he has been in so many weddings and no one ever saw each other before and it all worked out...

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Lori-Chris2008

Ok we originally and I still want it this way do NOT want to see each other before we get married.


However, last night at our meeting with photog he gave us the option and explained how seeing each other before is beneficial in a lot of ways.

I am not willing to change my mind however FH now wants to see each other before...


SOOOOOoo does anyone have pictures of either you, your friends, family etc... seeing each other before they got married??

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what time is your ceremony and what time is your reception? i think this is what it all comes down to

if your reception is soon after the ceremony then yes it makes alot of sense to take pics beforehand.

I had a big gap about 4 1/2 hours so wouldnt have made sense to see eachother before bc then what would we have done with those 4 1/2 hours. Plus my ceremony was at 2:30pm had to leave my house at 2pm. I started getting ready at 10am and my mom and moh got their hair and make up done at my house also, so if we wouldve taken pictures before then i wouldve had to start getting ready alot earlier and there was no reason why i had to do this.

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I just dont want what i always wanted change because of more time for us ya know?

our ceremony is at 6:30pm and cocktail hour is at 7pm so right after each other.. but i never planned to be at cocktail hour...

I dont think i will budge but FH asked me to take a look at some photos of ppl who have seen each other before hand and see how they look and so on.. so I told him I would ask you ladies for opinions hehehehehe.. he goes 'go ask your LI crew' lol

Tons of brides on here have done the 'seeing before' thing to have more time for pics. This however was one thing DH and I refused to bend on. If we didn't have as much time for pics during our break between ceremony and reception time so be it. I guess it really comes down to how much of a priority having pics vs. not seeing one another is.

Seeing DH at the end of the aisle for the first time was a great moment for me I wasn't willing to give up

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Posted by ant090608

I want him to see me for the first time coming down the aisle. We will make time for pics later on!

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Thats how i feel. like we are not the only ones who have not seen each other before and everyone gets there pics done.. He is just worried that ppl will not be attentive when its time for pics while cocktail is going on but i told him we are all adults its not like we have all 7yr olds in the wedding party, ppl know its a wedding and pictures are a must.

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Posted by empressdani

Tons of brides on here have done the 'seeing before' thing to have more time for pics. This however was one thing DH and I refused to bend on. If we didn't have as much time for pics during our break between ceremony and reception time so be it. I guess it really comes down to how much of a priority having pics vs. not seeing one another is.

Seeing DH at the end of the aisle for the first time was a great moment for me I wasn't willing to give up

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what you just said: 'Seeing DH at the end of the aisle for the first time was a great moment for me I wasn't willing to give up'

THATS exactly how I feel....

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Posted by Lori-Chris2008

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Posted by anneandchris

I understand how you feel and we are not seeing each other before HOWEVER we have 4 hours inbetween to take pictures.

If I was getting married at the hall I would be open to this idea. You can get your pictures finished and everything.

From people I know who have done it said it does not take away from him seeing you walking down the aisle and vise versa.

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I know the time factor thing and totally get it.. (chris will love you for it LOL) but i just always wanted that moment going down the aisle, everyone there watching, the music playing.. lol i am such a sap lol...

I keep telling him he has been in so many weddings and no one ever saw each other before and it all worked out...

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i understand this: 'just always wanted that moment going down the aisle, everyone there watching, the music playing' b/c that is how i also felt - but i also wanted a dope photographer and nice pictures and it just makes much more sense to see eachother before to get our moneys worth of photography AND moneys worth with the RH as well b/c we wont miss anything if our pictures are done beforehand....i think of it this way - the first time my FH sees me it will be private moment between just the two of us - its going to be really special and it will be a 'moment'...then later on when the doors to the ceremony open and he sees me standing with my dad, walking towards him to marry him - that is STILL going to be another 'moment' so instead of just getting ONE moment like that i feel like we are getting TWO which makes me i think my FHs heart is going to skip a beat when he sees me walk down that aisle regardless of if he saw me earlier in the day - and the same for me, i dont think it will be any less emotional

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Posted by Lori-Chris2008

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Lori-Chris2008

Ok we originally and I still want it this way do NOT want to see each other before we get married.


However, last night at our meeting with photog he gave us the option and explained how seeing each other before is beneficial in a lot of ways.

I am not willing to change my mind however FH now wants to see each other before...


SOOOOOoo does anyone have pictures of either you, your friends, family etc... seeing each other before they got married??

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what time is your ceremony and what time is your reception? i think this is what it all comes down to

if your reception is soon after the ceremony then yes it makes alot of sense to take pics beforehand.

I had a big gap about 4 1/2 hours so wouldnt have made sense to see eachother before bc then what would we have done with those 4 1/2 hours. Plus my ceremony was at 2:30pm had to leave my house at 2pm. I started getting ready at 10am and my mom and moh got their hair and make up done at my house also, so if we wouldve taken pictures before then i wouldve had to start getting ready alot earlier and there was no reason why i had to do this.

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I just dont want what i always wanted change because of more time for us ya know?

our ceremony is at 6:30pm and cocktail hour is at 7pm so right after each other.. but i never planned to be at cocktail hour...

I dont think i will budge but FH asked me to take a look at some photos of ppl who have seen each other before hand and see how they look and so on.. so I told him I would ask you ladies for opinions hehehehehe.. he goes 'go ask your LI crew' lol

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are you taking pictures at the RH or planning on going elsewhere to take pics. Just want to say that my pics took a bit over 2 hours, and you really dont want to rush through your pics bc then you'll regret after that theres alot of pics you didnt get to take bc maybe you were rushed.

ive seen alot of girls post pics of seeing eachother before the ceremony and it looked very emotional and sweet.

Its a hard decision because i see how much you want to see him for the first time walking down the aisle. If you dont mind taking all your pics in an hour then i guess its fine. But like i said keep in mind that pics can take a while. You'll want lots of pics with you and your fh, you'll want bp pics, you'll need to get pics of you and your family and his family.

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Posted by Future Mulligan

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Posted by Lori-Chris2008

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Posted by anneandchris

I understand how you feel and we are not seeing each other before HOWEVER we have 4 hours inbetween to take pictures.

If I was getting married at the hall I would be open to this idea. You can get your pictures finished and everything.

From people I know who have done it said it does not take away from him seeing you walking down the aisle and vise versa.

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I know the time factor thing and totally get it.. (chris will love you for it LOL) but i just always wanted that moment going down the aisle, everyone there watching, the music playing.. lol i am such a sap lol...

I keep telling him he has been in so many weddings and no one ever saw each other before and it all worked out...

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i understand this: 'just always wanted that moment going down the aisle, everyone there watching, the music playing' b/c that is how i also felt - but i also wanted a dope photographer and nice pictures and it just makes much more sense to see eachother before to get our moneys worth of photography AND moneys worth with the RH as well b/c we wont miss anything if our pictures are done beforehand....i think of it this way - the first time my FH sees me it will be private moment between just the two of us - its going to be really special and it will be a 'moment'...then later on when the doors to the ceremony open and he sees me standing with my dad, walking towards him to marry him - that is STILL going to be another 'moment' so instead of just getting ONE moment like that i feel like we are getting TWO which makes me i think my FHs heart is going to skip a beat when he sees me walk down that aisle regardless of if he saw me earlier in the day - and the same for me, i dont think it will be any less emotional

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very very true.. that is why i am like ok i will give it a thought.. do you know of any pictures of ppl doing the seeing before thing?

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Posted by Lori-Chris2008

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Posted by Future Mulligan

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Posted by Lori-Chris2008

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Posted by anneandchris

I understand how you feel and we are not seeing each other before HOWEVER we have 4 hours inbetween to take pictures.

If I was getting married at the hall I would be open to this idea. You can get your pictures finished and everything.

From people I know who have done it said it does not take away from him seeing you walking down the aisle and vise versa.

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I know the time factor thing and totally get it.. (chris will love you for it LOL) but i just always wanted that moment going down the aisle, everyone there watching, the music playing.. lol i am such a sap lol...

I keep telling him he has been in so many weddings and no one ever saw each other before and it all worked out...

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i understand this: 'just always wanted that moment going down the aisle, everyone there watching, the music playing' b/c that is how i also felt - but i also wanted a dope photographer and nice pictures and it just makes much more sense to see eachother before to get our moneys worth of photography AND moneys worth with the RH as well b/c we wont miss anything if our pictures are done beforehand....i think of it this way - the first time my FH sees me it will be private moment between just the two of us - its going to be really special and it will be a 'moment'...then later on when the doors to the ceremony open and he sees me standing with my dad, walking towards him to marry him - that is STILL going to be another 'moment' so instead of just getting ONE moment like that i feel like we are getting TWO which makes me i think my FHs heart is going to skip a beat when he sees me walk down that aisle regardless of if he saw me earlier in the day - and the same for me, i dont think it will be any less emotional

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very very true.. that is why i am like ok i will give it a thought.. do you know of any pictures of ppl doing the seeing before thing?

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i know quite a few couples did this, let me see if find the pics

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Lori-Chris2008

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Lori-Chris2008

Ok we originally and I still want it this way do NOT want to see each other before we get married.


However, last night at our meeting with photog he gave us the option and explained how seeing each other before is beneficial in a lot of ways.

I am not willing to change my mind however FH now wants to see each other before...


SOOOOOoo does anyone have pictures of either you, your friends, family etc... seeing each other before they got married??

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what time is your ceremony and what time is your reception? i think this is what it all comes down to

if your reception is soon after the ceremony then yes it makes alot of sense to take pics beforehand.

I had a big gap about 4 1/2 hours so wouldnt have made sense to see eachother before bc then what would we have done with those 4 1/2 hours. Plus my ceremony was at 2:30pm had to leave my house at 2pm. I started getting ready at 10am and my mom and moh got their hair and make up done at my house also, so if we wouldve taken pictures before then i wouldve had to start getting ready alot earlier and there was no reason why i had to do this.

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I just dont want what i always wanted change because of more time for us ya know?

our ceremony is at 6:30pm and cocktail hour is at 7pm so right after each other.. but i never planned to be at cocktail hour...

I dont think i will budge but FH asked me to take a look at some photos of ppl who have seen each other before hand and see how they look and so on.. so I told him I would ask you ladies for opinions hehehehehe.. he goes 'go ask your LI crew' lol

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are you taking pictures at the RH or planning on going elsewhere to take pics. Just want to say that my pics took a bit over 2 hours, and you really dont want to rush through your pics bc then you'll regret after that theres alot of pics you didnt get to take bc maybe you were rushed.

ive seen alot of girls post pics of seeing eachother before the ceremony and it looked very emotional and sweet.

Its a hard decision because i see how much you want to see him for the first time walking down the aisle. If you dont mind taking all your pics in an hour then i guess its fine. But like i said keep in mind that pics can take a while. You'll want lots of pics with you and your fh, you'll want bp pics, you'll need to get pics of you and your family and his family.

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I think we are just staying at the reception hall for the pics. so many places there. *keep fingers crossed for good weather* lol...

thats a very good argument also about time and not wanting to be rushed..

Can you possible bump or any names of the girls on here who have pics of seeing each other before?

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Posted by Lori-Chris2008


I think we are just staying at the reception hall for the pics. so many places there. *keep fingers crossed for good weather* lol...

thats a very good argument also about time and not wanting to be rushed..

Can you possible bump or any names of the girls on here who have pics of seeing each other before?

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yeah bc otherwise youll have 10-15 mins for pics with your families maybe you can do it quicker though. Figure another 15 mins for pics with bp, and then that leaves you about half an hour to take pics with just the two of you. I know how you feel about seeing eachother the first time walking down the aisle, that was very important to me too. BUt the pictures were also very important to me, im sure it would've been a hard decision if i didnt have alot of time in between.

here is one pic of jennandrolo seeing eachother before the ceremony, im trying to remember who else did this

lori - only do it if you are comfortable with the idea - i totally understand why some people wait and you shouldnt feel pressured to see eachother beforehand if you dont want too....i had over a year to think about it so ive gotten really comfortable with the idea

i have heard brides say they wish they had more time for pics or say that they wish they saw their CH or attended it

i havent heard any brides that said they regretted seeing eachother first

my FSIL missed her entire CH, she didnt even get to see how it looked b/c she was too busy taking family pics and pics with her DH - thinking about the chaos that day and what happened to her made me really want to get things over with earlier on in the day so we could relax from the ceremony on....

im trying to think - i know there were quite a few 07 girls who saw eachother first.....i just cant remember who