To those of you who didn't have an eparty...

Did you register before you sent out your annoucements or did you just hope they would send money or other gifts on their own?? FH and I thought that maybe since our families are pretty generous gift givers that maybe we would do ok just sending out annoucements with no registry..apparently we were wrong lol we have barely received anything from anyone!!!
Am I sounding too selfish??

We didn't have a party....

We sent out our Save The Dates in March & registered soon after. Apparently, my family was waiting for us to register to get us some items...

I'm sorry you didn't get the reaction you wanted!!!

We did have a website that we included on the std's though and the website had our registry info....

We didnt have an engagement party. We didnt send out announcements. We registered right away, in case anyone wanted to get us an enagement gift.. but noone did.

well when we announced our engagement some people gave us an engagement card. But no presents or money.

We did have an e-party though in June (about 9 months after being engaged) and we received gifts and money- but didnt register. But I also didnt have the e-party to get those things. I mainly had it to have our friends and family celebrate with us and also because FH was going to Japan for a year and I know his family wouldnt see him alot before he left so that was another reason for the party.

IMHO I dont think you should expect to get some gifts or $ because you send our announcements

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Posted by Espo22

GOOD you didn't...Youre NOT supposed to ever send out your own registry. The only time it is acceptable is when someone is throwing you the shower, but theyre throwing it for you so its not you asking for the gifts...Even e-parties youre not supposed to be your registry in there

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Yea thank goodness you didnt., that would have been pretty bad. You 'll get your gifts at your shower.

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Posted by Mizzdimple

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Posted by Espo22

GOOD you didn't...Youre NOT supposed to ever send out your own registry. The only time it is acceptable is when someone is throwing you the shower, but theyre throwing it for you so its not you asking for the gifts...Even e-parties youre not supposed to be your registry in there

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Yea thank goodness you didnt., that would have been pretty bad. You 'll get your gifts at your shower.

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All the engagement parties I've been to have included their registry info in the invitation! So i just thought that was standard lol I guess I dont know much about this stuff

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Posted by Kris109

umm...I don't want to sound rude, but, I didn't have an e party, because I don't believe in them...and we got a handful of engagement gifts, from our aunts, but I felt very awkward even taking them. I really don't believe in engagement gifts either. I think too much focus has shifted to gifts...you get an engagement gift, a shower gift, then a wedding gift? I don't think it's right. I think an engagement announcement...is pretty much asking for a gift...IMHO, the people who need to know...got the phone call the night you said yes...

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You dont sound rude...FH was so completely against the idea of an engagement party, so i compromised and said fine we wont have one, but i just want to announce it somehow anyway. So thats when we printed up announcements and sent them out. I know most of my family cant afford an engagement gift, shower and wedding gift...

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Posted by dajc23

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Posted by Mizzdimple

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Posted by Espo22

GOOD you didn't...Youre NOT supposed to ever send out your own registry. The only time it is acceptable is when someone is throwing you the shower, but theyre throwing it for you so its not you asking for the gifts...Even e-parties youre not supposed to be your registry in there

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Yea thank goodness you didnt., that would have been pretty bad. You 'll get your gifts at your shower.

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All the engagement parties I've been to have included their registry info in the invitation! So i just thought that was standard lol I guess I dont know much about this stuff

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well they were wrong for doing it...Honestly if i got an invitation for an e-party with registry info in there i would be like OH NO they dont know how wrong this is do they.

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Posted by dajc23

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Posted by Mizzdimple

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Posted by Espo22

GOOD you didn't...Youre NOT supposed to ever send out your own registry. The only time it is acceptable is when someone is throwing you the shower, but theyre throwing it for you so its not you asking for the gifts...Even e-parties youre not supposed to be your registry in there

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Yea thank goodness you didnt., that would have been pretty bad. You 'll get your gifts at your shower.

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All the engagement parties I've been to have included their registry info in the invitation! So i just thought that was standard lol I guess I dont know much about this stuff

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Oooh really.....strange...

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Posted by Mizzdimple

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Posted by dajc23

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Posted by Mizzdimple

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Posted by Espo22

GOOD you didn't...Youre NOT supposed to ever send out your own registry. The only time it is acceptable is when someone is throwing you the shower, but theyre throwing it for you so its not you asking for the gifts...Even e-parties youre not supposed to be your registry in there

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Yea thank goodness you didnt., that would have been pretty bad. You 'll get your gifts at your shower.

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All the engagement parties I've been to have included their registry info in the invitation! So i just thought that was standard lol I guess I dont know much about this stuff

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Oooh really.....strange...

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yeah ive seen it and let me tell you it was greatly discussed about, in a negative way

I didnt have an E Party and just sent the STD's.
Only one person gave us a gift card and that was more than we were expecting so we didnt mind at all

Ok I feel better now..I swear though I have never received an invitation or engagement announcements withOUT registry info...I honestly thought it was what people did.
That's why I loveeeeeeeeee this website. I learn more and more everyday
Thanks girls!!

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Posted by dajc23

Ok I feel better now..I swear though I have never received an invitation or engagement announcements withOUT registry info...I honestly thought it was what people did.
That's why I loveeeeeeeeee this website. I learn more and more everyday
Thanks girls!!

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ive seen it too and its understandable if thats what you saw. I understand some girls dont go on websites, but they say it in wedding magazines all the time, etiquette books. I mean when ppl plan a wedding dont they read all these things