Toady is the anniversary of my brothers death and I can't help but worry about my other brother!

Boop2704 Posted: May 25, 2004 10:40 AM

Toady is the anniversary of my brothers death and I can't help but worry about my other brother!

Today is 8 years since my older brother passed away. It is a difficult time every year, but this year is a bit tougher because I am worried about my younger brother. He gets very depressed this time of year and I am scared for him. I am not affraid he'll do something to himself, but I am affraid his ex-girlfriend is going to do something to him. He was dating a girl, 10 years older than him, last week he broke up with her and she won't stop calling, text messaging of following him. Yesterday she came screeching around the corner at my moms, went up on the curb and sped down the block. My brother started screaming at her, because we have tons of children on the block. He told her to get the heck out of there or he was going to call the cops. She left, and a bit later my brother left. He was driving on a road and all of a sudden this psycho came speeding up to his bumper and then went into on coming traffic to get next to him to tell him she wanted to talk to him. He turned down a side street to try and lose her and next thing he knows she pulls up next to him at a stop sign. He took of and thought he lost her. Then he was on hempstead turnpike and she pulls up next to him again, she supposedly ran onto the curb and he took off. She threatened to go to his hockey game last night, but he told her not to go becaue I would be there. I am begging him to call the cops if she comes near him again. She is a complete psycho. I think I posted on here when he started dating her how I was worried, I just had a bad feeling about her, and I was right. I am so affraid that she is going to do something to him, like run him off the road or something and I don't know what to do. My brother is extremely upset right now, still dealing with the loss of his own brother and does not need this psycho daisy may bothering him right now or ever. I begged his friend last night to call the cops if she comes near him. I am just affraid that she will push him to the edge and he'll hit her, which he is not a violent kid, but with all the pressure he is under, he might snap if she gets to him. And I feel this is what she wants, she wants him to do something to her, just so she can hurt him back. I am just really scared. I already lost one brother, I don't want to lose another.

cocoa Posted: May 25, 2004 10:45 AM

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wow...

Anniegrl Posted: May 25, 2004 10:47 AM

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OMG what a total psycho! All I can say is that your brother needs to be strong. This idiot girl will eventually give up. So sorry about your other brother

shelly3950 Posted: May 25, 2004 10:49 AM

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I don't know what to say. I'm so sorry for you and your family. The only thing I can think of to recommend is to see if you can see him today and spend time with him. My dad passed away and the last day I spoke to him was my birthday. My grandfather died three days before my birthday- it is a very stressful time for me. WHat we do in my family is spend time together so it can be healing and just what they would want. I hope your brother will be all right.

BMD'sPeanut Posted: May 25, 2004 10:51 AM

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i'm sorry...

try to encourage him to get a restraining order...it's pretty simple to do and will give peace of mind...

it's quite natural that you would have all these anxoius feelings at this time...

take it easy...

FeliciaDA Posted: May 25, 2004 10:51 AM

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First of all, I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm sending you many hugs on this difficult day

I do not blame you for being worried about your little brother, this ex-girlfriend of his sounds like a TOTAL psycho! You did the right thing by telling his friends that perhaps they should (on his behalf) contact the police if this continues .. He might even need to get a restraining order against her if this crazy behavior continues! Do anything, whatever it takes, to keep her away!

Does he still harbour feeling for her? I hope not, or else this is going to become more difficult if he doesn't want to take the steps necesary to keep her away.

I feel so very badly about this sitaution, but try to drill it into him that he cannot let his past feeling towards his EX justify this woman's erratic behavior towards him

I know there are no easy anwers, its an emotionally charged situation, compounded by the fact its the anniversary of your other brother's death, and I'm sure your brother is an emotional wreck.

I cannot offer any other advice really, just try to stay strong and good luck .. I hope things improve and this total nutjob ex-girlfriend stays the HE!! away once and for all!

Boop2704 Posted: May 25, 2004 10:52 AM

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Thank you! I took the day off today, and i am heading over to my moms to stay with him all day in a little bit. I am his big sis and feel I have to protect him. So if psycho decides to show up while I am there, she will be leaving in cuffs.

BMD'sPeanut Posted: May 25, 2004 10:55 AM

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Posted by Boop2704
So if psycho decides to show up while I am there, she will be leaving in cuffs.

Yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!

Jan05Bride Posted: May 25, 2004 10:57 AM

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WOW. I just want to say

Kriss2c Posted: May 25, 2004 11:00 AM

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I think you spending the day with him is a good move. I'm so sorry for your loss. I do hope that the problem with his ex leaves very quickly.

aliciahelene Posted: May 25, 2004 11:01 AM

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Can yoru brother get a restraining order on that wacko!!

Boop2704 Posted: May 25, 2004 11:09 AM

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Posted by aliciahelene

Can yoru brother get a restraining order on that wacko!!

Well, he can, but he really does not want to have to do that because he is in the process of trying to get into the police department and feels that may go against him. But he may have to do it if she continues this harassment.

BMD'sPeanut Posted: May 25, 2004 11:10 AM

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Posted by Boop2704

Posted by aliciahelene

Can yoru brother get a restraining order on that wacko!!

Well, he can, but he really does not want to have to do that because he is in the process of trying to get into the police department and feels that may go against him. But he may have to do it if she continues this harassment.

I am sure that will not be detrimental to his entering the department.

swags1016 Posted: May 25, 2004 11:22 AM

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Jaime I am so sorry sweetie, if he lives at your parents house, they could get the restraining order for the family and family home, if he is that worried about it being used against him

don424 Posted: May 25, 2004 11:35 AM

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not to be controversial, but i think restraining orders are a waste of time -- it's just a piece of paper

if a psycho killer comes to your house, what are you gonna do, hold up a piece of paper and say, 'don't come any closer'?

MrsTC Posted: May 25, 2004 11:47 AM

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hang in there he will be fine.

june262004 Posted: May 25, 2004 12:24 PM

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Your brother should call the cops she sounds like a nut!

kdelace Posted: May 25, 2004 07:37 PM

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jaime my god! first of all i want to say im thinking of you- i know this must be a hard time of year.. your brother needs to get a restraining order. it will not affect his rol ein becoming a police officer. you read the papers now adays, people go crazy- she sounds like a nut job. she needs to be put in her place and fast. you have every right to worry about him. if you need anything let me know- im from a family of cops!!!