Too much drama for me
So for any of you that read my previous posts with my dad drama, there's more involved than I thought. I am SOOO pissed at him that his name will not be going on the invitations and he will not be participating in walking me halfway down the aisle (which he said his soon-to-be wife thought was stupid). So back to the original plan I had. My mom and her bf (who has become like a father to me and whose youngest daughter is in my bridal party) will be giving me away. Period. And my mom's name will be the only one on the invitation along with FH's parents names.
So I found out last month (from my grandmother) that my dad is getting remarried on October 27th. He's having a church ceremony and a reception at the Knights of Columbus in Lindenhurst. Backspace to about 4 years ago. My mom and I get a letter from the Diocese of Rockville Center saying my dad applied for an annulment. Long story short, we write letters and fight it, he gets denied, meaning he cannot remarry in the catholic church since his marriage to my mom was valid. My dad and I have a huge falling out and stop speaking for several years and my relationship with my family was estranged. Now I decide to extend the olive branch because I did not want my relationship severed with him or the rest of the family. I send out my dave the dates to him and the rest of the family. Things seem to be going okay until he starts distancing himself from me again. I come to find out he's getting remarried. My grandmother tells me not to mention to him that I know about it. Umm ok why? And then I come to wonder, how he is getting married in the church if the annulment was denied. My mom decides to look into this because she's pissed as well as me. I asked my grandmother if he's doing invitations, if anyone in the family is invited, which church it is, and if he's having a reception. I get told by her that she doesn't know anything about invitations or the details. I ask her the actual date because all she told me was he is getting married in October. She says she doesn't know. Bull!
My mom works with my aunt who I was always the closest with. She found out from her when the exact date was, the church it is being held at, and the reception location. Found out the whole family is invited.....except me. I haven't spoken to him at all in weeks nor do I care to. My blood boils and my heart aches when I think about it. And I included his fiancees name on my bridal shower list, so I don't know if I will see her there but whatever. My shower is a surprise but I have a feeling it's in October so now I don't know if any of my family will be at the shower. I don't even know at this point if my dad will be at my wedding, but it is what it is. And finding out my own grandmother lied to me makes me question her intentions as well. So then fast forward to yesterday. My mother finds out that he applied for another annulment through Diocese of Brooklyn and it was granted. My mom told them she never received a letter. Found out the letter was sent to an even older apartment address and it was never sent back to them. My dad did this on purpose because he knew that if it didn't get back to them it automatically gets granted. Which leads me to believe that this is why he is avoiding me. It's beyong upsetting to me that my own father doesn't want me there at his wedding and I feel like he just wants me out of his life. I am almost hoping at this point that he doesn't show up to the wedding.
It's gotten so bad and I've become so angry and depressed at the same time that sometimes I don't know where my head is and I get upset over the least little thing. There are days where I just want my wedding done and over with so I can be done with all the family drama etc but I know i should be enjoying this. Anyways sorry about the long vent but I know I can discuss these frustrations here among people who know the stresses that planning a wedding can bring.
So I found out last month (from my grandmother) that my dad is getting remarried on October 27th. He's having a church ceremony and a reception at the Knights of Columbus in Lindenhurst. Backspace to about 4 years ago. My mom and I get a letter from the Diocese of Rockville Center saying my dad applied for an annulment. Long story short, we write letters and fight it, he gets denied, meaning he cannot remarry in the catholic church since his marriage to my mom was valid. My dad and I have a huge falling out and stop speaking for several years and my relationship with my family was estranged. Now I decide to extend the olive branch because I did not want my relationship severed with him or the rest of the family. I send out my dave the dates to him and the rest of the family. Things seem to be going okay until he starts distancing himself from me again. I come to find out he's getting remarried. My grandmother tells me not to mention to him that I know about it. Umm ok why? And then I come to wonder, how he is getting married in the church if the annulment was denied. My mom decides to look into this because she's pissed as well as me. I asked my grandmother if he's doing invitations, if anyone in the family is invited, which church it is, and if he's having a reception. I get told by her that she doesn't know anything about invitations or the details. I ask her the actual date because all she told me was he is getting married in October. She says she doesn't know. Bull!
My mom works with my aunt who I was always the closest with. She found out from her when the exact date was, the church it is being held at, and the reception location. Found out the whole family is invited.....except me. I haven't spoken to him at all in weeks nor do I care to. My blood boils and my heart aches when I think about it. And I included his fiancees name on my bridal shower list, so I don't know if I will see her there but whatever. My shower is a surprise but I have a feeling it's in October so now I don't know if any of my family will be at the shower. I don't even know at this point if my dad will be at my wedding, but it is what it is. And finding out my own grandmother lied to me makes me question her intentions as well. So then fast forward to yesterday. My mother finds out that he applied for another annulment through Diocese of Brooklyn and it was granted. My mom told them she never received a letter. Found out the letter was sent to an even older apartment address and it was never sent back to them. My dad did this on purpose because he knew that if it didn't get back to them it automatically gets granted. Which leads me to believe that this is why he is avoiding me. It's beyong upsetting to me that my own father doesn't want me there at his wedding and I feel like he just wants me out of his life. I am almost hoping at this point that he doesn't show up to the wedding.
It's gotten so bad and I've become so angry and depressed at the same time that sometimes I don't know where my head is and I get upset over the least little thing. There are days where I just want my wedding done and over with so I can be done with all the family drama etc but I know i should be enjoying this. Anyways sorry about the long vent but I know I can discuss these frustrations here among people who know the stresses that planning a wedding can bring.
