So, my FH would kill me if he knew I was thinking this ...but does anybody else feel like they are spending way too much money??
The RH alone is a huge expense...but now that we're looking into everything else (photographers, music, dresses, etc etc etc), I just can't believe how much the total cost is going to be in the end.
I know everyone stresses about money, but sometimes I second guess our decision (THIS is why he'd kill me lol)...and think we should have looked for a more reasonably priced place or at least decided on a lower budget. How do I stop worrying about this and just enjoy the wedding planning bliss?!? It's somewhat holding me back.
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Our budget seems to be growing.. and growing.. but I told FH and I don't stress.. I just tell him I'll get a second job to help cover costs.. Then... he graciously says 'NO! If I have to, Ill work over time, but you are not getting a second job.' He knows I'm budgeting, but that it's expensive, so luckily he's understanding.
Just try not to think about it too much. I've realized that our budget is much higher than I wanted (almost 10k), but it's all because FH wanted upgraded and there are things we just 'need.' GL and don't stress!
Yup, I think we all have the same feeling...at least I do. It's insane how much weddings cost in NY. I try to focus on what I can do to cut costs, which for me involves figuring out which parts of the wedding are worth splurging on, and which aren't. Sure you can get the best photographer/videographer/florist/makeup/dress/etc, but if you splurge on everything, you run the risk of being very unhappy once the wedding is over.
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First off take a deep breath and remember that it will be the happiest day of your life
Since your still in the early stages of planning you have time to sort out vendors you can go less extravagant on... Hold back on the extras, ya know? I find it extremely helpful to have my budget on a spreadsheet and I also have a to do list. There are a few floating on the boards if you want me to bump one for you. If it's really over budget you can look for a weekend job or something you can do to make a little extra income. I have been saving every penny I got. It kills me not to go shopping all the time, but it works I guess. Good luck!
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It's beyond sickening how much weddings cost - I personally just wanted to elope but FH insisted on having a wedding. Just try to stick to your budget and save as much as possible. You'll be fine!
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Don't worry! I think we are spending too much money all the tme!
My FH makes a considerable amount more money than I do, and we are paying for the entire thing, so I feel guilty a LOT.
But you have to take a deep breath and remember that this is going to be the happiest day of your life.
Can you do some DIY things? Invites, menus, card box. That can save a LOT of money.
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You're not alone lol....sometimes I think to myself am I reallllly paying 30k-40k for one day? I have a little panic attack and remember it's a once in a lifetime day...our wedding day and I figure out how we're going to make it work. We've both had that moment at least once a month during the planning process. Our most expensive cost is the RH so we're trying to keep everything else on budget.
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Yup...I think we all have that moment. One thing I have found helpful is making a priority list....what things are really important to you on your wedding and what you can care less about. The items that you don't care for so much can be where you cut your costs. For me, its the wedding stationary. Its hard for me to justify spending a lot of money on something that I know many people will wind up throwing away. So I will be looking for deals and doing a lot of DIY projects. DIY can be a great way to enjoy the planning but save money too. We are all going through this, so if anything we're always here to vent to!
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feel like that almost every day! it's our one day to shine and i want it to be perfect and unfortunately that usually means $$$. budget has gone out the window and then some. i'm almost scared to write down what's been spent so far...
mara1017
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Weddings are sooooo expensive!
I am really glad that we decided to go with a more budget friendly place and having the wedding outside wedding season! I dont need the extra stress!
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It is definitely normal to feel that way - I know I get that feeling to. But in the end it is your special *once in a lifetime* day and if it is important to you and you won't end up on the streets, I say why not??
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You are soooo not alone! I was just saying to FH before about how the $ thing was really stressing me and we haven't even started to pay for anything yet, just knowing what things cost is freaking me out! I feel guilty as well because FH works 6-7 days a week now taking any OT he can so we can pay for it all. I feel like I should go get a pt job somewhere to help but where? I only get OT twice a year at my job. The other night he was so sweet. I saw someone post that they had a Sat night wedding for a lot cheaper than what we'll be paying for a Sat day at the RH we want. So I said maybe we should keep looking around to get something cheaper to make it easier on us. He said 'If you want a Saturday night wedding at our RH I'll make it happen. I know how much you love the RH, I'll make it happen.' SO sweet but I can't justify making him work more hours than he already is so I can have a difference in time of day. Insane! He said he'll be stressing when we're a month out and still owe $5k. I'm stressing now though. Ugh, maybe we can all win the lotto wouldn't that be nice
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If it makes you feel any better I had an anxiety attack deciding on where to have the wedding. The more expensive where I LOVED! or the Steal of a deal location where I had my sweet 16 and was just too good of a price to give up!!
In the end fh sat me down and he wanted the same place I did... and even when we put down the deposit I was like.. was it the right choice?! we could of saved so much!! I had to just stop thinking about it before I made myself physically sick!!
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i agreee.. it sucks.... our orignial budget have increased drastically..
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Posted by SMDC2012
You are soooo not alone! I was just saying to FH before about how the $ thing was really stressing me and we haven't even started to pay for anything yet, just knowing what things cost is freaking me out! I feel guilty as well because FH works 6-7 days a week now taking any OT he can so we can pay for it all. I feel like I should go get a pt job somewhere to help but where? I only get OT twice a year at my job. The other night he was so sweet. I saw someone post that they had a Sat night wedding for a lot cheaper than what we'll be paying for a Sat day at the RH we want. So I said maybe we should keep looking around to get something cheaper to make it easier on us. He said 'If you want a Saturday night wedding at our RH I'll make it happen. I know how much you love the RH, I'll make it happen.' SO sweet but I can't justify making him work more hours than he already is so I can have a difference in time of day. Insane! He said he'll be stressing when we're a month out and still owe $5k. I'm stressing now though. Ugh, maybe we can all win the lotto wouldn't that be nice
-D
Yep!!! We wanted to pay under 125 pp including everything but when we went to BCC we couldn't settle for anything else!
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You are soooo not alone! I was just saying to FH before about how the $ thing was really stressing me and we haven't even started to pay for anything yet, just knowing what things cost is freaking me out! I feel guilty as well because FH works 6-7 days a week now taking any OT he can so we can pay for it all. I feel like I should go get a pt job somewhere to help but where? I only get OT twice a year at my job. The other night he was so sweet. I saw someone post that they had a Sat night wedding for a lot cheaper than what we'll be paying for a Sat day at the RH we want. So I said maybe we should keep looking around to get something cheaper to make it easier on us. He said 'If you want a Saturday night wedding at our RH I'll make it happen. I know how much you love the RH, I'll make it happen.' SO sweet but I can't justify making him work more hours than he already is so I can have a difference in time of day. Insane! He said he'll be stressing when we're a month out and still owe $5k. I'm stressing now though. Ugh, maybe we can all win the lotto wouldn't that be nice
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It would be nice!!!
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I felt like that yesturday!!! FH tells me all the time to stop stressing b/c we have to remember that this is what we both wanted and shouldn't be regretting our decision. In the end we will have our dream wedding with the man we love and thats all that matters
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Posted by mara1017
Weddings are sooooo expensive!
I am really glad that we decided to go with a more budget friendly place and having the wedding outside wedding season! I dont need the extra stress!
Only thing is I'm having my wedding in season but we really negotiated!
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I know how you feel!! When I think about what this all will cost I get so overwhelmed and upset. My FH continues to tell me it'll all work out and be perfect even if we have spend a little. We're also going to cut things out we really don't need and spend the money on things we really want and what will mean the most. We haven't actually sat down yet to budget everything out--that's going to be scary!
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ug i feel you too! Our budget is now 15k over what we originally said we wanted to spend. It's crazy. Wedding stuff is just so crazy expensive and things always end up costing more then you think they will. Like we had $1500 in our budget for limos and now it looks like its gonna cost $2500!
The one thing that i appreciate about this is the challenge of saving all this money. We are paying for the whole wedding ourselves and when this is all over i feel like the wedding will be out first big accomplishment together you know? Like we through this huge event and saved this absurd amount of money together. Its very symbolic really
