just in case.
I would have to agree with FH.....children are children.....I love my nieces and nephews like they are my own children and would never not help with them...even at a party for myself. At our engagement party, my FH carried one of the twins around most of the day. . . .she loves her uncle steve! Everyone at the party thought it was the cutest thing...I had one twin, he had the other. Children sometimes dont know better....but get excited at parties....
Uh oh...I am the only one that feels this way . . .
Posted by FutureMrs.T
Uh oh...I am the only one that feels this way . . .
Posted by ant n tilde
Posted by FutureMrs.T
Uh oh...I am the only one that feels this way . . .
No i appreciate the honestyI don't want people to say what they think I want to hear - I want they really think!
If you don't feel comfortable saying something, at least for the pictures you could make your photog aware of the situation and he can be the one to tell her to get out of the pics (but in a nicer way).
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I would have to agree with FH.....children are children.....I love my nieces and nephews like they are my own children and would never not help with them...even at a party for myself. At our engagement party, my FH carried one of the twins around most of the day. . . .she loves her uncle steve! Everyone at the party thought it was the cutest thing...I had one twin, he had the other. Children sometimes dont know better....but get excited at parties....
Posted by Espo22
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I would have to agree with FH.....children are children.....I love my nieces and nephews like they are my own children and would never not help with them...even at a party for myself. At our engagement party, my FH carried one of the twins around most of the day. . . .she loves her uncle steve! Everyone at the party thought it was the cutest thing...I had one twin, he had the other. Children sometimes dont know better....but get excited at parties....
yeah i dont think anyone is blaming the little girl, like you said they are children and just dont know better, the problem is the mother should know better and is the one who should've handled the situation. Personally if i went to somebodies party and i had a kid and saw that they were sitting there with somebody for way too long and especially the person who the party was for then i would take my kid away. I would especially not let my kid be fed by the person whose party it was, i would be like OMG its your party enjoy it by sitting down relaxing and eating and conversating with your guests.
There is nothing wrong with you.... i totally understand where you are coming from. I would not stress to much about the wedding pictures b/c your photog will not have a problem telling your niece to get out of the way.... you photog has a job to take pictures of you and FH and he will do anything he can to make sure they come out beautiful... i wouldnt worry!!!
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I would have to agree with FH.....children are children.....I love my nieces and nephews like they are my own children and would never not help with them...even at a party for myself. At our engagement party, my FH carried one of the twins around most of the day. . . .she loves her uncle steve! Everyone at the party thought it was the cutest thing...I had one twin, he had the other. Children sometimes dont know better....but get excited at parties....
yeah i dont think anyone is blaming the little girl, like you said they are children and just dont know better, the problem is the mother should know better and is the one who should've handled the situation. Personally if i went to somebodies party and i had a kid and saw that they were sitting there with somebody for way too long and especially the person who the party was for then i would take my kid away. I would especially not let my kid be fed by the person whose party it was, i would be like OMG its your party enjoy it by sitting down relaxing and eating and conversating with your guests.
Maybe its me, but I would not mind feeding my niece or nephew or having them hang around..I love them like they are my own. I would not have asked them to be in the wedding otherwise. I know they wont be in every picture that is taken but I also know that kids get excited. I let my nieces open up some of my engagement presents and they had a blast, I also had a blast watching them help me open presents. I guess to each their own.
Posted by minibride08
You are 100% right!!!!!!!!!!! I would feel the same way.... Absolutely have FH bring it up and address before hand. I would also but a few of your BM's in charge of making sure she is not crowding you... I know you are upset now about the eparty & shower- but after this is all over- you will look at those pics and LAUGHGood thing you realized this too before the wedding....
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Posted by Espo22
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I would have to agree with FH.....children are children.....I love my nieces and nephews like they are my own children and would never not help with them...even at a party for myself. At our engagement party, my FH carried one of the twins around most of the day. . . .she loves her uncle steve! Everyone at the party thought it was the cutest thing...I had one twin, he had the other. Children sometimes dont know better....but get excited at parties....
yeah i dont think anyone is blaming the little girl, like you said they are children and just dont know better, the problem is the mother should know better and is the one who should've handled the situation. Personally if i went to somebodies party and i had a kid and saw that they were sitting there with somebody for way too long and especially the person who the party was for then i would take my kid away. I would especially not let my kid be fed by the person whose party it was, i would be like OMG its your party enjoy it by sitting down relaxing and eating and conversating with your guests.
Maybe its me, but I would not mind feeding my niece or nephew or having them hang around..I love them like they are my own. I would not have asked them to be in the wedding otherwise. I know they wont be in every picture that is taken but I also know that kids get excited. I let my nieces open up some of my engagement presents and they had a blast, I also had a blast watching them help me open presents. I guess to each their own.
Posted by FutureMrs.T
Uh oh...I am the only one that feels this way . . .
Posted by ant n tilde
Posted by FutureMrs.T
Posted by Espo22
Posted by FutureMrs.T
I would have to agree with FH.....children are children.....I love my nieces and nephews like they are my own children and would never not help with them...even at a party for myself. At our engagement party, my FH carried one of the twins around most of the day. . . .she loves her uncle steve! Everyone at the party thought it was the cutest thing...I had one twin, he had the other. Children sometimes dont know better....but get excited at parties....
yeah i dont think anyone is blaming the little girl, like you said they are children and just dont know better, the problem is the mother should know better and is the one who should've handled the situation. Personally if i went to somebodies party and i had a kid and saw that they were sitting there with somebody for way too long and especially the person who the party was for then i would take my kid away. I would especially not let my kid be fed by the person whose party it was, i would be like OMG its your party enjoy it by sitting down relaxing and eating and conversating with your guests.
Maybe its me, but I would not mind feeding my niece or nephew or having them hang around..I love them like they are my own. I would not have asked them to be in the wedding otherwise. I know they wont be in every picture that is taken but I also know that kids get excited. I let my nieces open up some of my engagement presents and they had a blast, I also had a blast watching them help me open presents. I guess to each their own.
i feel like i SHOULD feel the same way you do - but i just can't! LOL
Posted by ant n tilde
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Posted by Espo22
Posted by FutureMrs.T
I would have to agree with FH.....children are children.....I love my nieces and nephews like they are my own children and would never not help with them...even at a party for myself. At our engagement party, my FH carried one of the twins around most of the day. . . .she loves her uncle steve! Everyone at the party thought it was the cutest thing...I had one twin, he had the other. Children sometimes dont know better....but get excited at parties....
yeah i dont think anyone is blaming the little girl, like you said they are children and just dont know better, the problem is the mother should know better and is the one who should've handled the situation. Personally if i went to somebodies party and i had a kid and saw that they were sitting there with somebody for way too long and especially the person who the party was for then i would take my kid away. I would especially not let my kid be fed by the person whose party it was, i would be like OMG its your party enjoy it by sitting down relaxing and eating and conversating with your guests.
Maybe its me, but I would not mind feeding my niece or nephew or having them hang around..I love them like they are my own. I would not have asked them to be in the wedding otherwise. I know they wont be in every picture that is taken but I also know that kids get excited. I let my nieces open up some of my engagement presents and they had a blast, I also had a blast watching them help me open presents. I guess to each their own.
i feel like i SHOULD feel the same way you do - but i just can't! LOL
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Posted by Espo22
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I would have to agree with FH.....children are children.....I love my nieces and nephews like they are my own children and would never not help with them...even at a party for myself. At our engagement party, my FH carried one of the twins around most of the day. . . .she loves her uncle steve! Everyone at the party thought it was the cutest thing...I had one twin, he had the other. Children sometimes dont know better....but get excited at parties....
yeah i dont think anyone is blaming the little girl, like you said they are children and just dont know better, the problem is the mother should know better and is the one who should've handled the situation. Personally if i went to somebodies party and i had a kid and saw that they were sitting there with somebody for way too long and especially the person who the party was for then i would take my kid away. I would especially not let my kid be fed by the person whose party it was, i would be like OMG its your party enjoy it by sitting down relaxing and eating and conversating with your guests.
Maybe its me, but I would not mind feeding my niece or nephew or having them hang around..I love them like they are my own. I would not have asked them to be in the wedding otherwise. I know they wont be in every picture that is taken but I also know that kids get excited. I let my nieces open up some of my engagement presents and they had a blast, I also had a blast watching them help me open presents. I guess to each their own.
i feel like i SHOULD feel the same way you do - but i just can't! LOL
I am sure that at every other party you go to where there are kids, you don't mind cutting up their food, taking them to the bathroom, letting them sit with you, etc. It's just these very few times that you are looking to just do what you want to do (engagement party, shower, wedding). You want to open gifts, walk around and talk to people, take pictures alone, etc. I think the overall consensus is that you shouldn't HAVE to say something to your nieces mom, should should know to not pawn her child off on anyone else for the day, ESPECIALLY the GUEST OF HONOR!!!
Posted by ant n tilde
just to clarify two things
as danielle said at all the other parties i AM the caretaker for someone - a niece nephew, maybe all of them! i think it is great when a parent gets to bring their kids to a family event and get a break
the funny thing is that if the event was for my FSIL i would be the one taking her daughter and making sure that she didnt have to do anything at her own party
also, i totally don't blame the little girl - lol i did for a minute but that was just a moment of insanity. . . of course, i think that the parents or grandparents should have noticed me telling her to move 10x and should have taken the initiative to say 'oh come sit over here!!' that's all but its like everyone was just oblivious you know?
