ugh there is something wrong with me

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Posted by Annoulak

IMHO i think you should up the ante and say that you no longer want her to be FG...hate me for being too extreme, but she sounds like she's craving attention and on that day the attention should be directed towards you.

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OMG i would be disowned - but thanks for understanding

i think you're totally justified with the way you feel.
i'd flip a **** if i were you.
especially since it isn't fair to your other nieces and nephews.
we've all been 'guilty' of being upset when someone steals or shares 'OUR' spotlight.
i don't think it's a bridezilla thing at all. i think it's a female thing.

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Posted by dream426

There is nothing wrong with you. Her mother should be watching her and telling her to give you space. She should also be the one to make sure she is eating and everything. You are not wrong on this at all. This is about you and your wedding not the little girls.

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Absolutely Agree!!! I loooveee kids and I want my little twin cousins to be at my wedding etc...but her parents should be keeping an eye on her to make sure she isn't in the way.

Awww...I toatlly agree w/ you.

Her mother should know better. Some ppl just let their kids do what they want as long as they arent bothering THEM.

All her parents probably need to do is explain to her that she cant be in every picture and to give you two your space--then her parents might have to remind her a few times.

Good Luck!

just saw the pics!!!! you look so pretty and i LOVE the undies on the chair!!!

I do not think you are an awful person in the least bit. I'm going through something somewhat similar family-wise having to do with taking attention away from me at the reception and I feel exactly the same. I don't know how I'm going to handle it yet and it's my parents. I feel like it's the one day in my whole life that it's about me (and FH of course ) and I don't want to share it with others. They had their day, now it's mine. Sue me. In your case, she's a little girl and obviously just wanted to be near you but her mom should know better. It suucks that she let her hang on you like that. I totally agree with what Gina was saying before about how her student's parents always think their child is so funny and so cute, even when they're not. I'm sure that's how her mom and your FMIL felt and it's not right and it's not fair to you at all. There's a time and a place for their cuteness and you are completely justified in not wanting your wedding and shower to be those times and places.

P.S. Your pics are great so far but I can totally see why you'd be fuming. I would be in tears too.

thnaks everyone

FH doesnt want to hang out tonight now, we hang out every single night. . . i think he is mad.

wow i would have felt the same way tilde.. and i DO have a kid! her mother should have kept her own kid under control. i am soo sorry that happened to you i dont think you are out of line at all!!!!

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Posted by Mrs.D08



'Move girlfriend, your in my shot' jk

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i would so do this

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Posted by Annoulak

IMHO i think you should up the ante and say that you no longer want her to be FG...hate me for being too extreme, but she sounds like she's craving attention and on that day the attention should be directed towards you.

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awww shes a little girl though and doesn't understand, shes not posing in any of those pics it just looks like she just wants to be near tilde, no reason to break the little girls heart but telling her she cant be a FG anymore...its the mother who needs to do something, she is the adult and should handle things in an adult manner, not for someone to get real mad at a kid and not want them part of the wedding anymore.

Tilde I am ssoooo sorry!!! I completely agree with you. And I am sorry FH doesnt understand where you are coming from.


I do like Yelley's idea though. Tell the photographer about the situation if FH does not want to deal with it. And hopefully Fh;s niece will listen to the photographer when he says these are adult pics only.

You are not in the wrong at all here. I too will be having kids at my wedding and couldn't imagine not having them there but I also know that their parents will handle them if they get out of control.

Just keep in mind that your photographer can tell her to get out of the shot and tell him he has your premission to do so.

No offense, but if the girl was sick she shouldn't have been at your shower to begin with -- that virus is like the plague!

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Posted by snwb08

there is NOTHING wrong with you. Kids are always the center of attention, how often do WE get to be? Just this one occasion, and you should have it all to yourself. I have a really low tolerance for kids and only my nieces and nephews are invited to the wedding (they are the BP). It's always the little girls that are the worst in my opinion but my sisters know to control their kids - they can tell by the look on my face when they start throwing tantrums. generally they are well behaved so i'm not worried.

but you are so much nicer than me. I would have probably picked her up and walked her over to her mom and sat her down and said could you keep an eye on your daughter!! but i'm a biotch

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ACTUALLY i left out the best part. Her mother was not feeling well bc the niece had a STOMACH VIRUS and was in the bathroom like THREE TIMES at the shower and the mother felt like she was getting it so SHE LEFT and she said 'oh i tried to get her to leave but she wont come with me so i am leaving her here'

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that would drive me CRAZY!!!!! Not to be a biotch, but if you can't handle your own kids, don't have them!!

I can't agree with you MORE!!

So many times this has happened to me.. and I'm sorry.. but if you have a child.. and you're at a party.. EVEN with family.. you have to watch them.. take care of them.. and be responsible for them at all times!!!

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Posted by anneandchris

You are not in the wrong at all here. I too will be having kids at my wedding and couldn't imagine not having them there but I also know that their parents will handle them if they get out of control.

Just keep in mind that your photographer can tell her to get out of the shot and tell him he has your premission to do so.

No offense, but if the girl was sick she shouldn't have been at your shower to begin with -- that virus is like the plague!

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omg i know!!! fh is sick!!