ugh there is something wrong with me

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by FutureMrs.T

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by FutureMrs.T

I would have to agree with FH.....children are children.....I love my nieces and nephews like they are my own children and would never not help with them...even at a party for myself. At our engagement party, my FH carried one of the twins around most of the day. . . .she loves her uncle steve! Everyone at the party thought it was the cutest thing...I had one twin, he had the other. Children sometimes dont know better....but get excited at parties....

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Iyeah i dont think anyone is blaming the little girl, like you said they are children and just dont know better, the problem is the mother should know better and is the one who should've handled the situation. Personally if i went to somebodies party and i had a kid and saw that they were sitting there with somebody for way too long and especially the person who the party was for then i would take my kid away. I would especially not let my kid be fed by the person whose party it was, i would be like OMG its your party enjoy it by sitting down relaxing and eating and conversating with your guests.

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Maybe its me, but I would not mind feeding my niece or nephew or having them hang around..I love them like they are my own. I would not have asked them to be in the wedding otherwise. I know they wont be in every picture that is taken but I also know that kids get excited. I let my nieces open up some of my engagement presents and they had a blast, I also had a blast watching them help me open presents. I guess to each their own.

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i feel like i SHOULD feel the same way you do - but i just can't! LOL

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I am sure that at every other party you go to where there are kids, you don't mind cutting up their food, taking them to the bathroom, letting them sit with you, etc. It's just these very few times that you are looking to just do what you want to do (engagement party, shower, wedding). You want to open gifts, walk around and talk to people, take pictures alone, etc. I think the overall consensus is that you shouldn't HAVE to say something to your nieces mom, should should know to not pawn her child off on anyone else for the day, ESPECIALLY the GUEST OF HONOR!!!

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EXACTLY!!! if i was at someone elses shower i would stay with a kid the whole time, feed them and take care of them and not care at all, for my own shower its not what i want to do, not only that but when i do it i do it by choice, i dont want to be forced to do it...i am sorry but if a parent comes to a party of mine and says oh here take care of my kid, feed them and take them to the bathroom i would find that extremely rude like uhmmmm you came to MY party to relax and take a day off from your kid but at MY party you basically left me to take care of them? PLUS i love kids but i know its hard for some to believe but not everybody likes kids and what if its someones party who doesnt like kids and doesnt want them near them, people have to be considerate of that.

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love kids as well, and most of the time, I'm waiting for them to come so I can play with them. However, after an hour, when i walk your child back to you and hand him/ger over, I'm not just taking a potty break, I want to enjoy my day as well. As I said before, my mother was always on me like a hawk. I liked to be around adults and at EVERY party we went to, I can hear her saying, 'Ok Danielle, that is enough, leave so and so alone and come sit over here.' Even when they said, 'NO, NO, it's ok, leave her, she is fine.' my mother made me get up.

you are no over-reacting at all I love kids also but her mother should have known better to draw the line and say something that can be a bit overwhelming for a person (especially a bride)
it is not your responsibility to watch her child all day at your own party maybe the mother just doesnt get it and thinks you dont mind at all
I still think she should control her daughter

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Posted by FutureMrs.T

I guess I am the only one in the wrong here. I guess I just feel differently about the situation. Its okay. I am sort of the outcast on LIW because I have such different views on things than most brides. . . . .hence why I dont post that often anymore.

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no dont feel that way, everyone has different views on things, doesnt make you an outcast and if you look at other threads you see ppl disagree all the time lol

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Posted by FutureMrs.T

I guess I am the only one in the wrong here. I guess I just feel differently about the situation. Its okay. I am sort of the outcast on LIW because I have such different views on things than most brides. . . . .hence why I dont post that often anymore.

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NOOO! i appreciate your views and i think everyone else does too!

there are so many topics that i disagree with the majority on! everyone respects that!

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by FutureMrs.T

I guess I am the only one in the wrong here. I guess I just feel differently about the situation. Its okay. I am sort of the outcast on LIW because I have such different views on things than most brides. . . . .hence why I dont post that often anymore.

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NOOO! i appreciate your views and i think everyone else does too!

there are so many topics that i disagree with the majority on! everyone respects that!

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I am just afraid that I will offend too many people when I post my honest responses. I dont like to sugar coat things and like to tell people how I really feel and how I really think they are behaving (not in this instance).

im going through the same ting with my neice..shes 2 1/2 and she is very into me right now for some reason..she is always wanting me to hold her and do everything for her that i know she can do herself and it drives me crazy

i find myself fighting with her a lot like shes older..bu ti can not stand how she always whines at me and wants me to do everything

i love her..but honestly..i want to bang her head against a wall

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Posted by FutureMrs.T

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by FutureMrs.T

I guess I am the only one in the wrong here. I guess I just feel differently about the situation. Its okay. I am sort of the outcast on LIW because I have such different views on things than most brides. . . . .hence why I dont post that often anymore.

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NOOO! i appreciate your views and i think everyone else does too!

there are so many topics that i disagree with the majority on! everyone respects that!

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I am just afraid that I will offend too many people when I post my honest responses. I dont like to sugar coat things and like to tell people how I really feel and how I really think they are behaving (not in this instance).

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lol ive done it plenty of times too, its ok

you are right! i would be annoyed. i would put one of your bridesmaids in charge of ushering her out of the way.

she is not supposed to be in every picture. you have every right to pull the bridezilla card on the wedding day.

i wouldnt say anything yet... i'd put your bridesmaid to work on the day of.

Maybe your just too sweet??

It seems like at all other parties you don't mind playing 'mommy' with your nieces and nephews. I'm the same way..I actually look foward to playing with the kids..I LOVE kids. But having one cling to you ALL day at your shower, when you want some of your OWN time..is just plain wrong on the mothers end. Maybe, they are just use to you being so great with the kids and didn't think twice about it? However, you telling her to move over 10x should have given them a little hint. It's sad how some mothers just don't want to be bothered sometimes.

Maybe for the wedding take things from a differant angle. Say 'this picture is just for the adults'..then take a picture with her and tell the bridesmaids 'this picture is just for me and the flowergirl', that way she gets the attention she wants and still feels like she's a part of your big day. Give her special 'FG Duties' to take care of. Kids just want to feel important, you can keep her out of your pictures and you'll both be happy