ok so here is what i am really afraid of and is really stressing me out right now! i know im not even close to sending out my invites for the wedding but i am going crazy about this cause i finaly finished putting my guest list together and i really thought i would have more than i really do have! :( i am stressing over this big time because we garanteed our rh 175 people, so we have to make sure we have 175 at least there! so far on my list i only have i think roughly around 220 and that is not enough! we dont want to start putting people down just for the heck of inviting people to have a nice amount, we really dont want to do but now i dont know what to do and i am really stressing over this and freaking out because i have heard at least about 50 people will rsvp NO! so since we want, need and have to have 175 people - sending invites out to only 220 people is definately not enough! and i actually went thru the list to see roughly how many and who would prolly rsvp no and seeing the list i think i counted about maybe prolly a good 30 we have a chance to saying no! ughh i dont know what to do and this is seriously freaking me out cause not only must we have 175 since that is how many we are paying for, but the room is a nice big size and i dont want it to look empty! i want at least 20 tables to be able to fill the room nicely and this is scaring me cause i have a feeling we arent going to like th outcome! :( we have a lot of guests on our list that i have a feeling are going to rsvp no, i just have this feeling! and as is we arent sending invites to enough people to have the room for the ones on our guest to say no! so me and fh spoke about this last night and we really dont want to invite people out of the blue for the heck of it now to make our list higher just so we have room for no's and we dont end up having less of 175, but what else is there to do!? i dont know! :( ughh! people told me at work i should send invites to at least 150 guests so we have room for at least a good 50 to saying no! but we only have about 120 right now on our list! :( shoot me someone, this is really bringing me down! i dont want my day to be empty and have like 100 people there, ill be soo sad! :(
lauraandrob2009
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Who told you 50 people are saying no? Do you know for sure that all these people are saying no? I wouldn't get so upset about it. Try and gauge those you think might say no ahead of time so you have a B list to invite of some other people soon after the initial invites go out. Is there anyway you can renegotiate with your RH?
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wait you totally confused me at the end with the 150 people and only having 120.....I thought you said you have 220? either way there is no set number of people saying yes or no so I wouldnt worry or have in your mind that 50 are going to say no.
My min is 150 and I have 190 on my list and am not worried that we will be short.
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I wouldn't stress. Everyone has differnt experiences.
I'd have a B list of 'filler ppl' (I know that is bad lol) but if you don't happen to make the minimum you can invite them. With 220 you have a very good chance of getting 175 or more.
No stress!
gina409
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try not to stress..wait untill u get ur rsvps then figure out the next step yes they say 20% say no but its so diffrent for everyone..ur room will nowhere look empty with 175 people..thats alot of people..and dont think people r going to say no,its a wedding im sure they would love to go and u will just keep freaking ur self out
why not make a b list in case u need backups,and also u can count ur vendors on ur list if u need to
hth and feel better everything will work out
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oops yess im sorry in the end i meant to say 220 and 250! not 120 and 150! hehe! as you can see i am losing my mind and i am really getting nervous and stressed out with this particular issue! =[ im losing sleep over this and i know its early to think about this and think ahead and assume that this is going to happen cause it doesnt mean it is, i can very shockly have all 220 guests saying YES but i highly doubt it and im thinking the worse right now!
PS: so we might begin to add some more people just to be on the safe side, just enough maybe to reach to 250-265!
we have people we can send invites to, but their just people we wouldnt exactly think of first hand to invite and make our a list, but i guess at this point maybe we will just send it out and thats it!
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oh but see i think you're ok and in better luck than me, hehe! only because your min is 150 and you are sending invites out to 190 people, so you have a good amount of rooom to still have people rsvp'ing no! where i dont have much room if my min is 175 and i am sending invites out to 220 people! that is why maybe i should really send out to 250 people so i have more room for no's.. what do you girls think!? sending it out to 250 id be safer right? in having my 175 people! or else i can be lower and than wed be paying for those plates regardless!
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I'm sorry.. do you have 220 on your list or 120? I'm confused?
If you have 220 that's fine.
gina409
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how many people does ur room hold?just incase
endlesslove116
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by the way, thank you girls for letting me vent and listening to me and giving me your thoughts and feelings on this! i feel a little better that you girls told me different but i know me and im still prolly going to continue to lose sleep over this issue! =/ i dont know if i should just send out invites to 250 or just send it out to 220 people and wait for some rsvps and send to those if i dont get enough! i just think maybe itll be too late to send and they will catch on since everyone knows everyone and theyll see they didnt get the invite at the time everyone else did and thatll look pretty messed up! also my other major issue is not only being scared about not getting the 175 yes's its also just because lets say i get less than 175, i will be very upset and down because the room is big as it is with already 175-200 people so can you imagine less than 175?? i think the room will look very empty and not soo pretty and i am afraid this happens cause i want the room and dance floor to look nice a full and packed! :( i hope this doesnt happen and i hope we will get the 175 at least if more but not less!
krislee316
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another option is to call thr RH and lower your min then you dont have to worry about inviting people just for the h e l l of it
Dani777
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I totally wouldnt stress it...I had to change my min to 175 and we only have 200 on the list... I'm not worried at all honestly...
endlesslove116
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sorry i have 220 on my list, min is 175 and i was told i should send out invites to at least 150 people so i have room for those NOs to be safe and sure i will get those 175 yes's and not less.. so i dont know what to do!
and my room holds up to 350 people i think.. definately 300 i know! :)
gina409
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if u want ill come i do a mean sprinkler
try not to stress u will be fine and dont worry we r always here to hear whatever it is
endlesslove116
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aww thanks hun! :) and thanks girls!
update: fh told me maybe we'll just send invites out to 250 people at least, just to be on the safe side.. now it would be funny if we send it out to 250 people and we still dont get 175 YES'S! now that would be pretty f-ed up and ill be very dissapointed.. hehe! :)
and you're soo funny.. your welcome to come, especially if i dont get those 175 yes's.. haha! =P
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Posted by endlesslove116
aww thanks hun! :) and thanks girls!
update: fh told me maybe we'll just send invites out to 250 people at least, just to be on the safe side.. now it would be funny if we send it out to 250 people and we still dont get 175 YES'S! now that would be pretty f-ed up and ill be very dissapointed.. hehe! :)
and you're soo funny.. your welcome to come, especially if i dont get those 175 yes's.. haha! =P
hey if can afford the 250 and know 250 why not?
all u need is u fh and some good food n music to have a great wedding
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From what I have been told approx. 20% of the guest list will decline-So if you invite 220 then 20% is 44 people leaving you with 176 guests plus you and FH for a total of 178...you Exceed your minimum and the day of you will not even care if there are an extra 20 people in the room. Another senario is that sometimes most people say YES!! This happend to my FBIL and FSIL at their wedding and they were hoping people would say NO b/c they were at the capacity of the venue. DO not stress over this
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My min is 150, and we so far have 192 on the list. . .I think we'll be okay.
You can renegotiate minimums? What does that do to the cost per head? Not that I'm going to do that, but I'm just curious.
endlesslove116
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yeah honestly id rather exceed the amount and have more than what we granteed than to have less! i know it wont be a crazy high amount if we exceed, so i rather pay it in the end than to be paying for those 175 and not even have that there!
im prolly going stressing over this soo much and in the end im going to have 200 people there, lol! :) i hope thats what happens, hehe! :)
