UGH...my mom keeps complaining about my BM dresses!

Original post by AeroJenn

Mar 23, 2007 10:30 AM

As some of you may remember, a few weeks ago I posted a pic of what we decided to do with the sashes on the BM dresses (pics are in my album). We couldnt cut the sashes b/c our seamstress wouldnt do it, so this is what we decided on doing instead.

Well, ever since then, my mom keeps saying that she doesnt like it, it looks too big and over powering in the back, its going to get wrinkled when they sit down, etc. I tried telling her that I like it this way and that it'll be fine, but she's brought it up like 4 or 5 times since then! She even sent a pic to her best friend who also agreed with her I'm getting worried now that people are going to make comments about it or whatever. What do you girls think? Tell me your HONEST opinion please -- is it too much?

Tobewed07 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 11:49 AM

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Posted by brittny817

I am going to be honest with you. I can say this bc you and I have the same BM dress...

I actually printed your pic and my girls and I brought it to the dress shop (Lillette's) to have it done. (that is how much I liked it).

They REFUSED to do this type of bustle bc in their experience (and this is a place that does LOTS of BM alterations) IT NEVER comes out right. They actually refuse the bustle the sash on any level for two reasons in particular:
1. All of the girls are different shapes and sizes. The bustle will look different on every girl not making it very uniform. Some girls have 3 bustle bumps some have two some have four. It almost looks sloppy and tends to fall apart bc the sash material is not designed to be bustled.
2. Brides have left in tears from the frustration and the seamstresses and management just don't want that to happen/deal with it.

We decided, just yesterday what to do. We are doing a simple bustle on the train with one hook and eye closure bringing the dress to floor legnth. The sash is being cut. The angles of the sash will be just slightly longer than floor length with the points facing down.

The dress train will be left down for some pics and the ceremony and bustled for the reception.

I KNOW your pain!!! This dress alteration drama has been going on for two weeks with my girls. I am sooo relieved it's taken care of.

OK, it might not be as dramatic as the bustle you posted but it's still pretty and very elegant.

FM me if you want more info.
Good luck

I loved your bustle as well, and I too brought that to the attention of the bridal shop were we ordered our BM dresses (Style #557).

They also said that they will not bustle the sash, but rather the train and the bottom of the dress...they are going to put some type of hook on the sash to bring it up to the bustle so its not dragging on the floor.

Seriously, its your choice and your day! No one will be pointing fingers at your girls in their dresses b/c they are going to look amazing! Your bustle really does add that 'WOW' factor!!

lilangel Posted: Mar 23, 2007 11:51 AM

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Even if they did get wrinkled the majority of the photos that will be taken are going to be before the wedding and reception. I think it looks fantastic.

FullersBride Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:11 PM

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I LOVE the way the sashes look. Tell mom that its your final decision and it's not the end of the world

onelove1 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:33 PM

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I really like the way the sash looked. What do your girls think?

bonitachyc Posted: Mar 23, 2007 04:54 PM

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i REALLY like the cute sash idea on the back! moms will be moms don't pay her any mind. if you like it, and if we like it that's what matters!!

bride_to_be_2007 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 05:00 PM

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Posted by brittny817

We decided, just yesterday what to do. We are doing a simple bustle on the train with one hook and eye closure bringing the dress to floor legnth. The sash is being cut. The angles of the sash will be just slightly longer than floor length with the points facing down.

i 100% agree and am doing the same thing. the seamstress said it is easier and nicer to just cut them floor length. they also also told me it tends to look 'sloppy' and comes undone. if you look at a lot of past reviews this is a popular BM dress and i think a large majority of the girls had the sash cut. HTH!