Unbelievable..

cms82288 Posted: Mar 25, 2011 12:25 PM

Unbelievable..

.. my old childhood best friend didnt talk to me for an upwards 2 years..& finds out im engaged and writes on my wall.. u better not make me wear pink..i look best in burnt orange.. R U KIDDING ME.. she had her mom yell at me for not asking her to be a BM.. SOME NERVE!! she got married (justice of the peace style) and didnt even tell me. .and had 2 kids!!! she hid the pregnancy from me .. she was afraid i'd tell ppl. .***..she moved upstate when we were teenagers. i love her very much but she hasn't been there for me or included me in her life choices... Anyone else have bridesmaid drama? ALSO It's funny how many people tried adding me on FB since they found out im engaged.. so many more ppl wanna be involved and my friend

FutureMrsGTL Posted: Mar 25, 2011 12:31 PM

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Wow thats pretty forward to assume you would be in someones bridal party!

cms82288 Posted: Mar 25, 2011 12:33 PM

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especially when you ignored someones call for a year!!!!!!!

cms82288 Posted: Mar 25, 2011 12:35 PM

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I told her out of respect to our friendship that I would love to make one of her daughters a flower girl... you know to represent our friendship. That didn't fly.. it offended her more.. she couldnt believe I would ask such a dumb question.

PeaceLoveWedding Posted: Mar 25, 2011 12:36 PM

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ugh. you just have to brush it off. people can be very fustrating sometimes but don't let it get you down. it's your wedding, have fun

wishingwell1230 Posted: Mar 25, 2011 12:43 PM

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Wow that is unbelievable....if she is going to to make that much drama out of this I would cut my losses and uninvite her to the wedding. I don't know the history but that's just me.

roblisa09 Posted: Mar 25, 2011 12:45 PM

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SEND HER TO HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
UGH!!!! I've had plenty of BM drama. And you know what I did??!!!! I deactivated my page off of FB for a while cause I don't hold my tongue or fist back much so it was just best for me to get away!
I just can't believe the nerve of people.

Quick Story:
I had a bestfriend who now I know wasn't my best friend after all and when she found out I was engaged she asked me if my colors were still pink and purple (my mom's fav color) and I said 'no' mind you I had said that I wanted those colors like 3 yrs ago before FH was in the picture.
And when I said 'no' to her. She said 'OH HELL NO, you didn't discuss this with me, you know purple is my favorite color too' (with a serious and angry face)

And said 'I don't have to discuss S$#% with you cause I'm not marrying you'
Then she laughed it off but I know her and I know she was real upset but I can't please everyone! THIS MINE AND FH's wedding and we choose what we want.

kdm822 Posted: Mar 25, 2011 01:10 PM

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oyiii.. Thats annoying... I love wen people assume. Even my own cousins dont assume.. My moms friend was is like an 'aunt to me' said to my mom, do you think danieles going to ask her daughter to be in the bparty?, i diedddd when i heard that. I said i dont even talk to the whack job let alone want her in my party. Shes 20 yrs old and acts like a 2 yr old.. no thanks

bella_bride Posted: Mar 25, 2011 01:25 PM

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It seems like she wants to be involved in your life for the wrong reasons... where was she the past 2 years? I say don't sweat it. Invite her to the wedding - she should be happy with that alone. Plus, I think it was sweet you asked her daughter to be a flower girl.

pixietina Posted: Mar 25, 2011 01:26 PM

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I hope to avoid drama like this! Seriously though once people find out your engaged they do want to be your friend. Tell me how my ex-boyfriend's wife sent me a friend request. What the hell is that about? I pray to avoid this kind of drama.

cms82288 Posted: Mar 25, 2011 01:28 PM

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it amazes me after reading some of your posts what people 'friends' think. Everyone want's to include themselves.. they dont care that this day is about us.. not them.. and instead ppl try to make us feel bad.. they dont care about how it affects us..

Jill52787 Posted: Mar 25, 2011 01:30 PM

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Seriously! I was never so popular!! Weddings sure bring people out of the woodwork. I had the same thing happen with a guest that we never even had on the A, B, C or F list, LOL

cms82288 Posted: Mar 25, 2011 01:32 PM

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LOL... makes u feel like a celebrity for a breif moment... hahaha

S00n2beWifey Posted: Mar 25, 2011 01:37 PM

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Yikes.... no bm drama here but I feel really bad that you have to go through this!! I would just go with what your heart tells you to do and make sure that any decision you make is what you want!!!

mara1017 Posted: Mar 25, 2011 01:43 PM

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Luckily I have not had any bridesmaid drama.

Honestly it sounds like you are not loosing anything by not having her in your life.

kdm822 Posted: Mar 25, 2011 01:48 PM

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Posted by cms82288

I told her out of respect to our friendship that I would love to make one of her daughters a flower girl... you know to represent our friendship. That didn't fly.. it offended her more.. she couldnt believe I would ask such a dumb question.

For someone with children you think she would be alittle more GROWN up about things. Dont sweat it. after the wedding you probably wont hear from her for another few yrs lol

gf1025 Posted: Mar 25, 2011 09:00 PM

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Wow, oh wow!!
Who you want to be in your BP is a very personal choice and she'll just have to respect it. Be nice but firm!
I think less people= less drama.
I also had one of my friends flat out ask me: 'soooo I don't get to be a bridesmaid, or the maid of honor'? I nicely told her we're having a tiny bridal party (just a bridesmaid (FH sister), a groomsman (my brother), the best man (FH best friend) and the MOH (my best friend). She still pressed the issue, I kind of ignored it. It's a personal choice. She's still my friend and is invited to the wedding.
But BPs are totally up to you and people shouldn't have to bully you into letting them be in them!

FutureMrsCat050412 Posted: Mar 25, 2011 09:13 PM

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*** is wrong with people!! omg the nerve....screw her

thefloreswedding Posted: Mar 25, 2011 09:49 PM

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omg its not worth it!! dont stress!! i agree with the other girls, its better just to keep her out of the planning.....

i hope not to get drama, my friends are pretty easy going except for one or 2 and i might have a large bp so im also afraid of conflict...HENCE the reason why i havent officially asked any bms yet....! oy!

Bride in 2012 Posted: Mar 25, 2011 10:12 PM

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One of my good friends from college responded with 'yayy.. i get to be in another wedding' when i told her i was engaged (she's in both of her sister's weddings). Even though I was going to ask her anyway, it still threw me off a little that she said that.

Another asked what color dresses I was thinking about putting them in. I'm doing Black BM dresses so I didn't have an argument about the color but I'm sure people will have things to say about the price (and of course I'm going to take finances into consideration).