UPDATE: fight over bachelor party...

UPDATE: So we talked today again and i explained to him my feelings yet again and he took it a bit better this time... So i came up with a briliant idea... If he doesnt go to vegas for his, i know his best man will be going to vegas for his own next spring... so i said, well lets go together first between now and then and then i wont care if you go for your best mans bachelor party... He thought that was a good idea...

LOL I told him he can go anywhere else... and now he wants me to put that in a contract and sign it for any future discussions

awww gina im sorry...i totally understand. I definitely get the feeling of wanting to experience a certain place together. Brad was supposed to go to Italy this april and I was so upset because i really would love to do that togehter. I know its different because this is a bachelor party but i felt like it was along the same lines. Did you explain all this to him? He just didnt see where you were coming from?

What if you did a Jack and Jill bach party in vegas? that way youcould spend time together and apart?

your example is just like how i feel...

I told him... well lets go at the same time... and like maybe spend 1 night together with everyone... hes like well if we go at the same time, thats just stupid, etc 'then i dont even want to go' ... so yeah, it hurts...

he doesnt get how i feel... hes like 'well why dont you go to DR or something? i havent been there, i dont care if you go..'. and i mean, thats nice and everything for him to say that, but i unfortunately cannot feel the same way he does... he says im being immature about this and 'i thought we were past this'

guess it hurts too bc im really closer with the guys than i am the girls... which really ***** in my case... and the fact that my girls dont have all the money in the world like his friends is a big factor in all of it

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

your example is just like how i feel...

I told him... well lets go at the same time... and like maybe spend 1 night together with everyone... hes like well if we go at the same time, thats just stupid, etc 'then i dont even want to go' ... so yeah, it hurts...

he doesnt get how i feel... hes like 'well why dont you go to DR or something? i havent been there, i dont care if you go..'. and i mean, thats nice and everything for him to say that, but i unfortunately cannot feel the same way he does... he says im being immature about this and 'i thought we were past this'

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ugh i so understand! That must make you feel so bad hearing him say 'i dont even want to go.' I think this comes down to one of those classica guys and girls are different things...its so annoying but true. and to throw in the 'I thought we were past this' thing is a low blow!

Hang in there..what if you guys go before? tell him to take you on a trip and then he can go!

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

guess it hurts too bc im really closer with the guys than i am the girls... which really ***** in my case... and the fact that my girls dont have all the money in the world like his friends is a big factor in all of it

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yeah thats tough..from what you've told me in the past it seems like the guys are really your 'group' of friends so of course youd want to have fun with them too...did you try telling him that?

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

guess it hurts too bc im really closer with the guys than i am the girls... which really ***** in my case... and the fact that my girls dont have all the money in the world like his friends is a big factor in all of it

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I also have the issue that my friends do not have the $

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

guess it hurts too bc im really closer with the guys than i am the girls... which really ***** in my case... and the fact that my girls dont have all the money in the world like his friends is a big factor in all of it

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yeah thats tough..from what you've told me in the past it seems like the guys are really your 'group' of friends so of course youd want to have fun with them too...did you try telling him that?

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vin does not normally act like a 'typical guy' in most instances, but on this, hes full blown against me... he really values his guy trips and its a cause of many arguments... like for my bday weekend he planned an overnight in boston to see a mets game... im not allowed...lol... its like well thank you vin... he takes advantage of these trips and it always pissed me off

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

guess it hurts too bc im really closer with the guys than i am the girls... which really ***** in my case... and the fact that my girls dont have all the money in the world like his friends is a big factor in all of it

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yeah thats tough..from what you've told me in the past it seems like the guys are really your 'group' of friends so of course youd want to have fun with them too...did you try telling him that?

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vin does not normally act like a 'typical guy' in most instances, but on this, hes full blown against me... he really values his guy trips and its a cause of many arguments... like for my bday weekend he planned an overnight in boston to see a mets game... im not allowed...lol... its like well thank you vin... he takes advantage of these trips and it always pissed me off

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argh...that is so frustrating...im sorry gina..its so hard for me to think that he doesnt understand..it seems so common sense ya know?

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsR

I hear ya! My FH also wants to go to vegas and it is like the only thing we fight about. I also have not been there, and I just think it's crazy to have have bachelor party weekend, and it will be so much $!! We are paying for everything ourselevs and so I just think it doesn't make sense to go right now! So we can ban together Future Mrs Mazz! NO VEGAS FOR THE BACHELOR PARTY!

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well, the good ole best man found some deal where it would be $400 total for room and flight for the weekend... so they are all gungho about it now

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

guess it hurts too bc im really closer with the guys than i am the girls... which really ***** in my case... and the fact that my girls dont have all the money in the world like his friends is a big factor in all of it

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yeah thats tough..from what you've told me in the past it seems like the guys are really your 'group' of friends so of course youd want to have fun with them too...did you try telling him that?

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vin does not normally act like a 'typical guy' in most instances, but on this, hes full blown against me... he really values his guy trips and its a cause of many arguments... like for my bday weekend he planned an overnight in boston to see a mets game... im not allowed...lol... its like well thank you vin... he takes advantage of these trips and it always pissed me off

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argh...that is so frustrating...im sorry gina..its so hard for me to think that he doesnt understand..it seems so common sense ya know?

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ya know, im sure he understands, he just isnt HEARING it ...

ya know, im sure he understands, he just isnt HEARING it ...

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I mean i suppose there is something to be said for it being strictly a guys trip...i get that...but the fact that this is something you want to do together that makes it different..cant they go somewhere else?

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20



ya know, im sure he understands, he just isnt HEARING it ...

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I mean i suppose there is something to be said for it being strictly a guys trip...i get that...but the fact that this is something you want to do together that makes it different..cant they go somewhere else?

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haha i tried pushing that... so well see... i was like, go to AC, montreal, foxwoods, a canadian cruise, etc... i wouldnt care ... we've done those things together... no biggie

like i would be seriously pissed if he saw Cirque du Soleil without me... like highly upset... and its def a possibility if he goes

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20



ya know, im sure he understands, he just isnt HEARING it ...

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I mean i suppose there is something to be said for it being strictly a guys trip...i get that...but the fact that this is something you want to do together that makes it different..cant they go somewhere else?

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haha i tried pushing that... so well see... i was like, go to AC, montreal, foxwoods, a canadian cruise, etc... i wouldnt care ... we've done those things together... no biggie

like i would be seriously pissed if he saw Cirque du Soleil without me... like highly upset... and its def a possibility if he goes

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ya think theyd see cirque?? really??

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsR

I hear ya! My FH also wants to go to vegas and it is like the only thing we fight about. I also have not been there, and I just think it's crazy to have have bachelor party weekend, and it will be so much $!! We are paying for everything ourselevs and so I just think it doesn't make sense to go right now! So we can ban together Future Mrs Mazz! NO VEGAS FOR THE BACHELOR PARTY!

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well, the good ole best man found some deal where it would be $400 total for room and flight for the weekend... so they are all gungho about it now

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UG!

I am sorry that you are going through this... I totally know what it's like to have something mean so much to you and have your FH just not understand.. There are certain things I can talk to him about until I am blue in the face and he just doesn't get it!

Is there anywhere else in the world he can go? This way he can get his guys trip and your feelings wont be hurt?

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20



ya know, im sure he understands, he just isnt HEARING it ...

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I mean i suppose there is something to be said for it being strictly a guys trip...i get that...but the fact that this is something you want to do together that makes it different..cant they go somewhere else?

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haha i tried pushing that... so well see... i was like, go to AC, montreal, foxwoods, a canadian cruise, etc... i wouldnt care ... we've done those things together... no biggie

like i would be seriously pissed if he saw Cirque du Soleil without me... like highly upset... and its def a possibility if he goes

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ya think theyd see cirque?? really??

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without a doubt... and omg, they'd def go to that rehab place... the place thats like club in a pool outside... id be sooo jealous that he did all that without me that i dont know what id do with myself... if we went at the same time but separately, everything would be cool lol i dont want to get whiney, but you can see how much id want to go too

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20



ya know, im sure he understands, he just isnt HEARING it ...

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I mean i suppose there is something to be said for it being strictly a guys trip...i get that...but the fact that this is something you want to do together that makes it different..cant they go somewhere else?

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haha i tried pushing that... so well see... i was like, go to AC, montreal, foxwoods, a canadian cruise, etc... i wouldnt care ... we've done those things together... no biggie

like i would be seriously pissed if he saw Cirque du Soleil without me... like highly upset... and its def a possibility if he goes

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ya think theyd see cirque?? really??

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without a doubt... and omg, they'd def go to that rehab place... the place thats like club in a pool outside... id be sooo jealous that he did all that without me that i dont know what id do with myself... if we went at the same time but separately, everything would be cool lol i dont want to get whiney, but you can see how much id want to go too

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awww! so your girls couldnt do vegas you said?

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20



ya know, im sure he understands, he just isnt HEARING it ...

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I mean i suppose there is something to be said for it being strictly a guys trip...i get that...but the fact that this is something you want to do together that makes it different..cant they go somewhere else?

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haha i tried pushing that... so well see... i was like, go to AC, montreal, foxwoods, a canadian cruise, etc... i wouldnt care ... we've done those things together... no biggie

like i would be seriously pissed if he saw Cirque du Soleil without me... like highly upset... and its def a possibility if he goes

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ya think theyd see cirque?? really??

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without a doubt... and omg, they'd def go to that rehab place... the place thats like club in a pool outside... id be sooo jealous that he did all that without me that i dont know what id do with myself... if we went at the same time but separately, everything would be cool lol i dont want to get whiney, but you can see how much id want to go too

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Is there anyway possible that your girls can afford to go? Than maybe you could just go the week before or after. Not the best situation, but maybe a compromise.