UPDATE: Need advice: My sister walked out on my wedding. Long....
Please tell me what you would do....
Simply put: My sister is a DRAMA QUEEN. She MUST be the center of attention at all times. She is also a compulsive liar. You cannot believe anything that comes out of her mouth. This is also my only sibling.
I knew she'd pull SOMETHING on my day but I wasn't sure what. At my father's wedding, she showed up over 3 hours late (she was 'protesting' the marriage), wearing next to nothing (Did I mention she's a stripper?) She missed the ceremony, which broke my father's heart. She wore no makeup, didn't shower & was a total embarrassment. She announced to the table that she wasn't wearing underwear. It was awful.
So here it was, my wedding day. I I had told her I would pay for her hair & makeup (b/c she was complaining she is broke.) She said no. She showed up at the RH TEN MINUTES before photos were to begin. She had obviously not showered or washed her hair & she was wearing a very revealing 'dress', if you could call it that. Her fake boobs were hanging out the sides & she was not wearing a bra. I was HORRIFIED. She was also clearly high as a kite. She had the jitters & was a nervous wreck. It was obvious that she was on coke or something like it which would not be out of the ordinary. Her first stint in rehab was at age 14. She's now 40.
Thank GOD she was a BM so we could dress her in something less embarrassing. My girl's dresses were tea length. But my SISTER had her altered into a fricking minidress. It was about 10 inches above her knee. My BM's did what they could to get her hair & makeup done and make her presentable.
We went for our formal pictures & she was a jittery mess. We put her (& her short dress) in the back for all the pictures & she was screaming 'no one will see me back here! I'm the sister! I need to be seen!' She also kept SCREAMING that she needed a cigarette. It was to the point where the photographer had to tell her to stop talking b/c she was ruining the pictures. She also wore her huge F*ck Me pumps ONTO the beach for pictures. HELLO - you are standing in SAND (in your minidress). We all told her to take her shoes off & she refused. She was too busy grinding her teeth & begging anyone for 'a smoke'. Classy.
So now its time for the ceremony. She is standing up there and she starts to cry. I was touched. 'Maybe she DOES have a heart' I thought. Boy was I wrong.
She started to sob. Then started the snot-snobbing. Literally. I am trying to get married & she is wailing. My BM's were looking at me with HUGE eyes. One was patting her on the back. It was almost funny but it wasn't.
So the ceremony ends, we walk back down the aisle, into the bride's lounge to bustle my dress & my sister is SNORTING & sobbing hysterically. She starts saying 'I just can't stop CRYING' then launches into a speech about how sh!tty her life is & how marrying her ex-husband was the worst thing she ever did & how she is so worried for me b/c 'marriage will ruin your life!' AT MY WEDDING!!!! IN THE BRIDALLOUNGE! Keyword: Bridal !!!
I walked out of that room & never looked back. Apparently she kept crying & sobbing. She was walking around at the cocktail hour telling her sob story to anyone who would listen. Her story of course kept changing b/c she is a LIAR. She turned it into 'look at this perfect wedding. Everything about Caroline is perfect. My parents never gave me a wedding like this!' Um, Beth honey??? YOU HAD 2 WEDDINGS. Two. And dad paid for both of them. And your divorces. So shut up.
Finally, my MOH told her she was 'a disgrace' and to get it together or leave. Well, she left. She told my mom she needed to 'go for a drive'.
About an hour later, the Maitre'D (WHO WAS AMAZING) told me 'your sister came back to gather her things & she has left.' I felt a rush of relief.
At my after party, she was calling my cell phone like a maniac. She must have called 15x. I did not answer, I had nothing to say to her. She called my MOH's cell phone too. My MOH told her again that she was a 'disgrace' and that she embarrassed herself & her family.
Its been almost two weeks and I have not spoken to her since. My father is mad at me & says I need to 'reach out' to her b/c she is 'troubled & depressed' and she 'needs me.' WHATEVER. I don't feel bad for her. She has been on drugs for over 20 years. I am just so DONE with her. She's 40 fricking years old & she has been an attention whore since she was born. I am so sick of her BS. All I wanted was ONE DAY for it to be about me & she tried to steal it. I just can't seem to forgive her. I have no need to ever talk to her again. My father says I am 'cold & heartless.'
Am I really the meanest person ever? What would you do?
UPDATE: So, my father & I just had a huge blowout over my f*cking loser sister. He thinks I am 'punishing' my sister for having problems & that I am irrational for not wanting to speak to her. I said to him 'remember how YOU felt when she pulled that sh!t at your wedding?' He said yes. I said 'now you know how I feel.' Then I kind of went off. Probably not the best move. I told him that I want nothing to do with her until she gets help. He is Furious with me.
But STILL, she totally deserted her only sister on her wedding day, she tried to steal my thunder and she humiliated me in front of my in-laws, (who are ALSO telling me that she needs serious help, which is embarrassing). She drove her car high on drugs (and I lost a BFF to a drunk driver), she made a scene, she said AWFUL things...
Why should I be made to feel badly for her???
ARGH!!!!
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Simply put: My sister is a DRAMA QUEEN. She MUST be the center of attention at all times. She is also a compulsive liar. You cannot believe anything that comes out of her mouth. This is also my only sibling.
I knew she'd pull SOMETHING on my day but I wasn't sure what. At my father's wedding, she showed up over 3 hours late (she was 'protesting' the marriage), wearing next to nothing (Did I mention she's a stripper?) She missed the ceremony, which broke my father's heart. She wore no makeup, didn't shower & was a total embarrassment. She announced to the table that she wasn't wearing underwear. It was awful.
So here it was, my wedding day. I I had told her I would pay for her hair & makeup (b/c she was complaining she is broke.) She said no. She showed up at the RH TEN MINUTES before photos were to begin. She had obviously not showered or washed her hair & she was wearing a very revealing 'dress', if you could call it that. Her fake boobs were hanging out the sides & she was not wearing a bra. I was HORRIFIED. She was also clearly high as a kite. She had the jitters & was a nervous wreck. It was obvious that she was on coke or something like it which would not be out of the ordinary. Her first stint in rehab was at age 14. She's now 40.
Thank GOD she was a BM so we could dress her in something less embarrassing. My girl's dresses were tea length. But my SISTER had her altered into a fricking minidress. It was about 10 inches above her knee. My BM's did what they could to get her hair & makeup done and make her presentable.
We went for our formal pictures & she was a jittery mess. We put her (& her short dress) in the back for all the pictures & she was screaming 'no one will see me back here! I'm the sister! I need to be seen!' She also kept SCREAMING that she needed a cigarette. It was to the point where the photographer had to tell her to stop talking b/c she was ruining the pictures. She also wore her huge F*ck Me pumps ONTO the beach for pictures. HELLO - you are standing in SAND (in your minidress). We all told her to take her shoes off & she refused. She was too busy grinding her teeth & begging anyone for 'a smoke'. Classy.
So now its time for the ceremony. She is standing up there and she starts to cry. I was touched. 'Maybe she DOES have a heart' I thought. Boy was I wrong.
She started to sob. Then started the snot-snobbing. Literally. I am trying to get married & she is wailing. My BM's were looking at me with HUGE eyes. One was patting her on the back. It was almost funny but it wasn't.
So the ceremony ends, we walk back down the aisle, into the bride's lounge to bustle my dress & my sister is SNORTING & sobbing hysterically. She starts saying 'I just can't stop CRYING' then launches into a speech about how sh!tty her life is & how marrying her ex-husband was the worst thing she ever did & how she is so worried for me b/c 'marriage will ruin your life!' AT MY WEDDING!!!! IN THE BRIDALLOUNGE! Keyword: Bridal !!!
I walked out of that room & never looked back. Apparently she kept crying & sobbing. She was walking around at the cocktail hour telling her sob story to anyone who would listen. Her story of course kept changing b/c she is a LIAR. She turned it into 'look at this perfect wedding. Everything about Caroline is perfect. My parents never gave me a wedding like this!' Um, Beth honey??? YOU HAD 2 WEDDINGS. Two. And dad paid for both of them. And your divorces. So shut up.
Finally, my MOH told her she was 'a disgrace' and to get it together or leave. Well, she left. She told my mom she needed to 'go for a drive'.
About an hour later, the Maitre'D (WHO WAS AMAZING) told me 'your sister came back to gather her things & she has left.' I felt a rush of relief.
At my after party, she was calling my cell phone like a maniac. She must have called 15x. I did not answer, I had nothing to say to her. She called my MOH's cell phone too. My MOH told her again that she was a 'disgrace' and that she embarrassed herself & her family.
Its been almost two weeks and I have not spoken to her since. My father is mad at me & says I need to 'reach out' to her b/c she is 'troubled & depressed' and she 'needs me.' WHATEVER. I don't feel bad for her. She has been on drugs for over 20 years. I am just so DONE with her. She's 40 fricking years old & she has been an attention whore since she was born. I am so sick of her BS. All I wanted was ONE DAY for it to be about me & she tried to steal it. I just can't seem to forgive her. I have no need to ever talk to her again. My father says I am 'cold & heartless.'
Am I really the meanest person ever? What would you do?
UPDATE: So, my father & I just had a huge blowout over my f*cking loser sister. He thinks I am 'punishing' my sister for having problems & that I am irrational for not wanting to speak to her. I said to him 'remember how YOU felt when she pulled that sh!t at your wedding?' He said yes. I said 'now you know how I feel.' Then I kind of went off. Probably not the best move. I told him that I want nothing to do with her until she gets help. He is Furious with me.
But STILL, she totally deserted her only sister on her wedding day, she tried to steal my thunder and she humiliated me in front of my in-laws, (who are ALSO telling me that she needs serious help, which is embarrassing). She drove her car high on drugs (and I lost a BFF to a drunk driver), she made a scene, she said AWFUL things...
Why should I be made to feel badly for her???
ARGH!!!!
