Brides Helping Brides ™ - UPDATED AT THE BOTTOM(IM A A$$)Kinda wedding related....Ever feel like nobody likes you anymore?

LuckyMe Posted: Sep 17, 2007 10:31 AM

UPDATED AT THE BOTTOM(IM A A$$)Kinda wedding related....Ever feel like nobody likes you anymore?

Im having a really bad time right now and Im sure it will pass. I think of myself as a nice person and always there when anyone needs something unconditionally however I know I can be a reall Bit** if need be. Some of you know that I've been having problems with my mom and sister so they are not coming to my wedding well I've noticed that two old friends who I dont really talk to all the time anymore because we've kinda grown in seperate ways so we speak maybe twice a year are not returning any of my phone calls or emails! I dont think I could've done anything to upset them because like I said we dont really see each other except at get togethers or at our birthdays we always call each other. As a matter of fact I didnt even know my friend was pregnant until I got an invite to her shower and she was already 7 months! I dont speak to my inlaws for numerous reasons with DH and I recently got in touch with someone I havent seen since we were 12yrs. old(we were bestfriends)and they too stopped replying to emails. My cousins kids dont reply to my emails. I told DH if Im doing something to piss these people off I'd like to know what it is because I def. didnt mean too and if this keeps up Im not going to have anyone to invite to our wedding. It'll be very empty in the room! Sorry it's been on my mind and I dont really have anyone to talk to! Thanks

kellybean Posted: Sep 17, 2007 10:46 AM

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awww Im so sosrry hun

LuckyMe Posted: Sep 17, 2007 10:57 AM

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Posted by kellybean

awww Im so sosrry hun

Thanks it's okay like I said Im sure it'll pass and it'll be nothing but I just wish I knew what it was. I've left numerous messages on home and cell phones and emails. Especially with the one who is prego because I wanted to see her before she has the baby and since I couldnt go to the shower I wanted to drop off a gift. It just seems so weird that no one is returning my calls or emails. Just needed to vent it somewhere. Thanks for listening.

bemyyoko Posted: Sep 17, 2007 12:37 PM

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I can sort of relate.
Right after I got engaged, my 'BFF' (we were new friends but great friends and even got matching tats b/c yes, i'm a stupid idiot) just stopped speaking to me.
For literally no reason.
I saw her on Christmas Eve, exchanged gifts. Talked online all week, got engaged on New Year's Eve and when i called and left her the message... she just never returned it. Or any of my other calls, or emails or im's or anything.
She didn't even bother reading my messages on myspace. it was wierd.

That's the most drastic example, but it happened with a few people after i got engaged.

I hear it's really not that uncommon.

I'm sorry your feeling this way.

If you need to talk or anything, we're all here for you.
FM's are great things.

Cutechef729 Posted: Sep 17, 2007 01:03 PM

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I'm sorry!!!!! It probably isn't you, everyone is just in different places in their life right now. I think everything will work out!!! Just know that FH is there for you and so are we!!! Good luck...

mariaobride Posted: Sep 17, 2007 01:51 PM

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Aww- so sorry to hear all that. Sometimes moments like these (which should be happy ones) bring out negativity in others for some odd reason. As for your friends- it just may be that you are all gradually growing apart and right now you are taking it more personal because of what you are gojng through.

In the long run I truly hope everything works out for you.

ChristineAaron08 Posted: Sep 17, 2007 02:13 PM

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Did you try asking them why they stopped responding? It seems strange if like u say- you dont know what it could be.

I'm sorry they are being like that. I wish people would just say whats on their mind instead of avoiding people

LuckyMe Posted: Sep 18, 2007 07:54 AM

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Posted by ChristineAaron08

Did you try asking them why they stopped responding? It seems strange if like u say- you dont know what it could be.

I'm sorry they are being like that. I wish people would just say whats on their mind instead of avoiding people

I totally agree with you! If there is a problem why not address it instead of avoiding it and honestly I dont know what it could be so I am going to send a card for the baby today and see if I get any response if not then I guess I just will never know! As far as my mom and sister and my inlaws I know what the problems there are and I have no interst in fixing them that I know is all them it's just upsetting that it happens all at once. My cousins kids no idea there either.

Jesses Girl Posted: Sep 18, 2007 08:42 AM

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im sorry hun

i dunno what to say bc i dont kno the people so i have no idea why they would act that way.

JimmysPants Posted: Sep 18, 2007 09:18 AM

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Posted by bemyyoko

I can sort of relate.
Right after I got engaged, my 'BFF' (we were new friends but great friends and even got matching tats b/c yes, i'm a stupid idiot) just stopped speaking to me.
For literally no reason.
I saw her on Christmas Eve, exchanged gifts. Talked online all week, got engaged on New Year's Eve and when i called and left her the message... she just never returned it. Or any of my other calls, or emails or im's or anything.
She didn't even bother reading my messages on myspace. it was wierd.

That's the most drastic example, but it happened with a few people after i got engaged.

I hear it's really not that uncommon.

I'm sorry your feeling this way.

If you need to talk or anything, we're all here for you.
FM's are great things.

OMG! How hurtful. Are you sure nothing happened to her and thats why she hasnt gotten back to you?

LuckyMe Posted: Sep 18, 2007 09:19 AM

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Posted by Jesses Girl

im sorry hun

i dunno what to say bc i dont kno the people so i have no idea why they would act that way.

Thanks! I know them since Im 13 and I'll tell ya I dont know why either. I was at her bridal shower and everyone was thrilled to see me(not to pat myself on the back)and at the wedding DH and I had a great time and spoke to her after that. Like I said we dont talk that often so I dont know but then not to find out she was pregnant until I get a shower invite was alittle hurtful and when I called my other friend(her bestfriend)left a message on her machine that I couldnt go to the babyshower but call me so we can all get together and I can give her something for the baby I never got a call back then I called again never got a call back. Then I sent an email to my friend that was prego just asking what was new havent heard from you blah blah blah(couldnt tell her I knew she was prego because it wouldve blown the shower surprise)so she calls me back and tells me she's 7months pregnant! I told her I wanted to get together before she had the baby and I never heard from her again. I left messages about a month or two ago that I had the day off and wanted to drop by to see her before she popped and she never returned my call. I left two emails that were never responded to and I left two messages at home and one on her cell that I wanted to know if she had the baby or what was going on because I havent heard back from her and I'd love to see her before or after the baby and nothing!! So yeah have no clue!

LuckyMe Posted: Sep 18, 2007 09:20 AM

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Also the thing that gets me is that I feel like Im either weeding people out of my life or Im being weeded out of peoples lives all at the same time so hence the name of my post!

AS Posted: Sep 18, 2007 09:20 AM

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AWWWWWWWWW dont say no one likes you, we like you!!!

Espo22 Posted: Sep 18, 2007 09:21 AM

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sorry you're feeling this way. The reason why they dont respond is probably bc like you said, you all talk just a few times a year. If you called them more often and hung out with them a little bit more then im sure it would be different.

LuckyMe Posted: Sep 18, 2007 09:21 AM

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Posted by mookie73

Posted by bemyyoko

I can sort of relate.
Right after I got engaged, my 'BFF' (we were new friends but great friends and even got matching tats b/c yes, i'm a stupid idiot) just stopped speaking to me.
For literally no reason.
I saw her on Christmas Eve, exchanged gifts. Talked online all week, got engaged on New Year's Eve and when i called and left her the message... she just never returned it. Or any of my other calls, or emails or im's or anything.
She didn't even bother reading my messages on myspace. it was wierd.

That's the most drastic example, but it happened with a few people after i got engaged.

I hear it's really not that uncommon.

I'm sorry your feeling this way.

If you need to talk or anything, we're all here for you.
FM's are great things.

OMG! How hurtful. Are you sure nothing happened to her and thats why she hasnt gotten back to you?

No I have no idea! I called the hospital to see if she had the baby and they had no record of her being there and Im sure her husband or my other friend would've returned my calls then but no has!

LuckyMe Posted: Sep 18, 2007 09:24 AM

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Posted by Espo22

sorry you're feeling this way. The reason why they dont respond is probably bc like you said, you all talk just a few times a year. If you called them more often and hung out with them a little bit more then im sure it would be different.

No not really! We've been friends for over 20years and this is the way we've always been. Like I said I was just at her wedding and bridal shower and just talked to her in June for her birthday! She calls me on mine in June and I call her for hers in June. Even if we dont speak for a year we always call in June. So it has nothing to do with not calling each other alot or hanging out enough.

LuckyMe Posted: Sep 18, 2007 09:26 AM

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Posted by MPAS

AWWWWWWWWW dont say no one likes you, we like you!!!

I might have to invite all you LIW girls to the wedding. No really it's not that I feel like no one likes me literally I just feel like all of the sudden no one is responding to me anymore My two friends are bothering me though because it's never like this. If I leave a message or they leave a message we always get back to each other atleast within a week.

Espo22 Posted: Sep 18, 2007 09:27 AM

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Posted by LuckyMe

Posted by Espo22

sorry you're feeling this way. The reason why they dont respond is probably bc like you said, you all talk just a few times a year. If you called them more often and hung out with them a little bit more then im sure it would be different.
No not really! We've been friends for over 20years and this is the way we've always been. Like I said I was just at her wedding and bridal shower and just talked to her in June for her birthday! She calls me on mine in June and I call her for hers in June. Even if we dont speak for a year we always call in June. So it has nothing to do with not calling each other alot or hanging out enough.

well you said she just got married and one had a kid, right? im guessing things are really hectic for them now and alot going on. I guess wait it out

AS Posted: Sep 18, 2007 09:30 AM

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Posted by LuckyMe

Posted by MPAS

AWWWWWWWWW dont say no one likes you, we like you!!!
I might have to invite all you LIW girls to the wedding. No really it's not that I feel like no one likes me literally I just feel like all of the sudden no one is responding to me anymore My two friends are bothering me though because it's never like this. If I leave a message or they leave a message we always get back to each other atleast within a week.

Are they in your BP? Maybe they are on vaca etc etc. I have a feeling closer to my wedding no one is going to like me

LuckyMe Posted: Sep 18, 2007 09:32 AM

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Posted by Espo22

Posted by LuckyMe

Posted by Espo22

sorry you're feeling this way. The reason why they dont respond is probably bc like you said, you all talk just a few times a year. If you called them more often and hung out with them a little bit more then im sure it would be different.
No not really! We've been friends for over 20years and this is the way we've always been. Like I said I was just at her wedding and bridal shower and just talked to her in June for her birthday! She calls me on mine in June and I call her for hers in June. Even if we dont speak for a year we always call in June. So it has nothing to do with not calling each other alot or hanging out enough.

well you said she just got married and one had a kid, right? im guessing things are really hectic for them now and alot going on. I guess wait it out[/QUOTE
one of the reason's Im trying to get in touch with her is because she was due at the end of august and with things like this even if she didnt call me my other friend would've to let me know. My other friend is single and could also return my messages but hasnt. I started to worry to that maybe something went wrong god forbid but I'll send a card for the baby and see what happens.