UPDATED Im crying so hard right now

I forgot everything about me. I was talking to someone and they told me that I needed to get back in touch with myself.

Its not even the material things at all. I dont remember him really being there for me at all. he gets jealous over my niece.. im in such a fog right now.

i have to run... SIL and my bro were in a car accident and SIL is 7 mons pregnant...SIL's mom just brought her here and my mom is on the way to stonybrook...yikes! loooooong day....

Thanks girls!!!!!!!!!!!

its not over material things at al...its just an ongoing thing. i just need to standup for myself...

ill let u know how things gol...its been an emotional week.

I love you all. I wish you could all come over my house right now. Well watch noggin and blow bubbles

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Posted by madseason



I love you all. I wish you could all come over my house right now. Well watch noggin and blow bubbles

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I am sooooooo there!!!!

Chin up kiddo!

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Posted by madseason

I forgot everything about me. I was talking to someone and they told me that I needed to get back in touch with myself.

Its not even the material things at all. I dont remember him really being there for me at all. he gets jealous over my niece.. im in such a fog right now.

i have to run... SIL and my bro were in a car accident and SIL is 7 mons pregnant...SIL's mom just brought her here and my mom is on the way to stonybrook...yikes! loooooong day....

Thanks girls!!!!!!!!!!!

its not over material things at al...its just an ongoing thing. i just need to standup for myself...

ill let u know how things gol...its been an emotional week.

I love you all. I wish you could all come over my house right now. Well watch noggin and blow bubbles

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AWWW I hopee veryone is okay. Keep in touch

... good luck hun!!
hope your SIL is ok!!!

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Posted by beachbum05

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Posted by madseason

It hurts when I see all the brides on here raving about the FH's and im siting here wishing he was more like them. Not for presents and gifts...for the thought. The thought for me just isnt there.

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Ok, first of all, I don't think that all of the women who RAVE about their FH are always 100% honest. EVERYYYYYYYYYYYY relationship has its ups and downs. Some people just like to brag!!! So don't take what they say to heart.

Your relationship is special because its different from everyone elses. YOU are different. HE is different. and that's what is wonderful and unique about your relationship. Sure, we'd all like to get flowers or a piece of jewelry that we want, but don't you have those special moments with FH that AREN'T related to material objects? I mean, the fact that my FH will fold my laundry for me, or will let ME use the remote sometimes absolutely makes me smile from ear to ear! He's thoughtful...but not always in a showy way. But that was one of the biggest things that I fell in love with - his modesty.

Don't be hung up on the material things. Talk to him. Tell him your feelings. Tell him what bothers you. I sent you an FM about it - but I do want to say that I think its SOOOOOOOOOOO important to talk to your FH when you are calm (not crying) and you can rationally explain how you are feeling, and why you are feeling that way. I think men listen more when it isn't an emotional argument, but a more level-headed one. At least my FH does...

You can always send me an FM if you wanna chat more.

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I agree. I think when the girls rave about FH it is true but that is only one time. We all go through fights and everything. I think, like everyone has said on here, you need to talk to him. Tell him how hurt you really are.

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Posted by madseason

I forgot everything about me. I was talking to someone and they told me that I needed to get back in touch with myself.

Its not even the material things at all. I dont remember him really being there for me at all. he gets jealous over my niece.. im in such a fog right now.

i have to run... SIL and my bro were in a car accident and SIL is 7 mons pregnant...SIL's mom just brought her here and my mom is on the way to stonybrook...yikes! loooooong day....

Thanks girls!!!!!!!!!!!

its not over material things at al...its just an ongoing thing. i just need to standup for myself...

ill let u know how things gol...its been an emotional week.

I love you all. I wish you could all come over my house right now. Well watch noggin and blow bubbles

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unfortunately theres alot of people in long relationships who forget themselves...Well now you recognize the problem and you will make that time just for yourself, and talk to FH and hopefully slowly he will make changes...I know it seems hopeless now but it can work out, just will take work ya know but every relationship no matter what the situation is work.

OMG I hope your SIL and brother are ok

I hope your SIL is alright. No one has the perfect relationship that doesnt exsist. We all have our faults. Make sure you are 100% happy and feel secure. I really hope things work out for you.

i'M SORRY your feel that way. That's tough. I agree with what a lot of people have said already.
It sounds like you have to do some soul searhing and relationship searching. Start with yourself. Figure out what you want then step out of your relationship and figure out what you want there.

Don't be afraid to hurt husband's feelings. Tell him the truth.

I hope it all works out for you.
I hope your FSIL is okay too

you have insanely long FM. hope it helps

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Posted by madseason

It hurts when I see all the brides on here raving about the FH's and im siting here wishing he was more like them. Not for presents and gifts...for the thought. The thought for me just isnt there.

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im so sorry..just remember at times my fh isn't always the best..sometimes i get upset also..i think everyone does..what makes your relationship stronger though is getting through the rough times, to get to the 'picture perfect' times...

i'm so sorry lindsay. no one should have to feel like that and i hope that things will get better. you know we're all here for you.

No one's relationship is perfect, everyone fights, everyone feels hurt and hopeless at some point,
I am sure you will work things through, its just a rough patch. Relax, and decompress and think things through. I am sure everything will be fine

you have fm

oh no!!!! thats not good! have you told him how you feel???

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Posted by beachbum05

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Posted by madseason

It hurts when I see all the brides on here raving about the FH's and im siting here wishing he was more like them. Not for presents and gifts...for the thought. The thought for me just isnt there.

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Ok, first of all, I don't think that all of the women who RAVE about their FH are always 100% honest. EVERYYYYYYYYYYYY relationship has its ups and downs. Some people just like to brag!!! So don't take what they say to heart.

Your relationship is special because its different from everyone elses. YOU are different. HE is different. and that's what is wonderful and unique about your relationship. Sure, we'd all like to get flowers or a piece of jewelry that we want, but don't you have those special moments with FH that AREN'T related to material objects? I mean, the fact that my FH will fold my laundry for me, or will let ME use the remote sometimes absolutely makes me smile from ear to ear! He's thoughtful...but not always in a showy way. But that was one of the biggest things that I fell in love with - his modesty.

Don't be hung up on the material things. Talk to him. Tell him your feelings. Tell him what bothers you. I sent you an FM about it - but I do want to say that I think its SOOOOOOOOOOO important to talk to your FH when you are calm (not crying) and you can rationally explain how you are feeling, and why you are feeling that way. I think men listen more when it isn't an emotional argument, but a more level-headed one. At least my FH does...

You can always send me an FM if you wanna chat more.

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Bonnie, I coudln't have said it better myself... when did you get so smaaaaart

I'm so sorry you're going thru this right now. Fighting with FH is never fun especially when you add it to the stress of planning a wedding. Sounds like FH needs a good stern talking to, and I'm sure you've done that before, but try again and this time, don't give into his selfishness and stop bending over backwards for him... I know easier said than done... Hang in there

so sorry you're going through this. i agree with some of the above..you should definitely sit him down and have a good, long conversation. sometimes there are things going on that you don't even know about. i've accused FH of being selfish many times and sometimes he admits that it's true and tells me that i need to speak up whenever he's doing something i consider selfish. other times, he tells me he's got a reason for doing xyz and that my feelings etc were taking into account and i just didn't see it.

i feel like a lot of times what i do isn't good enough for him..but i never said anything to him until recently and he was really shocked and told me he was completely oblivious to it. (most men are oblivious

hopefully talking to him will help..and remember to listen to him as well and don't just make it a one-sided conversation where you're beating him down because then it's not going to be as productive..maybe you both need to just see where the other person's coming from.

i know i'm one of those people that have posted about a wonderful thing FH has done for me...and i was being 100% honest...but we have some super hard times too and it stems from me not being able to express myself to him well. but it's harder for me to post on here about the bad times than it is to post about the good times...because i know it's a failure on my part to be understanding and unselfish and expressive. it also would feel a little weird to post about something he did that was really nice and then follow it up with 'but he's also a real jerk sometimes'..you know? i guess i thought it was just understood that at that time i was so happy because sometimes..i'm not

not sure if this made any sense..but we're here for you whenever you need to talk things out!!!

I hope that your family is ok.

I will have you over for Noggin...or maybe just basic NICK and you all can bring the bubbles!!

Feel better!