Upgrading rings?

When is the appropriate time to upgrade an engagement ring..

I love my setting but I want to change the center stone to a bigger one.. I dont want FH to get insulted..which I feel like he will

We arent getting married until 2010

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Posted by Mrs Picozzi

When is the appropriate time to upgrade an engagement ring..

I love my setting but I want to change the center stone to a bigger one.. I dont want FH to get insulted..which I feel like he will

We arent getting married until 2010

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anniversary? or maybe move that stone to your wedding band and make it a sentimental thing? i dont know..

Eventually, maybe after we have kids, I plan on getting a bigger stone and using the stone I have now as a side stone. So that will be our past, then we have the larger stone, that will be the present, and I'm getting another one to match the side stone, that will be our future (with kids and all).

If you think he might get insulted, then don't ask. You wouldn't want to insult him, right? You will have many years ahead of you and many occasions to 'request' an upgrade IMO Just enjoy being engaged and planning your wedding

i dont plan on ever changing my ring, i am keeping it like this, i cant change the ring Dh proposed with. Even if DH brought this up i would say no

Usually upgrades ive heard of getting it on an anniversary, and a later one such as 10 year anniversary or something like that. many times even a later anniversary

I definitely can see how a guy would feel insulted.

if teh tables were turned i would be completely insulted.
my mom upgraded her ring on her 25th anniversary but that was because my dad offered. i think that would be the only way i would do it and i would def keep the stone i have.
its not about the size of the stone for me...its the meaning behind it

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Posted by flairforfashion

Hobnestly, I think it would insult your FH asking for an upgrade. I would wait for an anniversary.

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Me too. I have a one carat solitaire which is nice enough but sometimes I wish it was bigger. I won't upgrade because the ring has a lot of sentimental value and I don't want FH to think that what he could afford is not good enough for me.

Personally, I want to keep my ring the way it is. I think my FH put a lot of thought into it and feel it's perfect the way it is. However (!) I do know someone who upgraded her ring after only 6 months of being engaged. I don't know how her FH took this, but most everyone else thought it was hurtful and insulting to FH. I don't know her really from a personal standpoint (we worked together) but to each her own.

Maybe you should talk to FH about it to see how he'd feel? Bring it up lightly...

Or, my FH actually had a good suggestion - why not get a more elaborate wedding band to complement your engagement ring, then upgrade on your 5th anniversary or like the other poster said, if you have kids.

Good luck! i'm sure you'll make the best decision for you both!