Re: Vendors - stop sending me emails i didn't request. . .

Claud, to address your response, yes, I was agressive, as I believe you were also agressive. To tell me to maintain a sense of community and that I'm being counter-productive is quite agressive, and mean.

Yes, I did name the vendor, it is my right to do so. I would not have named her if I received unsolicited emails from the other vendors on this board, but I do not, so I named the one that does it. I also know a few other girls have previously complained on the subject. I did not think that vendors reviewed our post on Brides helping Brides, I thought this board was for us to help each other, and the Vendor board for Vendors to help, and to offer their services. And they are also listed in the Vendor listing. Why would I expect emails from a vendor on a subject between Brides?

I also, in fairness, told everyone that she sent me a nice apology, so I was NOT trying to soil her reputation. I told EXACTLY what happenned, good or bad. I let everyone else make their opinion, I did not mind you defending her by saying you know her and she is a nice person, but I just did not appreciate you telling me I was counter-productive and did not have a sense of community. I have replied to many posts, giving my ideas and offering help and info whenever I can. I do no live on this board to complain, yet I know that I am allowed to vent if something bothers me, like Shamma said.

I could say the same for you, and ask what is productive about you debating what I say?
How is that helping you as a Bride, or me as a Bride? It is not. I have noticed that you like debating what people on this board say. That is your right, as it is my right to take offense to it. You may not feel you are attacking others, but think to yourself how many times has someone taken offense to a response from you, and maybe, just maybe, you will think about that before you post a reply.

Re: Vendors - stop sending me emails i didn't request. . .

I think this thread may be getting a little out of hand I think Liz has the right to vent about whatever she wants. I personally don't appreciate the unsolicited advice/advertising that I have seen from the vendors over the past few months. I, like Liz, feel that if we want their help, we will ask for it. If we don't, I think they should leave us in peace to talk amongst ourselves!

I also think that whenever one of us posts a public vent we need to be prepared to see a response from someone who does not agree with us. I don't think that Claud meant any offense. I have seen a lot of other posts from Brides and Newlyweds (Claud is a Newlywed) who just don't get as irritated by the vendor advertising as I do. I can appreciate that.

Its too easy to misinterpret some of these posts. I must say, though, I have NEVER seen a negative or mean post by Claud. Nor have I known her to be argumentative towards any of us. In fact, Claud is rarely on our board these days. Even though she was married over a year ago, she still comes around to post a great bouqet that she has seen or a warning about a bridal salon in Maryland. Very helpful. I think some of the things written about Claud were unnecessary.

All of us have the right to feel however we want, but I think we should all think twice before we post something that is a blatant attack on someone else's character.

Bring on the flaming.

Re: Vendors - stop sending me emails i didn't request. . .

Becky, I truly appreciate your response, and acutally agree it's getting out of hand. I usually welcome other opinions. I do, however, feel that Claud directly offended me NOT when she defended Linda, but when she said I was counterproductive and had no sense of community. SHe could have just stated her opinion on the matter and defended Linda, but she DID bring my character into play.
She also directed her comment at Jennbaby, who hadn't even said anything on the subject.

I HAVE seen some posts of hers that others got offended from, this is not the first time she does not think before she replies. I will not point them out, but some of those posts are still around.

I do not know Claud personally, I only know like you said that she is a newlywed on this board. I just do not like her style of response at all.
I really have said all I need to say on the subject.
I thought this thread was finished the minute I posted that Linda sent me a reply and I wasn't so angry anymore. REally, that should have ended it, her reply came after I had already resolved the issue.

Re: Vendors - stop sending me emails i didn't request. . .

Liz I vented about unwanted vendor emails and would do it again IN A SECOND!
you have every right to vent. Don't let people stress you. vent away. This post was meant for LIWeddings and yes it got blown out of proportion. I myself was totally annoyed by getting 10 of the same emails from numerous vendors a night, there is no reason for it, or any reason for a vendor to email you constantly for any reason. Thats what the vendors helping brides post os for and that should remain where they respond.
Like I said girl you vent away, I am behind you 100%!

Re: Vendors - stop sending me emails i didn't request. . .

whatever, it seems there are two totally different schools of thought on this topic. I must say though, no one said you didn't have the right to vent. Personally, I'd rather read fun helpful things or venting about bridal / personal issues that people are seeking advice with, then vendor bashing, but that's just me. If it makes you all feel better to vent about the vendors go right ahead. Personally, I like the vendors BECAUSE WITHOUT THEM THIS BOARD WOULD NOT EXIST! Good luck to everyone, I hope no one gets an ulcer over all this!

Re: Vendors - stop sending me emails i didn't request. . .

I am not going to repeat my opinion on this subject now. If I feel the need to vent in the future, I will, as I'm sure anyone who wishes should feel the right to vent on ANY subject.
But for now, I think we have all had enough of this thread, and this discussion.

Re: Vendors - stop sending me emails i didn't request. . .

hey LIWEDDINGS---i think we need a new board called the venting board!!!