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flairforfashion Posted: Aug 11, 2008 11:19 PM

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Jeez. I just finished fighting with one of my BM's. We got into a HUGE fight about the dresses. You have no idea how I feel right now- she basically made me feel like complete $hit about the dresses I picked. First off- I didn't even 'pick' the dress yet. We liked the dress- my Sister and I. My friend is coming with me Saturday to try it on. She asked to see a picture. I said to her that in the picture it looks like pure crap. I said that she needs to see it on person. She goes on and on about how old it looks and how ugly it is. Here I am trying to take every person's opinion into consideration. I am getting to the point where it's like F it. I aimed for picking dresses that were under 200 bucks and people don't even say Aww thanks for thinking of us. No. My friend goes 'this isn't even something I could wear again.' I am at the point that I'll can her a$$ for giving me $hit. Seriously. I don't need the dress and aggrevation. She is my best friend and I love her dearly. But come on. Cut me some freaking slack!

Sweets14 Posted: Aug 11, 2008 11:22 PM

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Tell her it's your wedding keep her mouth shut or don't be in it. I got sh@t about the color i picked!! They're lucky they're not in clown costumes!! I'll even rent the clown car to squeeze them all in.

egem523 Posted: Aug 11, 2008 11:24 PM

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She should not be giving you this grief for a dress but if you really want to make you life easier give them a color and the designer let them pick the dress!! You can't be bother with that nonsense.

Mich2585 Posted: Aug 11, 2008 11:29 PM

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i really think that people dont realize that it is your wedding and not thiers ... if she doesnt like the dress than she doesnt have to pick them for her bridesmaids when she gets married ... you only get one wedding soooo do what ever your little heart desires. and i think it was very nice of you to consider the price of the dress when picking it out. dont worry ... she will get over it and wear it

VickiR510 Posted: Aug 11, 2008 11:30 PM

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Wow i thought your dresses were very pretty & classic. totally chic. I say if you love them hav ethem get them & if she doesnt like it hit the road jack. None of this stressing the bride crap!

Angelle05 Posted: Aug 11, 2008 11:33 PM

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Last year when I came out of the dressing room with the bridesmaid dress that my BFF picked out she said to me 'aww you look so cute!!!' I was like what the F@*K? 'Cute?' ... BUUTTT I didn't say that to her because she was my best friend...and was willing to deal with whatever she wanted on her day. It all turned out better in the end, but I think that maybe your friend didn't have a filter on her thoughts that day. Just gently remind her that it's really your choice on the dresses...and make it known how much it means to you to have her their and happy on that day. Maybe she'll ease up a little.... Everyone's tastes are different! HTH

mcclj74 Posted: Aug 11, 2008 11:35 PM

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i am sorry to hear that - people have no consideration when it comes to wedding stuff - that i learned - i have had so many issues i cant even count them - i too went out of my way to make sure that dresses were affordable...but it seems like the more i do, the more i get stepped on....i hope everything works out for you!

MaggieLuvsJoe Posted: Aug 11, 2008 11:38 PM

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wow she's being really rude, you could have been like this is the dress I picked go order it, youre at least trying to accomodate her...ughh sorry ur dealing with such bs

BarbieGrl10 Posted: Aug 11, 2008 11:38 PM

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OK kick her out and I'll wear the dress!

Honestly... that dress is beautiful!!!!! I dont know what she is talking about. Andddddddd...she should be happy that it cost under $200.
Maybe she just needs to see it in person?

lanamanitta Posted: Aug 11, 2008 11:40 PM

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I have never commented on a dress I've had to wear in a wedding. Just get it altered to fit, and get on with the day, because it's the bride's day . . . . she's being really inconsiderate, and you didn't pick anything horrible, not even close . . . . ugh. Cut her.

KimiDanny1010 Posted: Aug 11, 2008 11:47 PM

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I like the dress...what color did u want to get it in ??

flairforfashion Posted: Aug 12, 2008 12:00 AM

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Thanks guys. She is a lot like me- very fricken honest and I appreciate the honesty but jeez! She is going on and on about this. So, of course I throw the curse words around and get really pissed. But I told her if this doesn't work out then I am picking $300 dresses! Ladies- this is my first bridezilla moment. And, I even went on her Myspace and left her a comment. I wrote:

Dear Friend,

You are wearing that ugly dress.

Love,
Me

I'm so bad, I know!

flairforfashion Posted: Aug 12, 2008 12:01 AM

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Posted by KimiDanny1010

I like the dress...what color did u want to get it in ??

I picked black.

Jayla127 Posted: Aug 12, 2008 12:08 AM

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This is the same reason why I chucked my cousin out of the bridal party. Way back when I was undecisive about my bm dresses. My cousin stated to me that she wasn't wearing what I liked then. So, I kindly told her fine, 'You can be a guest' Now she is out of the wedding.

Don't let what someone else does bother you girl. If she doesn't like the dress then replace her.

Sorry to sound so harsh

Kris2782 Posted: Aug 12, 2008 02:37 AM

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I'm having an issue like that with one of BM and she hasn't even seen the dress. I only mentioned the color and 'Im not wearing that color!' 'ARe you kidding me?' If she starts again when we go for the actual dress.... she's out!!

dazies1011 Posted: Aug 12, 2008 07:05 AM

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Is itthe dress you have in your albums? If so I like that dress and she can cut it down to make it into a cocktail dress. You need to tell her not everyone is going to be happy and that you were looking out for everyone for the price but, still looking good.
I have to say 3 of my girls were easy but, 1 of my BMs gave me a hardtime even thought she said'It's your wedding and I'll wear whatever you ask me to wear' but, she didnt say it like she was happy.

cedesnyc Posted: Aug 12, 2008 08:02 AM

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oh wow.....that;s kinda mean to tell a bride! Well...Michele, its not her wedding, its yours and she needs to understand that. Pick a gown that you're happy with and if she doesn't like it then she doesn't have to be in the wedding....

Like seriously...you don't need that type of grief....how inconsiderate of her.

mdawg Posted: Aug 12, 2008 08:05 AM

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the very first dress my best friend picked for her BMs to wear was HIDEOUS, but i didn't say anything to her out of respect. It's her wedding, and I'll wear whatever she wants me to wear because its an honor to be IN her wedding party. It wasnt till after she picked a different dress and said to us 'that dress was pretty awful, wasnt it' kinda thing did we say something to her.

If she doesnt want to wear the dress, tell her she can wear whatever she wants, but she wont be in the bridal party. I cant stand selfish people.

You are a better person than I because I would've canned her *** already. Good luck sweetheart. :)

ETA: i just saw a pic of the dress... tell her that she's a freakin lunatic, because she totally CAN wear that dress again if she wasnt such a shallow brat.

beram63 Posted: Aug 12, 2008 08:07 AM

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sorry she's being such a PITA. this makes me grateful for how easy my girls have been about the whole thing. it sounds like she's just squawking about having to buy something she wouldn't have picked herself. tell her to suck it up and stop being a baby. this is what you're agreeing to when you accept someone's invitation to the BP.

when it's her turn, she'll understand. for now, be firm!