vent: beginning to hate a bm

I am beginning to hate one of my bridesmaids!!! She is bringing down the group by being difficult. They are all working so nicely together, except for her!! I won't go into detail because it's very long to explain. I'll just say that I am regretting making her part of my wedding. The girls are trying to plan things, and she keeps turning them down because she says she can't take off of work. Her boss is her boyfriend!! I know he would give her off. She is not even going to my bachelorette party because she said she can't take off of work....but my bach party is not for another three months!!!

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Don't let it stress you. If she can't make it it's her loss!!!

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Things like this happen ... But I would talk to her face to face and explain that u r mad about what's going on...a wedding will show people true colors good luck to u ( it's your wedding don't let her bring u down in any way )

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I agree with the other girls. Don't stress.

There is always one. I have one in my party also. Don't let her ruin your day or your plans.

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Posted by Nichelmus

I agree with the other girls. Don't stress.

There is always one. I have one in my party also. Don't let her ruin your day or your plans.

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Me too! It's probably better she's not at your bachelorette party!

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I'm at that point too w one of mine. She says she can't take off saturdas but every other time she has been a bm she could...

I'm at the point where I don't care, if your there great, if not it's your loss! I know I'm sure as helI going to hve a great time:)

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Thanks ladies. You're right, it's her issue, not mine...ain't nobody got time fo dat!!!

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wow... I could have written your first post here... I have the same issue with a BM. She's not coming to my bach party too. I'm fine with that but I don't think I wnat her in the party at all. There's always 1!
If you are considering removing her, I think you need to speak to her ASAP and see if you can work things out. Good luck! Let us know how it goes

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If it makes you feel better, I have two! It's definitely frustrating that true colors tend to poke out as you get further into the planning process.

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Posted by Nichelmus

I agree with the other girls. Don't stress.

There is always one. I have one in my party also. Don't let her ruin your day or your plans.

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I had one in my party, and threw her out twice and this last time was FINAL! I have no time for nonsense..none of us do, and it's very unfair what some people pull. I've got to see a lot of people's true colors during my wedding planning and it hasn't been pretty.

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Im sorry to hear that! I have one bridesmaid who missed a fitting appointment for the bridesmaid dress because SHE WAS BLOW DRYING HER HAIR.... That was her excuse!!! UM HELLO. I just told her she had to do it on her own time or she would no longer be in my BP.

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Gosh, I can't believe how common this is!!! This particular BM has been my friend since college. She always says how I am one of her closest friends and that she values me so much....but, boy, have her true colors shown since I asked her to be in my wedding!! My other BMs have been working together so nicely. They are all so sick of this girl and can't stand her anymore. She has been nothing but trouble for them. At first, I was defending her because I know she can be difficult, but she is a good person. But, seriously, get a grip!!! I'm not defending her anymore. Once I found out she wasn't going to my bach party, I flipped out. I texted her yesterday and totally called her on her bs. Then last night, she texted me that 'where there's a will, there's a way...' At this point, I really don't give a $h!t if she goes or not. I'd almost rather she didn't because I don't want her there with a puss on hr face. I'll freak out.

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Posted by KroertGS

Gosh, I can't believe how common this is!!! This particular BM has been my friend since college. She always says how I am one of her closest friends and that she values me so much....but, boy, have her true colors shown since I asked her to be in my wedding!! My other BMs have been working together so nicely. They are all so sick of this girl and can't stand her anymore. She has been nothing but trouble for them. At first, I was defending her because I know she can be difficult, but she is a good person. But, seriously, get a grip!!! I'm not defending her anymore. Once I found out she wasn't going to my bach party, I flipped out. I texted her yesterday and totally called her on her bs. Then last night, she texted me that 'where there's a will, there's a way...' At this point, I really don't give a $h!t if she goes or not. I'd almost rather she didn't because I don't want her there with a puss on hr face. I'll freak out.

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umm i think we have the same BM HAHAHA

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Ahhhhh this is the reason why I chose not to have a bridal party LOL

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I have a BM who might not be able to make it to my bachelorette party but she approached me about it first and was very upset about it and was honest with me. She didn't cause trouble with the other BM's, so if this BM of yours has a real reason not to be able to go there doesn't need to be problems over it. It's sad that this is how she is acting. I think some people who aren't happy in their own lives have a hard time being happy for others, and unfortunately they take it out on the people closest to them in these situations. If this BM is not being supportive just ignore her comments, and advise the rest of your bridal party to do the same. Ignore her actions just give her the info you have to and don't let her stress you out or bring you down! Your real friends will be there for you through this! And then hopefully she will come around too.

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Posted by natalierose1085

I have a BM who might not be able to make it to my bachelorette party but she approached me about it first and was very upset about it and was honest with me. She didn't cause trouble with the other BM's, so if this BM of yours has a real reason not to be able to go there doesn't need to be problems over it. It's sad that this is how she is acting. I think some people who aren't happy in their own lives have a hard time being happy for others, and unfortunately they take it out on the people closest to them in these situations. If this BM is not being supportive just ignore her comments, and advise the rest of your bridal party to do the same. Ignore her actions just give her the info you have to and don't let her stress you out or bring you down! Your real friends will be there for you through this! And then hopefully she will come around too.

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ITA!! I have another bridesmaid who approached me in the same way. She was honest and is not able to go because of legitimate reasons and I completely understand. She is not causing issues with the other girls.

This one is just throwing out BS!! I wish she would just be honest. If she can't go, talk to me about it an be honest....and stop causing issues with the rest of the girls!!

vent: beginning to hate a bm

I feel like there is one in every group. I have one who has been my friend forever but she is being extremely difficult and now downright rude! I'm getting real tired of this crap real quick.