VENT: I kicked out 2 Jr. BMs and 1 FG. . . . and MORE.....

I tell you, some people just don't understand. The 2 Jr. BMs and 1 FG are sisters, their mother has gotten me on my last nerve regarding the money. HER children begged and begged to be in this wedding, and are all excited, and she can't all of a sudden come up w/the money for their dresses. I've done everything I can to make things inexpensive, sayign they could even buy their shoes at Payless, ordering dresses from Netbride (prices are 130,130, and 96)
Yes, then no, then yes, then no, this whole freakin roller coaster as to whether they are in the wedding or not. By the way, she is LOADED.

One of the girls even got fitted already for her dress
Now, all of a sudden, it's back to 'well maybe I'll just put ONE of the girls in. . . ' but this was AFTER all the girls know they are in the wedding, they are so darn excited to be in 'Auntie Lizzie's wedding'.
Finally I call the mother, over and over again, she never returns my calls. So I reached her this morning, and ended it once and for all, I said NONE of the girls will be in the wedding, and that's my final word. UGH why the heck do I have to go through all of this?????????

I am so ****ed, I had the worst weekend, stress all the way, my BP calling me about the bridal shower, like why should I be involved in this, I had to call my Matron screaming and yelling that if one more BM calls me about the bridal shower, I am eloping.
Worst thing, is they are asking me if they could have the bridal shower the WEEKEND BEFORE my wedding, Memorial Day weekend, WTF???? I have enough crap to do that weekend, and they want to have a shower?????? I was so p-d off, I was like NO WAY, too much to do, then the whole process of them explaining why. . and so on and so on...... I was like I never do this to them for their wedding.... UGH

So thank GOD for my Matron, who made several phone calls to the BP and told them they are not under any circumstances to call me about the bridal shower. She also told them they are NOT having the bridal shower that weekend, (she'll be in Hawaii anyway) and my sister piped in she will be way too busy that weekend also. I tell you, I'm ready to strangle someone.

Poor Len, all he could do all weekend was watch me curse people out on the phone and scream out loud for nothing (I consider that great therapy) and try to hold me in my Bridezilla moments.

But it's over, for NOW, I hope.......
Sorry, I had to vent. .. .

Awww Liz, Sorry to hear you had a stressful weekend Just know that in the end the day will be everything you planned for and you'll look back on the process as a growing experiment.

Oh Honey- I am SOOOOOO with you!

I have an unaccomodating bridal party from hell who insists on making their wrap from the fabric instead of oredering it to fit.... Insisted on black bridesmaids, two piece separates when I wanted wine, refused dyeable shoes to match the dresses I chose, and two of them insisted my sister (who selected the same dress as them) wear a different dress so that the heavier bridesmaid be comfortable in what she chose- even though my sister would not be happy in that. I was like freaking!!!

I feel for you and YOU DID THE ABSOLUTE RIGHT THING!!! Thank G-d your MOH is awesome!

Wow, I congratulate you on having the courage to take a stand. You did the right thing.

Liz

Your post has me laughing....you go girl. This one weekend of STRESS is going to be soooo worth it, not to have to put up with BS the whole way to the wedding

Sorry everyone is giving you so much stress.First of all none of the BMs are supposed to discuss the shower with you at all.Its supposed to be a surprise.What is wrong with them?
As far as the lady who keeps complaining about the money for the FG dresses,I would have told her to just forget it too.Its causing you too much aggravation.

Liz, sorry you had to go through that! how awful of people to cause unneccesary stress! people just don't think, they do not realize everything that is on your mind and how hard you are trying to make your day perfect... but do not worry, you did the right thing! And your day WILL be perfect no matter what! Sometimes we need to yell to get people to understand and back off. I feel bad for the FG & JBM though, but its not your fault!!

I am so sorry about all the stress. I feel bad that the mother of your Jr BM's and FG backed you into this corner.

And your BP has no business discussing the shower with you and shoud have sense all on their own to not even think of planning it the weekend before. I am glad everything got straightened out now and not before it's too late.

Liz,
Too much!!!!
I also kicked out a BM-actually she kind of backed out, saying she can't afford to be in my wedding. Meanwhile, she knew for a year & a half that she had to prepare to buy a dress & shoes..She gave me a hard time from not wanting makeup or hair done etc.
She HAS the money, she just is CHEAP.
Who needs her.
Liz, you have a big enough BP from what I remember so don't sweat it!

Thanks everyone
I feel so much better letting it out and hearing all your responses. I'm glad I kicked them out b/c I would have to deal w/the BS all the way till May. But yes, I feel bad for the children, b/c they have really been looking forward to this. . .

Jenn, too funny, yes, my BP is so huge, that it won't even make a differece, I still have another JrBm and 2 more FGs.

oh, and I'm glad you all agree w/my decision. Phew !!!!!!!!

Less people less stress. Your MOH(s) should handle anyting BP related. Don't let them stress you out. # less people, your floral budget should be minimized now right?? just trying to add a lighter spin on things. Chin up sweetie, all will be well.

Ooh, that's right Shamma I could cut a few bo-ks off my florist list YAY!!!!!
And if I kick out about 2 more ppl, I could lose a limo

Liz, I am sorry your weekend was so stressful. I'll tell you the thing I hate more is when someone gives me the runaround... You have every right to not have those girls in your wedding. I'm sorry you had to go through this I hope this week is less stressful! Remember we are here for ya!

Oh Liz, it's terrible that you have to go through all of this but....

YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!

Liz, I am sorry you had to go through this.

It is stories like this, that make me more confident in my decision to not have a bridal party , just a MOH, fg, fr, bm,and groomsmen.

I have NO patience to deal with crap like that.
FH was upset that I did not ask my friends to be in the wedding, but I told him what I was setting myself up for and he understood.

Liz, this is for the best. You need people you can depend on and these people are not that.