oK SO FH and I were talking about the wedding last night. And we were talking in front of FMIL and FFIL. FH made a comment (as a joke)like if someone gives us 50 bucks as a gift he wants to send it back and say thanks but no thank. FH is a massive jokster. FFIL thought it was hysterical and FMIL thought it was fine until she thought and assumed we were saying that he sister and her side of the family were gonna be the ones shorting us. FMIL threw a fit and started telling FH that hes a jerk and doesn't know when to keep his mouth shut. THe reason Im venting this is because I really didn't want her to think we were aiming towards her family, Her family has been nothing but welcoming and sweet. I dunno I just feel bad. Any advice to talk to FMIL and set things straight? I already apologized but I still feel horrible. FH says she'll get over it but I so don;t like seeing her upset being that His parents have taken me in and treated me as if I was their own.
christine2010
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i understand that you want to do something to fix it, but FH said it to his parents. its not your fault.
marinai7
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I don't really know what else YOU can say, you apologized on your FH's behalf. He's the one who said it, not you, so not sure what else you can do. I'm sure it will blow over.
MarjorieFrank
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You didn't do anything so don't feel bad. FH said it by himself, not with your influence.
FutureJOC
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I have always found it best to stay clear of any problems directly involving DH/FI/BF and his family. In my experience, it has only ever caused problems b/w me and the person I am with. That is why I vowed never to do it again.
That's not to say you shouldn't try and talk it over with your FI and show him that he should really try and fix things with his mother, but don't be pushy about it, otherwise it might turn on you. I wouldn't go the route of addressing the issue directly with FMIL. Let FH handle things with his mother.
amarra121
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Thanks guys. Your right. Thanks.
jcreilly
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I would not say anything Fh is the one who said it and his mother will most likly get over it, dont worry it will most likly pass
DaniandKen2010
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Stay out of it I have learned that is the best thing to do.
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I'd just keep my mouth shut. It was his comment to his parents so it's his problem. They shouldn't hold anything against you and probably won't. She'll definitely get over it.
JAAMS
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I agree w/ the other girls.. you didn't do anything, so I wouldn't get too upset about it.
Jna2010
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you already apologized, and your fh was the one who brought it up, so theres not much more you can do. Im sure she might appreciate an apology from your fh, but thats up to him
