You are absolutely NOT a bridezilla. To be perfectly honest I think you are one of the calmest brides on here. You have done everything at a steady pace without rushing anything. I feel terrible your mom is acting this way. I have the opposite problem - my mom thinks its her wedding - yikes! I know this is a very hard thing to be going through but what if you didn't involve her as much. It looks like you and Brad have everything under control on your own. I truly feel you are going to have one of the sweetest ceremonies and an awesome wedding. I hope your mom starts to realize that as well
My mom has been the same way- acts like it is hers yet has barked the BRIDEZILLA comment to me... which is crazy bc yeah, all my friends and FH thought I ouwld be one but I have been so calm and relaxed... when my mom told me this I squeezed my fists sooo tight under a pillow and bit my tongue.
Lauren, Ya knwo what s*** is having this amazing time that you are going thru and the one person that you wish was right there, agreeing with you & as excited as you are , is the one person who is causing you to be unhappy! It was May/June when all this stuff went down with my mom and it was really a tough situation that I wont bore you all with BUT if you need someone who understands, believe me I do! Please do not hesitate to FM me. I am so sorry that you are feeling this way!
As far as the rehersal dinner- you are not asking too much at all! Whats the harm in having one? That IS the time when you typically give your BP their gifts and stuff and like you said, you all get together before the wedding- you are not a BRIDEZILLA... at all! I do not knwo your finicial sirtuation with who is paying but is it possible for someone else besides your mom to pay for the dinner? Or is someone already paying for it? If its not her, why is she so upset that you wnat to have this one simple thing?
Again, I am really sorry FM me if yuo need someone!
Summertimegal424
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ugh i can see why you want my mom to adopt you! lol
seriously im sorry! and your are soooo far from being a bridezilla...geez
ttdiff11
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u are not a bridezilla!!! my bro didnt have a 'rehearsal' but still got everyone together to give gifts as well. i think its a great idea!
KimiDanny1010
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do you think your mom feels obligated to pay for the rehearsal dinner and that is why she is opposing it... bring up to her that you can just have a small little gtg with your bridal party and parents maybe make the food yourself or something like that to save money ?!?
BarbieGrl10
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You CAN have whatever you want! Its your day and bigger.... its your life! I dont think you are being a bridezilla at all! Sorry hun
beram63
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aww, i'm sorry your family is putting a damper on things. i think you're entitled to want to get together with your BP & family the night before. it doesn't need to be a second wedding, so idk why she's acting like you're demanding this big, elaborate thing. don't let it rain on your parade.
jenniferd
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I DO NOT think you are being a bridezilla! I thought everybody had RD? I think it is a good idea anyway to have one. Cheer up, maybe she will come around.
MrsLarrea2B
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Don't worry, you are not the only one with a whacky mom.
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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Lauren you are such the bridezilla... wth were you thinking?!?! i mean seriously, you need to chill out.... you are making this wedding soooo impossible for her with all your demands!
hahah i actually can hear her voice in my head as we speak.... if you are paying for thr dinner, fine... if not, there needs to be come kind of compromise between you 2... i actually feel like her and think a RD isnt needed, but its what you and brad want so she should be able to work something out with you 2...
MrsZtoBe
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I bet it is the money thing. My dad is a lot like this. He gets cranky over things for really no reason.
Maybe try to do something really low key and try to level with her. Dig deep for some patience...
'Are you concerned about money because we are going to take care of the cost mom.'
I try to do this with my dad and it usually deflates his crankiness...
Usually my dad is cranky at first and then he gets over it and thinks its a great idea.
HTH!
dazies1011
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Im sorry Lauren but, I have to say it is up to you and Brad on what you guys want to do. Ant and I are just having a dinner at our place with the BP. We will give out the gifts and eat,lol. Maybe when it gets closer to the wedding your mom will be more excited
