Vent w/ question at the end...(kind of long)

alissa5517 Posted: Apr 05, 2008 09:35 AM

Vent w/ question at the end...(kind of long)

I truly LOVE FH's family. I just don't understand how we became the outcast of the family. It wasn't like this a year ago. After his mom past away we moved to suffolk county to be in a house on the water that we can buy after the wedding. Ever since we moved it is like out of sight out of mind. We were very close with some of his family and now they never ever call us. There have been a few major things that have gone on that we were never told about and get togethers that we never got told about.
Well today was the last straw. My FH called his brother to see if we are still hanging out tonight and he said that he is not sure because he may be going with one of their Aunts to another Aunt's house because she is so upset about everything. When FH asked what she is upset about his brother told him that his Aunt has Cancer and only has around 6 months to live. They have all known this since before Easter and not one of them bothered to tell us. My FH is soooo upset. FH is going to talk to his family but there are a few people that I want to say something to myself. Is it wrong for me to open my mouth at this point.

Kerin2804 Posted: Apr 05, 2008 09:40 AM

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I am truly sorry that you have to deal with this. Perhaps let fh speak to his family first and see what their response is.

empressdani Posted: Apr 05, 2008 09:42 AM

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that is tremendously f-ed up! I would stay out of it though and let FH deal w/ his family. When there are stressful times like confrontations people always look for a scapegoat and you don't want to make it you....

deb08 Posted: Apr 05, 2008 09:44 AM

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you have fm

alissa5517 Posted: Apr 05, 2008 09:53 AM

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Thanks guys. I guess deep down I know I should keep my mouth closed for now. We just wish that we had known all this time cause we could have called and gone to see her.

lyss0908 Posted: Apr 05, 2008 10:13 AM

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Posted by empressdani

that is tremendously f-ed up! I would stay out of it though and let FH deal w/ his family. When there are stressful times like confrontations people always look for a scapegoat and you don't want to make it you....

I completely agree
I am sorry to hear you and FH are going through this. Sometimes families can really s***

emcheung Posted: Apr 05, 2008 10:15 AM

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i would feel personally offended as well, eventhough it is his family. i would let him approach it first, but definitely be there for his moral and psychological support. good luck!

hyphenbride Posted: Apr 05, 2008 10:40 AM

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I think they're better off talking to your FH. After all, if they fight...with family it's hard NOT to apologize. With future in-laws, it's easier to stay angry.

mrsdraskin2009 Posted: Apr 05, 2008 02:18 PM

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wow thats awful....here's some big

RisiLeigh Posted: Apr 05, 2008 03:36 PM

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I know how you feel. FH has always been seen as the 'black sheep' of his family and it really pisses me off how they treat him sometimes. He is always the last to know everything!

I am a very non-confrontational person, so I generally let him handle his family. I bite my tongue on a LOT, esp with his one sister, just b/c I don't even want to get into it with her. I vent it out with him later on but during the moment I keep quiet.

I'm sorry you're going thru this. If you ever need to talk, feel free to FM me.

FutureMrsCarrieri Posted: Apr 05, 2008 07:38 PM

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I agree with the other girls -- let FH handle it for now.

Mici n KC Posted: Apr 05, 2008 07:45 PM

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I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's so not cool at all. My dad's family is like this. My dad and my aunt are the only ones left in NY and everyone else is in NJ. They never are told anything and it pisses me off so much. How dare they. I flipped out on my aunts and uncles about this. FH needs to do the same. He is part of the family and NEEDS to know what's going on.