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chrispar Posted: Nov 04, 2007 05:46 PM

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I am so sorry that you are feeling this way. I honestly dont know what to say to you to make you feel better but just know that on your very special day at your very special place your dad will be there with you. No matter how you feel right now he is with you always and in time I hope that these feelings get better. Maybe your feelings were so severe because you haven't been back there. Maybe try and go once a month until your wedding just so that you feel better.

minibride08 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 05:51 PM

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I'm sorry that you are feeling this I too will be celebrating my wedding day w/o my father. He passed suddenly a few days after my first date with FH. I've tried just focusing on all of the good & positive that has come into my life since and am constantly thinking how the wedding will be a celebration!!

I've been to the Riviera and it's beautiful!!! Maybe keep in mind that is what your father would have wanted and he's there with you CELEBRATING!!! Try to look at it on the positive side and hopefully that will help you as it's helped me. FM me if you want to talk more...

mathteach Posted: Nov 04, 2007 06:00 PM

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My heart is with you... can I just say tonight was not an ideal situation, it was a nut-house there. Why don't you make an appointment to go back when you can not worry about getting trampled. Maybe the tons of people added to your anxiety and made you even more stressed?

Hope you find happier times.

jenlen Posted: Nov 04, 2007 06:28 PM

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I can't imagine how you're feeling....but I think your dad would have soooo wanted you to get married in the place that he loved for you to get married in.

And just remember...that he WILL be there....even if you can't see him.

ILOVEBRIAN2008 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 06:28 PM

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oh nooo im so sorry colleen!!!! i cant even imagine what your going through and i know it must be really really hard! Just know that your dad will always be with u in spirit and im sure u will get more 'signs' from him...im sure he would love for you to have it at the riviera...u dont live far from it so maybe visit it every once in awhile before your wedding to feel more comfortable there...or look to see if you can maybe change your venue if you think u will be really uncomfortable....either way im here for u! and if u need help with ANYTHING, wanna chat, or go out to eat or anything let me know!!!!!

Toucan311 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 06:32 PM

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Colleen do you think if you go there more often the feeling would lessen? Like, what if you went to observe ANOTHER wedding there, maybe then the associations wouldnt be the same??

alymikewedding08 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 06:32 PM

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I am so so so so sorry that you are upset.. and I am so so so so sorry that there is nothing I can do to make it any better. I can't even imagine what you are feeling.. but I hope you know that we are always here for you. I know your dad just wants you to be happy.. and enjoy your day.. he really will be there with you.. on your wedding day and always

sassygirl9 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 06:45 PM

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I'm so sorry to hear you felt this way
I can't imagine what you are going through or how you feel, but know that no matter what I'm sure your dad is with you at all times and if he loved that place it has sentimental value now. As the other girls have mentioned, if you change it, I think you will feel sad about that later.

SugaBeans Posted: Nov 04, 2007 06:57 PM

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aww colleen it must be so hard for you feeling all of these different emotions. but like you said in the end, your dad knew where you are having it and was probably so happy for you. we're all here for you. be happy you are getting married and be happy knowing your dad knew you are going to be taken care of by a great guy.

Crystan08 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 07:00 PM

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I am sorry you feel so sad and it is bittersweet. Since your Dad loved your RH so much i am sure he was with you again while you were there.

ChristineAaron08 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 07:52 PM

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Obviously only you can make the decision, but I would think it was great that something he helped plan was still taking place.

On the other hand- he would never want you to be upset.

I can totally see how it would bring up memories for you though.

Are you able to change it at all or is it way too late?

emomma17 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 07:57 PM

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I am so sorry that you are going through all those emotions right now it must be very difficult. I agree with most of the others that say down the line you will be happy you stayed there because your father loved it.

DCLM726 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 07:57 PM

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I am so sorry that you are upset. I cant imagine what you are feeling. No matter what , your dad is with you and wants you to enjoy the day whether it means keeping this hall or changing it to a different one.

We are also here for you if you want to talk.

JavyL008 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 08:00 PM

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Although it hurts now and conjures negative feelings, I think that on that day knowing that it is what your dad wanted will put you at peace and make you feel like he is with you on that day...it's like a wedding day attachment to him that you still get to have if you can look at it that way...cheer up and vent whenver necessary

Soon2BeMrsFitzy Posted: Nov 04, 2007 08:02 PM

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SoontobeMrsMc Posted: Nov 04, 2007 10:42 PM

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I'm so sorry that you're feeling this way. I know exactly how you feel and it *****! But remember what we talked about...Our dad's are looking down on us and not wanting for this to be a sad occasion. You know he wouldnt want you to be feeling this way. You said it yourself... You picked this place bc you knew your dad would love it. Well, that's even more of a reason to use this place. It will be a reflection upon your dad and what reminds you of him. I know it's hard... I'm going through the ups and downs right now too. But we need to remember that they are watching over us every day- and especially on that day. FM if you need to talk!

blu6385 Posted: Nov 04, 2007 10:59 PM

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i am sorry

lucamon Posted: Nov 04, 2007 11:04 PM

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I am so sorry this happen. I'm sure your dad would want you to have a smooth and happy wedding there. Be strong.

hannahshim Posted: Nov 04, 2007 11:07 PM

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I'm soo sorry your going through such a hard time.. but If you change your wedding place and date you might regret it down the line.
no matter what you choose to do your dad will be there on the day of smile down at you thinking how beautiful you are and how proud he is..
stay strong