very strange please help dont know what to do!!!!!

Ok this one tops the cake with bizarre wedding issues.
I work in a fairly small office about 35 of us. I have been sending out emails about once a month asking for my co workers to give me their Michel’s coupons as I have been buying quite a bit of stuff for my wedding there. They have been very good giving me the coupons etc. I sent another email today for I still need to pick up a few odds and ends before the wedding.
I come back from lunch and there is an envelope on my desk with my name the person it’s from’s name and (shhh) written on it. I open it up and it’s a $50 coupon to Michaels that says here is an early wedding gift love so and so with the receipt (bought today during lunch, because there is a coupon on the receipt). I was like ***. Here is the weird thing; I do not speak to this person. She is very strange, although very nice and we basically have a hi - bye how are you going type of relationship nothing more. I would never talk to her out of work and not because I don’t want to but we have nothing in common at all. Yet she runs out at lunch to get me a $50 gift card!! Of course I thanked her and will give her a formal thank you on Monday but I am very thrown off by this. $50 is a lot of money to spend on some one you have a hi bye relationship with. However my boss told me during my last review that she along with other employees have mentioned to him how helpful and nice I am to them when they need my advice on something. The entire thing is just bizarre to me. I am very grateful but I feel I am now in an awkward position with her. Now I just decided last minute on Wed to invite a few co workers I am pretty close with. The people I work closely with she is not one of them. I just mailed the invites last night so none of them got it yet and I didn’t tell any of them they were getting it so word did not go out around the office…I don’t want any one to feel bad…so it’s not like she gave me this gift thinking it’s a ticket to the wedding. Problem is once of the people I did invite sits next to this girl. I suppose I am going to have to invite her now to my wedding I just don’t know what to do please give me some advice!!
-sorry so long-

totally crashing here but I checked my email after reading ur post and this was there......

http://www.michaels.com/coupons/081908/coupon.html

I dont need it because im not at that point in my planning where im making things etc.

So happy shopping!

btw- that was a very nice thing that the woman in your office did, and i wouldnt think that she did it for any reason other than being a nice person. although im not sure how to handle it either. sorry!

Just to clear it up..I defenitly am very greatful and it was so nice of her she is a very nice person but it was how it was done that is just so bizzare, she didnt give it to me in person but leaves it on my deks, then emails me to see if i got it.

The email I send out went to everyone in the office not just the people i invited. Just so strange. Now i feel obligated to invite her when i dont even speak to her just weird.

if you invite her now, it will be obvious that you only did so because of the gift card.

i say send her a heartfelt thank you card and leave it at that.

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Posted by Bride908

While I think that was extremely nice of her, if you do not feel close to her than I wouldnt invite her. I dont think its necessary. Maybe people in the office chipped in or its her way of saying thanks for your help.

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Good point.

That is VERY nice of her to do. Maybe she's just shy and is on a hi/bye relationship with everyone? It also looks she did this to get off your email distribution list asking for coupons (hence the words 'sshhh.')

I would send a thank you only, not an invite.

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Posted by LB and DC

if you invite her now, it will be obvious that you only did so because of the gift card.

i say send her a heartfelt thank you card and leave it at that.

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Ditto!!!! ITA.. she'll know its a 'pitty' invite (kind of) or obligatory invite...

I was send a good thank you and that's thant
good luck

I agree, don't invite her just send her a thank you.
That was very nice of her. Maybe this is her way of telling you she would like to talk to you more?

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Posted by wifetobe

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Posted by LB and DC

if you invite her now, it will be obvious that you only did so because of the gift card.

i say send her a heartfelt thank you card and leave it at that.

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Ditto!!!! ITA.. she'll know its a 'pitty' invite (kind of) or obligatory invite...

I was send a good thank you and that's thant
good luck

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she'd have no idea it was a pitty invite for the other people i invited in the office will get there invites tomorrow i just mailed them yesterday!!! no one here even knows they are invited yet!!

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Posted by soon2BMrsin08

she'd have no idea it was a pitty invite for the other people i invited in the office will get there invites tomorrow i just mailed them yesterday!!! no one here even knows they are invited yet!!

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If she wasn't on your original guestlist, I wouldn't add her JUST BECAUSE she got you a gift. It doesn't seem like you are friends with her. I wouldn't invite someone I was in just a hi/bye relationship with. She did it because 1) she's nice and 2) she wants off your distribution list.

personally I would return the GC and tell her it was very nice of her but just too generous.

question-in your emails do you tell everyone that you are getting married & would use the coupons for wedding related things?

the only reason I ask is because it would be very awkward for anyone that has been helping you out and then not get an invite to your wedding.

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Posted by kslmbuggie

personally I would return the GC and tell her it was very nice of her but just too generous.

question-in your emails do you tell everyone that you are getting married & would use the coupons for wedding related things?

the only reason I ask is because it would be very awkward for anyone that has been helping you out and then not get an invite to your wedding.

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my entire office knows i use them (the couppns) for my wedding but by cutting out a coupon doesnt mean they are helping me so much that they get an invite. There was someone here who recently had an anniversary party and we did the same for her with the coupons and no one here was invited to the party. we are just helping each other out. but to give someone you barley speak to a gc is kinda weird to me. and the way she did it was strange. idk it is what it is just bizare.

I think some people are generous that way. Maybe she thinks since you're always trying to get coupons that you would appreciate the gift card.

I don't think you need to invite her to the wedding. Don't feel pressured to.
I had one woman come up to me and say, oh I have your wedding marked on my calender....I was like OK um I'm not sure why because she wasn't invited...lol

A thank you card is good enough, maybe with a little Godvia chocolate or something..lol

I think this is a life lesson for you.

Sometimes even the most minute gestures of friendship and good will mean a lot to those we least suspect. Yes, sometimes just saying 'hi' especially to someone who probably has no friends can make a person feel special.

I think the gesture was sweet and unexpected-- not bizarre. After all those requests for coupons I think it's a great gift.

But you certainly don't HAVE to invite her to the wedding

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Posted by soon2BMrsin08

The email I send out went to everyone in the office not just the people i invited. Just so strange. Now i feel obligated to invite her when i dont even speak to her just weird.

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So don't invite her then. Like you said - I highly doubt she thought she was 'buying' a ticket to your wedding. PLUS, if you do invite her - then she might feel even more obligated to give you another gift.

So don't invite her.

I dont think you are obligated to invite her...she did a nice thing and you were thankful for it...i dont think shes expecting an invite..only those who are close to you should share this wonderful event, so dont worry about it.

aww she really wants to go to your wedding! lol

I bet she's just really shy? maybe?