very strange please help dont know what to do!!!!!
Original post by soon2BMrsin08
Ok this one tops the cake with bizarre wedding issues. I work in a fairly small office about 35 of us. I have been sending out emails about once a month asking for my co workers to give me their Michel’s coupons as I have been buying quite a bit of stuff for my wedding there. They have been very good giving me the coupons etc. I sent another email today for I still need to pick up a few odds and ends before the wedding. I come back from lunch and there is an envelope on my desk with my name the person it’s from’s name and (shhh) written on it. I open it up and it’s a $50 coupon to Michaels that says here is an early wedding gift love so and so with the receipt (bought today during lunch, because there is a coupon on the receipt). I was like ***. Here is the weird thing; I do not speak to this person. She is very strange, although very nice and we basically have a hi - bye how are you going type of relationship nothing more. I would never talk to her out of work and not because I don’t want to but we have nothing in common at all. Yet she runs out at lunch to get me a $50 gift card!! Of course I thanked her and will give her a formal thank you on Monday but I am very thrown off by this. $50 is a lot of money to spend on some one you have a hi bye relationship with. However my boss told me during my last review that she along with other employees have mentioned to him how helpful and nice I am to them when they need my advice on something. The entire thing is just bizarre to me. I am very grateful but I feel I am now in an awkward position with her. Now I just decided last minute on Wed to invite a few co workers I am pretty close with. The people I work closely with she is not one of them. I just mailed the invites last night so none of them got it yet and I didn’t tell any of them they were getting it so word did not go out around the office…I don’t want any one to feel bad…so it’s not like she gave me this gift thinking it’s a ticket to the wedding. Problem is once of the people I did invite sits next to this girl. I suppose I am going to have to invite her now to my wedding I just don’t know what to do please give me some advice!! -sorry so long-
Annoulak
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is it possible in a small office to tell the co-workers you did invite to not tell anyone they were invited?
Then, about a week before the wedding date, pretend that you can't meet your minimum and you decided to invite a select handful to your wedding (ie, the ones you have already invited).
That might be the easiest way out of the situation and your benefactor may not feel so bad.
KSquared
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Posted by kslmbuggie
personally I would return the GC and tell her it was very nice of her but just too generous.
question-in your emails do you tell everyone that you are getting married & would use the coupons for wedding related things?
the only reason I ask is because it would be very awkward for anyone that has been helping you out and then not get an invite to your wedding.
I thought I was the only one thinking this way. I would never e-mail my entire office - and mine is VERY small- asking for coupons to buy wedding stuff if I hadn't planned on inviting them to the wedding. I tried not to talk about my wedding to those who weren't invited as I find it rude.
But, that's not really the point here, you don't need to invite her - you're definitly not obligated too, but perhaps she thought she was invited as you were continually mentioning your wedding and asking for help in some capacity. Or it may have just been a friendly gesture. I think you should accept the gift and send her a formal thank you. JMO.
christine2010
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2010 bride here-
it think that it was very nice of her, but i do not think you should feel obligated to invite her. maybe she has been faced with the expense of planning a wedding & just felt that is she could help u out she should.
wundmoretime
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I don't know how to answer this but a coworker that was having a baby shower for her future granddaughter asked me for the Michael's coupons and I never thought of being invited.
mrsdraskin2009
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Some people just do nice things like that...When I had my e-party, I came into work a couple days later and there was envelope with my name on it. It was a cute card and $40 in it from a customer who I know and like a lot, but rarely see anymore. I was sooooooo surprised! It was very, very sweet!
I don't plan on inviting him to the wedding, though.
