Want some opinions

Jodi73 Posted: Jul 06, 2003 12:14 PM

Want some opinions

OK, here goes. Right now I am living in a very nice apartment in a very nice area. I am not too sure that my FH wants to move into this apartment for some reasons of his own. He would consider it though becuase the rent is really good. If we get a new place, we are going to be paying a lot more in rent, but it would be our place together, not his or mine.

For those of you that did not live together before the wedding or those of you that did, do you think it is nice to move into a new apartment to start fresh and a new life together.

This is driving me crazy as to what to do.

jennbaby Posted: Jul 06, 2003 12:16 PM

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I don't think it matters.

Whatever makes you BOTH feel comfortable

mishandgerard Posted: Jul 06, 2003 12:18 PM

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it makes no difference to me. my bil had his fw move into his place because it was bigger. they were both paying about the same in rent.

Lisa Rose Posted: Jul 06, 2003 12:18 PM

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my DH moved in with me to my apt right before we got married and we lived there for less than a year after we got married. We didnt want to go through the hassel of moving all the stuff because we knew we wanted to get a house before we were married a year!!

KathleenG Posted: Jul 06, 2003 12:46 PM

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I agree with Jenn; do whatever makes you comfortable. I always wanted to be the girl that lived the total single life right until I got married by having a place on my own. My fh and I wound up moving in together last year because financially it is just so much easier! A LOT of people are doing this for the same reason! However, moving in together has brought us so much closer and happier! You just never know! Best of luck to you; trust me things have a way of always working out!

Jodi73 Posted: Jul 06, 2003 12:54 PM

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Thanks Kathleen,

It is not that we do not want to move in together, it is deciding if we should move into my place or get a totally new place.

prncssrachel Posted: Jul 06, 2003 01:57 PM

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If the money factor is not an issue, and you can afford to live comfortably while paying more rent, then I would hear out your FH and maybe look for a new place. But personally, the cheap rent would be a big a factor for me.

Sonicstef Posted: Jul 06, 2003 02:12 PM

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All things being equal, a totally new place is nice.

But if you have a great apt with reasonable rent dont you dare move! The rental market is insane right now and you could be doing a lot more fun couple bonding stuff with the money you will save in rent.

butterfly20 Posted: Jul 06, 2003 02:21 PM

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i think whatever makes you comfortable... we both live at home, so when we get married we will then move into our house together..
i think if you have had sex with other guys in your appartment before him, that it would be a nicer idea to move into a new place that doesnt have those memories left, IMO...

if you decide to keep your place you can repaint the walls, and get new furnature that you Both picked out, so its more like both your place

karen32 Posted: Jul 06, 2003 02:30 PM

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FI moved into the condo that i already owned. i don't think it took away anything even though it was my space first. i just think you need to be more aware of it, and make sure you give him room for his stuff. it shouldn't look like he's renting a room from you, it should look like you BOTH lived there forever.