We should start a thread about

It's good to know I'm not the only one with FMIL issues. Sometimes its so hard to deal with...especially when FMIL, FBIL and FSIL gang up on you, make you look bad and FH is on my side but doesn't have a back bone to stand up to them.

FMIL can't control me or manipulate me. I am independent, strong, smart and I see right through her.

On the other hand, FSIL is perfect...FMIL does anything and everything for her and FH's brother...

I'm sure we can all trade war stories!!!

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Posted by KellymKuehn

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Posted by peaches42587

This thread could be a lot of fun! lol FMILS will never be happy with their daughter in laws. its just the way things are. She actually got me alone to ask me why I am going to be a good wife and why i love her son and why i think im good enough for him. I was like I couldnt believe she was asking me these questions. she's can be a doll or she can be a nightmare. however when she is a doll she expects you to do something for her in return. everything is a favor .

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Umm... What?!?! I would have flipped if she asked me that. Honestly, who does that? Were you on a dating game show?

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she's crazzzyyyyyyyy! thank god she lives across the country because i could never deal with her around all the time. ill just never be good enough and thats fine. i know im good enough so i dont need his mother and her family to make me feel like sh+t.

UPDATE: I had a discussion with FH. He says he sees the error of his ways (bla bla bla) we will see about this...he says he will ask my opinion first before he does his mothers (which he was doing last night at Home Depot)

My impression of FH last night : 'mommy which ones are good' 'mommy do you like this' 'let's get my mothers opinion' 'my mom worked so hard on this and all you can do is criticize'

My blood still boils when I think of it. But, I do realize he is about to turn 26...and has no other silblings so it's not acceptable but, understandable.

Nonetheless- Mommy needs to learn her place
and let me decorate my own bathroom!

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Posted by MrsBlueRibbon

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Posted by bride2bebe

So I came home to our new house that we have not moved into yet and the house is still having work done to it.....well, FMIL went to the house and yes, did a very nice thing by cleaning our bathroom BUT she put out our brand new decorative towels and bought us bathroom accessories without asking me!


FH- who is the biggest momma's boy called me an ingrate because I got mad!

I know she was doing a good thing- but am I wrong in wanting to keep things brand new untill we move in after the wedding and for wanting to decorate my own house????


Ughhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Aww sweetie, I can't believe this woman! ( actually I can, have a similar story!) That being said, your FH needs to be behind you 1000% otherwise you are going to go through this the rest of your life! FH needs to realize that you are Number 1 and everyone else is a distant 5th. My FMIL from H@LL does sthis sh@t all the time, but FH puts her in her place. He has told her more than once to cut the Cr@p otherwise she won't be in his life anymore. Yes, I know it's ironic that he has to keep saying this to her, but at least he does it. When we are married THEN I will be the one to put her in her place. You really need to have a long convo with FH about this, because my fear is if he doesn't back you now, or understand your point of view, he never will! Good Luck

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NOT ONLY may we have the same mother in law but, both of out FHs have the same name!

Do you think there is a connection here? lol.

I'm soooo there!!! Both drive me nuts-- they feel like they need to have a say in everything and when I don't discuss something with them that affects MY wedding they get annoyed with me.

I could go on for hours!!!!!!!!!!

After the wedding I'll be more than happy to come over and help you 'redecorate'. I do an excellent job at pulling out the weeds she planted too!!!

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Posted by GinaRandy2010

I haven't heard from my FMIL for over a month!!! I think she's mad at me over the fact that we're not having a religious ceremony.

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I would call you LUCKY!
The board idea sounds wonderful...could you include MIL too, not just future, b/c it doesn't get any easier once you are married

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Posted by bride2bebe

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Posted by MrsBlueRibbon

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Posted by bride2bebe

So I came home to our new house that we have not moved into yet and the house is still having work done to it.....well, FMIL went to the house and yes, did a very nice thing by cleaning our bathroom BUT she put out our brand new decorative towels and bought us bathroom accessories without asking me!


FH- who is the biggest momma's boy called me an ingrate because I got mad!

I know she was doing a good thing- but am I wrong in wanting to keep things brand new untill we move in after the wedding and for wanting to decorate my own house????



Ughhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Aww sweetie, I can't believe this woman! ( actually I can, have a similar story!) That being said, your FH needs to be behind you 1000% otherwise you are going to go through this the rest of your life! FH needs to realize that you are Number 1 and everyone else is a distant 5th. My FMIL from H@LL does sthis sh@t all the time, but FH puts her in her place. He has told her more than once to cut the Cr@p otherwise she won't be in his life anymore. Yes, I know it's ironic that he has to keep saying this to her, but at least he does it. When we are married THEN I will be the one to put her in her place. You really need to have a long convo with FH about this, because my fear is if he doesn't back you now, or understand your point of view, he never will! Good Luck

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NOT ONLY may we have the same mother in law but, both of out FHs have the same name!

Do you think there is a connection here? lol.

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That is really funny! Is your FH the only child of an Italian mother too?!

hmmm i think i kinda lucked out with the FMIL...

she only has boys, no daughters, and she once told my mom 'she couldnt pick someone better for her son to marry.'

and since she has no daughters, she doesnt know much about wedding planning; therefore, she doesnt get involved