Now that you are planning your own wedding...have you changed your thoughts on the amount you give people when you attend a wedding? I'm starting to realize it's not that easy to cover your plate when people are paying $160 pp. But I'm probably going to start giving people a bit more than I used to.
Same here...I feel bad now for the gifts I have given in the past, but at the time it was/is all i can afford...Hopefully people understand...
Posted by Mrs Z To Be
Most of our friends got married between 06-07, and we always gave $300, rule of thumb...our best friends that got married last month, we gave them $500. We were both in the wedding. You're right though....I think we are going to start giving $350, $400 if we can![]()
I've usually spent $150 per person. It's what I can afford. Though if at the time I can't do it, I'll go less. I wish I could do $200 per plate, but I can't afford that. I know many of my guests will be in the same predicament. I wouldn't expect them to break the bank to come to my wedding. Wish my reality was different.
Posted by traci506
Posted by Mrs Z To Be
Most of our friends got married between 06-07, and we always gave $300, rule of thumb...our best friends that got married last month, we gave them $500. We were both in the wedding. You're right though....I think we are going to start giving $350, $400 if we can![]()
I typically give $300, as well...unless it's someone I am super close to and I give more. I never realized $300 barely covers our plates...until I booked my own reception. I'm going to make an effort to give more now. But for the people that pay $250 or more pp...not sure I can cover that on a regular basis. Clearly they have the money! : ) I dont. LOL
Posted by amandah75
I've usually spent $150 per person. It's what I can afford. Though if at the time I can't do it, I'll go less. I wish I could do $200 per plate, but I can't afford that. I know many of my guests will be in the same predicament. I wouldn't expect them to break the bank to come to my wedding. Wish my reality was different.
Posted by RitasEngaged
Posted by amandah75
I've usually spent $150 per person. It's what I can afford. Though if at the time I can't do it, I'll go less. I wish I could do $200 per plate, but I can't afford that. I know many of my guests will be in the same predicament. I wouldn't expect them to break the bank to come to my wedding. Wish my reality was different.
I think 150 per person is a good amount unless you are in the bridal party.
I also think if you are not that close to the person than 100 per person is more than enough.
I feel as though if people book at a really expensive place they can't expect like $200 per person.
Our friend are getting married in Nov. FH asked me the other night how much we should give and i said whatever we give them they will give us. we are going to give either 300 or 350. They didn't pay for their RH so that is another reason why i feel we shouldnt go overboard
Posted by rocketsummer17
Posted by RitasEngaged
Posted by amandah75
I've usually spent $150 per person. It's what I can afford. Though if at the time I can't do it, I'll go less. I wish I could do $200 per plate, but I can't afford that. I know many of my guests will be in the same predicament. I wouldn't expect them to break the bank to come to my wedding. Wish my reality was different.
I think 150 per person is a good amount unless you are in the bridal party.
I also think if you are not that close to the person than 100 per person is more than enough.
I feel as though if people book at a really expensive place they can't expect like $200 per person.
its funny, b/c some brides I know who paid about 90-100 per plate were expecting to gain back triple what their parents paid for their wedding...They actually thought each couple would give $400 (even those of us who were still in college...like the bride!!)
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I feel the same way. I really had no idea what this cost like a year ago. I went to a friend wedding with my FH and we only gave $100 each cause it's all we could afford at the time. Now I'll either not go or hopefully have more to give.
Posted by Opera_Ghost
I feel the same way. I really had no idea what this cost like a year ago. I went to a friend wedding with my FH and we only gave $100 each cause it's all we could afford at the time. Now I'll either not go or hopefully have more to give.
Posted by Opera_Ghost
I feel the same way. I really had no idea what this cost like a year ago. I went to a friend wedding with my FH and we only gave $100 each cause it's all we could afford at the time. Now I'll either not go or hopefully have more to give.
In general, I try to be as generous as I can when giving gifts, but even more so now since I've been wedding planning. I do agree that people have to give what they have because everyone's situation is different. Ahhh weddings- can't live with them, can't live without out them..lol
Posted by jenny8484
i typically give $300 for me and FH. More if its a family member...
But it also depends on the location of the wedding too. FH and I attended a wedding in MA and gave $300 and we covered wayyyyyy over our plate based on the hall there (they had no open bar, etc). His friend was kind of shocked we gave that amount! maybe its just a NY wedding thing.
It all depends on who it is....the closer i am the larger the checks!
