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We got great news today - very surprising and very exciting. We found out that we are getting married at St. Patricks Cathedral in NYC! My FH had been working on this through a connection of his, and it came through. We couldnt' be more thrilled. He is super excited which means a tremendous amount to me. Anybody who knows my posts knows how upset I was about not marrying in the Catholic church, and now it's all working out. I was excited about marrying at the site, and had everything figured out - but I canot deny that I am thrilled to be making this commitment in a place that is so special to the both of us. The Cathedral and NYC.

The glitch? My mom is FURIOUS. She told me that she thinks it would have been more special using the original plan, that this will be so inconvenient, how will everybody get there, she doesn't want to walk down the aisle now, what about my sisters kids and finall....'nobody will come - the church will be empty'. With all the stress and planning, and now all the alterations that have to be made, I just wish she could say 'that's amazing once in a lifetime'. But of course not. It's all about her inconvenience and making me feel uncomfortable about our choice.

Keep in mind - my mom has done VERY little to help me. She lives about 5 hours from me in the Summer and has even complained that my shower falls on a 'great beach weekend'. I guess I am just venting. And I think I am stressed out with all this. Thanks for listening girls (and guy!)

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Oh My God!! St. Patrick's Cathedral!! You are so lucky!. Ever since I was a little girl, I had wanted to get married there. Wow! I remember watching weddings from outside. I am sorry your Mom isn't so happy.

Where is Oheka Castle?
Could you do a shuttle for your guests? Maybe everyone could meet at Oheka to drop off cars and then get shuttled to and from St. Patrick's.
I am going to a wedding in Oct.. The ceremony is in Sayville and the reception is @ the Marina del Rey in The Bronx. I don't mind but am honored to be attending.

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Thanks for the positive feedback!

See - NONE of my people are in Long Island. Everybody is from Jersey, Westchester and NYC. So I am figuring that most people will drive to the city and then drive to Huntington (where Oheka is), get settled at their hotels and then go to the wedding.

Ihope it all works out.I am a little nervous now that things are changing. I dont handle change all too well!

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What time is check in @ the hotel??? Most are 3:00pm. Maybe they can go to church, then hotel, then reception??

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Oh, you just said that! I am loosing it! I have been researching reasonably priced hotels in the Hamptons for my guests. Guess how many I found. NONE!
Good Luck!

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Jenny - St. Patrick's? How exciting!
I think getting married in NYC wouldn't be inconvenient to your guests. If they're coming from Westchester or Jersey they have to pretty much pass the city anyway. The only inconvenience would be finding parking near the church, or paying for a garage - not the end of the world.

PS - Oheka looks amazing!!

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I would be so psyched to be a guest a a St. Pat's wedding and then Oheka Castle - I think as long as there is at least an hour and a half for guests to get from church to the reception everything will be fine. Esp. if they can check intot heir hotel, freshen up, and then go on to Oheka Castle.

Congrats on St. Patrick's! It will be beautiful!

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How exciting to be married at St Patricks! It will be great. I'm sure your mom will come around. Stay positive and keep your chin up!

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guys thanks SO much. I feel so much better and am NOT going to let people get me down!!!!!

Good luck to all and I'll keep you updated! (anybody in the NYC area on the 9th of November at 2:00 - please stop in!)

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You are sooo lucky!
St. Patricks! Awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What a long aisle!!!! Gorgeous!!!!!

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A wedding ceremony at St. Pat's followed by a reception at Oheka is my idea of a dream wedding (and I'm not even Christian!). It's too bad that your mom is giving you a hard time about this wonderful opportunity, but try and tune her out. I've had mom issues myself, which has been surprising since mom and I usually get along great.

It would be nice if you could arrange for enough time for guests to get from the church to the hotel to freshen up and then to the reception. They'd really appreciate that I'm sure.

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jenny...I am not religious, so I the st pats is not a big deal to me...but honestly...you know how much I love Oheka...I would be sad not to be able to spend my entire 24 hours there!!?

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A wedding at St. Patrick's Cathedral will be gorgeous, it is many people's dream - enjoy every second, don't let anything get you down. When the day comes it will be beautiful and everything will fall into place! People who love you and your FH will be at the church to see you get married, no matter where it is. Good Luck!!

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How wonderful!

Are you being married in the Cathedral or the Chapel?

You may not have such a huge problem as most of their ceremonies take place in the late morning - allowing your guests plenty of time to get to Oheka.

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That is so amazing. I think your guests would jump at the chance to go to a wedding at St. Patrick's! Especially since it's not out of the way to get to Long Island from Westchester or NJ.

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I think it's FANTASTIC I absolutley LOVE ST Patricks! You could always see if you can make the reception for a later time if you feel that time may be a problem!! Once again Congrats!!!!

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Thats is great

You can take some awesome pictures. I wish you the best.

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Jenny11.9
St. Patricks! - You will never regret your decision to change your plans. Dont worry about the church being empty - lots of people will come to share your joy and to experience a wedding at St. Patricks.

A close friend of mine was married at St. Patricks. I had the honor of being a BM and doing a reading. The entire ceremony was just breathtaking.

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Jenny,
Congrats! That's so awesome! So sorry to hear your mom is giving you so much grief, but I guess that's what some parents do best. First of all she has to remember that this is YOUR wedding, not hers and since she's not picking up any of your guests, let them worry about getting there, if no one else has complained, why stress?! People will go no matter what if they care enough to want to spend your special day with you, most of our wedding guests do NOT live in Long Island yet we have a lot of people traveling a couple of hours to come to ours so.....they will come!!

As for your mom, if she hasn't helped and she doesn't want to walk down the aisle with you, that's her choice, not yours. She means a lot to you or obviously you wouldn't want her there, she needs to realize that. This is your day to shine, it's up to her whether or not she wants to be a part of such a huge and important day in your life!!! Sit her down calmly & explain that to her, after that....the ball is in her court & go about what you need to do & enjoy it!!!!

Again, best of luck & a lifetime of happiness!

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I have always wanted to get married in St. Patricks. I has been a dream of mine. I never pushed it because I would have had the same reaction. BUT GOOD FOR YOU!!! Go for it. Its your wedding day...your FH did something awesome for you...I say It's a once in a lifetime oppertunity. Have the courage that I don't and do it.