Wedding Is Off

Well ladies, my fairytale has come to an end. Three weeks after we choose our save the dates, my ex-fiance cheated on me. I think it is fair to say that his reasoning was 'spite' because I smacked him up (like 5 or 6 slaps) two weeks prior for letting me take the subway and walk home at 5am after telling me he didn't give a **** how I got home.

I smack him. I apologize and go to therapy.

He cheats. He treats me like I am a peice of **** and says this is all because of me!!!!

I am miserable. Regretful. And worse off, I'd forgive him if he let me.

Good luck to all you beautiful brides.

xoxo

well, i think it is also fair to say that i hit him once before and promised id NEVER do it again. that was over a year ago. So he says 'i told u, if u ever hit me again ITS OVER!'

what erks me is he waited TWO WEEKS to sleep with her. He admitted they spoke since the day after I hit him. Nuts.

I'm so sorry. Hope everything turns out for the best for you

So sorry sweetie.. Its not your fault he cheated.. If he cant handle things or problems in the relationship without having to turn to someone else then your better off.. You don't treat someone like that and you also dont do something irrational like cheating just to get back at you.. Spiteful or not spireful its WRONG!!! You will get through this and Im sure find someone that deserves you.

I am so sorry!!!

im so sorry you are going through this and you will hear this a million times, but its better to have found this out now than when you were married.

Cheating is a very very hard thing to get over because you can never be sure. I know you physically hit him, but you were upset and hurt. and that is something that can be controlled and would never happen again.

You should take your time in therapy and find out why you did that. Its almost like your pent up agression towards him came out that night

and for him to blame you is BS. you never cheat on someone if you have issues with them, you work it out stay together or you break up.

well, i think it is also fair to say that i hit him once before and promised id NEVER do it again. that was over a year ago. So he says 'i told u, if u ever hit me again ITS OVER!'

what erks me is he waited TWO WEEKS to sleep with her. He admitted they spoke since the day after I hit him. Nuts.

I'm sorry you're going through this but maybe it's for the best. Both of you seem to have some personal issues to work out- whether together or separately. Good luck!

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Posted by ktcafaro

well, i think it is also fair to say that i hit him once before and promised id NEVER do it again. that was over a year ago. So he says 'i told u, if u ever hit me again ITS OVER!'

what erks me is he waited TWO WEEKS to sleep with her. He admitted they spoke since the day after I hit him. Nuts.

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Im sooo sooo sorryyy.. It Seems like the issues are deep rooted so this may be for the best.. You hitting him and him sleeping with someone to get back at you is def not healthy and you both may be better off apart as hard as it seems Im sure you are a strong person and can get through this ! Good luck sweetie....

I am sending hugs your way. All I can say is that he is an a**hole, does not deserve you, and it is better that this happened sooner than later.

Your fairytale has not ended, it has just begun.

I'm so sorry you're going through this but, as the others said, it's probably for the best. It was NOT your fault that he cheated on you. Not even a little bit.

Honestly, i can't believe he'd let you walk home alone at 5am ... that shows that he didn't really care about your safety and well-being from the start ...

you could do WAY better!

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Posted by RFutureBegins2day
Your fairytale has not ended, it has just begun.

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well said!

I am so sorry to hear. But they always say things happen for a reason. Trust me, I know I almost married the wrong man. Then years after GOD bless me with my bestfriend and a wonderful man. I use hit my ex too, but if a man gets to that angry now, trust it will get worst later. So May GOD continue to bless you, and I know it hurts now but it will get better and you will find better.

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Posted by anjelagain

He would have cheated on you anyway! Men have a funny way of blaming things on women, PLUS the fact that hes getting under your skin like that that you have to slap him means that hes NOT the one... i have slapped my fiance... like a few times for similar reasons and its no reason to cheat, he sounds like a loser... be glad u found out before the save the dates went out!!!!!

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everybody keeps saying that, he would have cheated anyway. And the fact that he ADMITTED he began talking to her the DAY after I smacked him. Really? That soon. That bugs me. She is some hoodrat he has known for 10yrs because she has LITERALLY been hanging out on the SAME stoop in brooklyn for THAT long.

he says 'ive known her for 10yrs, if i wanted that, i coulda had it a LONG time ago.'

IT IS INSULTING! and they went to a MOTEL on cross bay blvd! 5hour motel. GROSS!

and shamefully, two days later, we slept together. and we have BEEN sleeping together until this Sunday when I said ENOUGH!

im a loser too....

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Posted by ktcafaro

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Posted by anjelagain

He would have cheated on you anyway! Men have a funny way of blaming things on women, PLUS the fact that hes getting under your skin like that that you have to slap him means that hes NOT the one... i have slapped my fiance... like a few times for similar reasons and its no reason to cheat, he sounds like a loser... be glad u found out before the save the dates went out!!!!!

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everybody keeps saying that, he would have cheated anyway. And the fact that he ADMITTED he began talking to her the DAY after I smacked him. Really? That soon. That bugs me. She is some hoodrat he has known for 10yrs because she has LITERALLY been hanging out on the SAME stoop in brooklyn for THAT long.

he says 'ive known her for 10yrs, if i wanted that, i coulda had it a LONG time ago.'

IT IS INSULTING! and they went to a MOTEL on cross bay blvd! 5hour motel. GROSS!

and shamefully, two days later, we slept together. and we have BEEN sleeping together until this Sunday when I said ENOUGH!

im a loser too....

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its not your fault
you will find someone else that will be better for you and treat you well

i am so sorry to hear that. i wish you the best of luck with your future...its definitely not your fault that he cheated. although there is really no excuse for putting your hands on someone, he didnt have to cheat. he could have just left. either way, maybe its for the best.

sorry love

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Posted by ktcafaro

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Posted by anjelagain

He would have cheated on you anyway! Men have a funny way of blaming things on women, PLUS the fact that hes getting under your skin like that that you have to slap him means that hes NOT the one... i have slapped my fiance... like a few times for similar reasons and its no reason to cheat, he sounds like a loser... be glad u found out before the save the dates went out!!!!!

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everybody keeps saying that, he would have cheated anyway. And the fact that he ADMITTED he began talking to her the DAY after I smacked him. Really? That soon. That bugs me. She is some hoodrat he has known for 10yrs because she has LITERALLY been hanging out on the SAME stoop in brooklyn for THAT long.

he says 'ive known her for 10yrs, if i wanted that, i coulda had it a LONG time ago.'

IT IS INSULTING! and they went to a MOTEL on cross bay blvd! 5hour motel. GROSS!

and shamefully, two days later, we slept together. and we have BEEN sleeping together until this Sunday when I said ENOUGH!

im a loser too....

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omg!!! He gave you details on the cheating???? The fact that he would just use someone else to get you mad and under your skin is wrong.. and the way he said I could have had her years ago is def uncalled for and insulting!!! He seems like he is a pro at this and you are going to be soo much better off without him. He sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too