Wedding Is Off

I'm so sorry hon!

Sorry hunn...

Seriously how could he not expect you to be upset after he made you walk home and some ungodly hour in the morning by yourself. And as for him --cheating he always wanted to do it! this was just his EXCUSE to do it!

Sorry

I am so sorry

i just need to find a place to live.

and move because seeing him everynight KILLS ME! I am the sucker here. he cheated and I am asking HIM to be civil with me.

Let me begin by giving you some . I know you feel horrible right now...but don't. YOU CAN'T MAKE ANYONE ELSE DO ANYTHING!!!! He is just using you as an excuse. To preface my next comment...I am older than most of the girls on here and have already been married and divorced once. I know will not make me very popular here but I feel the need to say something based on my life experiences...if you caught him cheating once I can guarantee that he has done it many other times you don't know about! Be grateful that you got out now before you were in a horrible marriage with a man who cheats on you and treats you badly. Stay strong.

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Posted by ktcafaro

i just need to find a place to live.

and move because seeing him everynight KILLS ME! I am the sucker here. he cheated and I am asking HIM to be civil with me.

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seriously you are the better person all around, and he is being a diick just to try and justify in his mind what he did.

you do NOT deserve to be cheated on! no matter what you did to him, you kept your issues confined to your relationship. You need to keep rememebring how you felt at that very moment he admitted to cheating, and keep that fire and anger going until you are out of his life forever. otherwise you will soften and take the chance of going back to him, then he wins.

Most guys who are dikcs are bad people. like seriously mean hearted people who do NOT deserve the unconditional love of a beautiful woman.

YOU ARE NOT A LOSER! if i had a place for you to live i would let you come snuggle with me and help you through this!

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Posted by fdnybride163

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Posted by ktcafaro

i just need to find a place to live.

and move because seeing him everynight KILLS ME! I am the sucker here. he cheated and I am asking HIM to be civil with me.

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seriously you are the better person all around, and he is being a diick just to try and justify in his mind what he did.

you do NOT deserve to be cheated on! no matter what you did to him, you kept your issues confined to your relationship. You need to keep rememebring how you felt at that very moment he admitted to cheating, and keep that fire and anger going until you are out of his life forever. otherwise you will soften and take the chance of going back to him, then he wins.

Most guys who are dikcs are bad people. like seriously mean hearted people who do NOT deserve the unconditional love of a beautiful woman.

YOU ARE NOT A LOSER! if i had a place for you to live i would let you come snuggle with me and help you through this!

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thank you. I am trying to be angry. I am trying to invision him sleeping with this hoodrat, but I can't. I finally cried today. Its been a week since this all happened. Still pretty fresh.

My birthday is next week. The holidays are coming. He propsed December of 09. I foresee a lot of heartache in my near future.

So many amazing things have happened to me recently (I passed the NYS bar exam!!!!) YET, I am miserable.

I feel worthless, ugly, insecure, and pathetic.

AND THE WORST FEELING, lonely! I know my friends would LIKE to be here, BUT THEY'RE NOT! so every night I just sit home and wait for him to come home... 1 2 3 4 5am. Sad.

We shared HIS car. I sold MY car to SHARE as a COUPLE to be FEASIBLE for our WEDDING! so guess who has NO CAR NOW? DING DING DING! im a prisoner.

He wants me to go stay at my moms. but i cant. i cannot crawl back. I need to pick myself up and get a new place to live. I am not crawling to my moms couch!

Oh sweetie i dont know what to say. My heart hurts for you. You're a bright, smart girl **congrats on the bar**
He's a f-in loser! and he is treating you like this because you cant stand up for yourself right now.

i want to hug you!

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Posted by ktcafaro

He wants me to go stay at my moms. but i cant. i cannot crawl back. I need to pick myself up and get a new place to live. I am not crawling to my moms couch!

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I'm not sure how old you are or your relationship with your mother, but there's no shame. Don't feel like you're crawling back. Sitting there in the house where he lives is not healthy for you- you need to get out of there yesterday!

Wow, I am so sorry that you have gone through this....I wish you the best!

it is not about my age or my relationship with my mom.

for my OWN security, I need to pick myself up and move foward, not backward. I already left the nest and I have no intension on going back. This is my home just as much as it is his. He's already weakened me enough... going to my moms and sleeping on her couch while he enjoys the lap of luxury is NOT happening.

not now at least.

maybe i need to be there to get the courage.

i know it sounds dumb... but i just cant leave.

IM SORRY! The GOOD thing is that you realized NOW that he is not 'the one'....it would have been worse if you would of married him, spent thousands of dollars and had his kids....imagine? that would be horrible!!!

Stay Strong girl--its not worth his tears. You should still stay in contact with us!!! we should get a group of girls and all go out--LADIES HAPPY HOUR? OR DINNER? nothing too crazy...time to talk, cry, laugh and forget about him!

You will find the 'one' just dont rush!

let me know if you are up to it!! even if you want to get a cup of coffee to talk!!

KEEP IN TOUCH! DONT GET SAD! HES NOT WORTH IT!

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Posted by thefloreswedding

IM SORRY! The GOOD thing is that you realized NOW that he is not 'the one'....it would have been worse if you would of married him, spent thousands of dollars and had his kids....imagine? that would be horrible!!!

Stay Strong girl--its not worth his tears. You should still stay in contact with us!!! we should get a group of girls and all go out--LADIES HAPPY HOUR? OR DINNER? nothing too crazy...time to talk, cry, laugh and forget about him!

You will find the 'one' just dont rush!

let me know if you are up to it!! even if you want to get a cup of coffee to talk!!

KEEP IN TOUCH! DONT GET SAD! HES NOT WORTH IT!

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I see your getting married at CB, we were too. Love that place.

LADIES! if there is anything I am ALWAYS down for at a time like this is GOOD COMPANY AND GOOD DRINKS!

so let me know!

talk about being the 'single' one out.

i'm so sorry i cant even imagine how you feel...stay strong and CRY..let it all out.

Oh I am so so sorry. but as a lot of girls have already said, it isn't your fault and if he really felt that way, this would have happened no matter what. Better now than after you are married.

Stay strong, this is the right decision- and we are here if you need any help.