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Wedding is Off! Very Long!!

Original post by JuneBabyBride

Okay I am home and ready to spill. As most of you are aware of the fighting and everything from the other day, PF (past fiance) agreed to get the apartment b/c he wanted to stay together and knew that moving in and proving he is mature enough to take care of is was one of the conditions of us staying together. We also discussed things, about the threating, no more of that, and things that bothered me and things like that but most importantly no more throwing in my face that he has to pay for everything and I don't pay for anything an how useless I am.

Well since he agreed which was only on thursday night, friday came along and instead of wanting to see me since we haven't seen each other in a week, he wanted to hang out with his friends, well I told him how messed up that is and to make a long story short he did come over b/c I started *****ing about the maturity thing again and to basically shut me up he gave in but the point that the first place he would want to be the day we made up wasn't here was screwed up.

Okay so since then we have gotten along, the whole 1 1/2. Welll today we went to the city to see the car show at the javitts center, it was going good for a while until he started *****ing about the money thing again which in then started to **** me off so I told him to drop it before it turns into a fight. Yeah right, he started with the threats again about if you don't give up all this stupid **** for the wedding then we aren't getting an apartment, or if you don't help with the apartment money then forget it. So I told him like always he agreed to get the apartment to shut me up and make up the other day but had know plans on sticking to it, like he always does.

Then the famous words, well if this isn't gonna work then give me my ring back. Now he knew I only had a few dollars on me so he said I owe him the money for my train ticket and the admission into the show and the taxi. Then he said I hope your few dollars gets you home on the train. He had our r/t tickets but was being spiteful and wouldn't give me mine. So I had to push the stroller, the baby, my pocket book, the diaper bag and the bag of stuff from the car show done track 19 by myself in penn station b/c he walked away, so we sat seperatly not even in the same car on the way home and I had called his mother to make sure she was babysitting tomorrow and she asked where dan was and I said I don't know, so of course she was like your in a fight again. She met us at the train station and he sat there and called me things and said to give him his ring back now and I refused b/c he owes me a couple thousand dollars on my cc.

Well he went in his mothers car and she took him to my house to get his car and he followed me to my door yelling at me to give him the ring, so I slammed the door in his face and he punched my car to get my car alarm to go off.

I had such a headache and this was making things worse so the baby fell asleep and I was going to take a nap and I hear his car, he came back with his mother in his car ringing my door bell calling my phone so I answered it and he said he has his checkbook, he will write a check for the amount he owes me and he wants his ring. We fought back and forth I told him I don't trust him, he will probaly bounce the check cause he would only lose $28 and then I would be out all the money, so then he threatened to call the cops so I said the number is 911 and hung up on him and shut off my phones. After ringing the doorbell a few more times he left.

His mother knows what a a55hole he is and usually takes my side, well I don't know what he said but she was completely on his side about this which isn't like her. We will see if she actually babysits tomorrow.

There is no going back now, he really just sealed the coffin. I just don't know what to do, I know I am so much better off but where do I go from here.

I am so sorry this is so long, but I feel better that I just got this whole story off my chest, even if I typed it and didn't speak.
Shamee Posted:

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This guy sounds like a total P.R.I.C.K. Thank the Lord you saw what he was before you got married. And what is the deal of his mother getting involved? She should be GRATEFUL you even let her see her granddaugther with a ******* son like hers. You are so much better off without him. It hurts like hell right now, but in time things will get better. TRUST ME. You dodged a serious bullet with this one. He would make your life miserable and anyone who treats you with such a lack of respect IN FRONT of his own child, doesn't deserve the honor of being a parent. Can I flatten his tires for you, please-please!?!? I'm soo angry at the way he treated you. I would call the cops and get a restraining order from him asap.

Scoop Posted:

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So sorry to hear this....maybe you should both take a break from eachother and try to figure out if you can work things out.
JennRenee Posted:

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I'm so sorry.
Just remember, even though the wedding is off, you are still a LIW girl. You are and always will be welcome here, and there will always be an ear ready to listen.
pschica Posted:

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i am so sorry to hear all yesterday but you did the right thing and surely one dya when your daughter is old enough to understand (if you decide to tell her about it) she will understand., you did her a favor by being storng and doing what was right for both of you right now. Maybe he will come arund, maybe he won't. She is lucky to have such a strong mom who is a good role model for her. You will be happy again, even if it feels like oyu won't . if you need anything, please fm me.

good luck!!
JuneBabyBride Posted:

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Ugggg, I am really mad now, his mother did pick up the baby today and I told her to meet me at my house to drop her off early b/c I did not want to go to his house later to pick her up b/c his mother said that we need to sit down and talk and try to work things out so I said NO F-ING WAY, we are done and I hate him so much. Now of course it was time to tell my side, so she wasn't as much on his side when she found out he didn't help me in the city and left me there to get home by myself and alot of crap that I knew he would lie to her about.

However when we got to my house sure enough he shows up like 2 minutes later, she set me up to talk to him and I am so mad. He got out of his car and said if my mother cuts you a check can I have my ring back. I said we are not doing this now in front of his mother and sisters and brother. So I walked inside and shut the door, so once again he rang the doorbell like twice this time, called my house and I didn't pick up and finally left.
swags1016 Posted:

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What is he so uptight about with this ring. What does he think you are going to do with it in one day? I am sorry that he is not getting the hint--cash=ring.


to you and Kayla.

Keep your chin up and keep being strong!
Sunny Posted:

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I agree with swags- I wonder why he is so attached to the ring. I can't believe he is continuing to treat you like this. I think maybe you should talk to him, only because it will be so much easier on your baby if you and her father have a civil relationship. I don't mean right this minute- wait until things calm down a bit.
I don't know you, but I am so proud of how strong you are!
JuneBabyBride Posted:

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I hate him right now so much I think I could spit in his face and not feel bad. I don't think I would I am not nasty like that but she is too young to understand right now, so I definatly need time before I will talk to him, which I will do one day, just not now.

Jenn524 Posted:

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I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this, but I have to say I think you made the right decision.

I also have to ask, why does he keep asking for the ring? Tell him you threw it down the toilet.
ChristineC68 Posted:

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SomedayBride Posted:

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You definitely made the right decision. Someone who is so fixated on getting the ring back, rather than getting the fiancee back has serious issues. Try to keep your chin up.
Marnles Posted:

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Meridith-
I just read this for the first time, and I'm so sorry you are going through this. But you know what - as ****y as it is to go thru it at all - better to go thru it now, then later. In the long run (probably impossible right now), you will learn and grow from this. You already know your worth - and Kayla's - and that is the MOST important thing.

You are probably doing Kayla a favor...that's all I can say. Hopefully one day he will mature enough to be the father that she deserves - but for now in your life, he isn't the husband that you deserve.

You my dear WILL FIND LOVE AGAIN. You've got so many wonderful qualities that mature men would die for. When you're ready - love will creep back in...

If you need anything at all, please always feel you can come here. If you ever want to go out for that drink, you just let me know. Send me an FM if you want and I'll give you my cell...

Big hugs and kisses!!!!!!!!

Marni

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