Well... I just need to vent...

I have 2 weeks from today until our wedding. I just cannot take it anymore. I've been crying for 3 days straight. I am so stressed out. I can't sleep, I have wedding nightmares and other nightmares every night, my eyelid won't stop fluttering (everyone is telling me it's stress related). I have been getting nothing but **LL from everybody. I want to tell my future MIL off, my mom is giving me a guilt trip, and blaming this wedding for their financial problems, the wedding party S**CKS. I JUST CAN'T TAKE IT!!! Aaaaaahhh!!! Do you know how serious I am about eloping. My FMIL said she was going to help us financially if we needed it. It wasn't a problem, well now she claims she has no money. You know it really aggravates me because 80% of the guest list is her friends/family. My parents are stressing about the money, and it's basically no one they know! I've just been getting a lot of attitude from my FMIL and I don't know why? I didn't do anything? Everything I do is wrong or it bothers her. She's very insulting. I don't know! This whole wedding thing is not fun anymore, we're not enjoying it at all. Everybody hates this person, I can't sit with that one, I GIVE UP!!! I know I'm babbling, but, I have so much anger and anxiety built up, I can't hold it in anymore. It's turned into a circus! No one appreciate anything, and it's all ME, ME, ME. Now my FI and I have been living together, so he's been seeing and hearing me all upset. He's been really good. He's also upset with his parents. Besides all this wedding stress, I have been having problems with everything else. Nothing is going right at all! My luck is never going to change. I'm sorry this is so long... honestly, I could keep going on, but I'm sure I've bothered you guys enough already! Thanks for listening.

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all i can say is hold out..try your best...2 weeks and it will be all over. hold your head up high and be grateful you are marrying the man of your dreams!
You are not marrying them, you are marrying him!

Melissa

I am getting married the day before you and I just want you to know you are not alone. This is all very crazy and to top it all I got in to a car accident yesterday! ( I am alright just very sore someone hit me from behind)
Just remember that you have the rest of your life with your fiance and that it is about you and him and that is all!! I wish I could help you more but just know that you are not alone and if you need advice please write!

Re: Melissa

melissa, i sent you mail

Re: Heathera...

I'm glad you're allright. Yeah, my mom got into a car accident last week. Someone hit her from behind too. Full speed. She injured her neck and back. Just what we need right before the wedding, right?

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My neck and back are bothering me as well, i had xrays and they said everything was fine though just sore. I hope your mom feels alright and remember that your wedding will be beautiful!

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I am so sorry you are going through such a hard time right now. Just remember your FI is by your side through all of this, and that your wedding day is about the love you two share. I don't know what to say about your FMIL, mine too is just horrible, it's shame they can't act with kindness, because they certainly aren't setting up a good relationship for years to come.
I think you should vent here all you want, talk to your good friends too, and try to get some sleep. Focus on the positives and try to put the rest out of your mind until after your wedding day. Hang in there.

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Melissa, please feel free to vent here whenever you feel like it. We are here for you, we do not want you to hold it in and make yourself sick. The ladies here are or have planned a wedding and we can relate with you and what you are going thru. You will be just fine in 2 weeks and all the things that seem so big now will be so insignificant and you will wonder why you ever worked yourself up over it. I wish you stress free days and nothing but joy and peace as you begin your married life with the man you love. That is all that matters.

Here are some stress free vibes to you (((((*****)))))

Here's lots of hugs to you <<<<<******>>>>>>>

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Melissa,
I am getting married next weekend and please know you are not alone! The last minute stress is unbelievable. I have heard from others this is normal. My bridesmaids havent been a bed of roses with helping me and forget my FMIL. Try to take care of yourself and hang in there. You will be ok.

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I have 320 days left and I can't sleep, I have nightmares and I get aggrevated over the smallest things.

Take a deep breath and try to relax. You are marrying the man of your dreams and you have to think of the positives.

Why don't you take a day off from work (or call in sick) and just give yourself a day for you. Go to a spa or go out to lunch with your mom or a couple of your girlfriends.

Laughter is the best medicine, so go see a comedy or rent some funny movies.

Best of luck to you and I'm sure in the end, everything will work out.

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HI Melissa,

I cant offer you advice, but i hope all works out. I will be thinking of you!! Your wedding will be wonderful!

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Sorry to hear you are stressing out about so many things. Just remember what the wedding is in reality....it is a party that will only last 6 hours that will symbolize the rest of your life with the man you love.
Try to stay focused on what is important (your health and happiness) and what isn't important (people *itching about table arrangements.) It is your decison who sits with whom and don't let anyone know until they arrive at your wedding...they won't *itch at you then!!
There are somethings you won't be able to control (like other people and their issues, the weather etc.) so worry about what you can control and above all relax and enjoy! You are marrying your prince!!

Melissa...

Welcome to the wonderful world of weddings! Didn't anyone tell you as soon as you became engaged that planning a wedding - especially a Long Island/New York wedding - stinks? So sorry none of us let you in on that awful secret!

Take heart, my dear. It is only ONE day out of everyone's life, and I PROMISE they will all be sunshine and roses on the wedding day itself. All of your anxiety and frustration is normal, and your stress with MIL and BM's is so typical - it seems like everyone has a thousand other more important things to do than help with your last minute wedding details, right? Join the club...I went through the same exact thing when I got married.

Remember the important things - your Mom is okay after her car accident, you are in love and marrying the man of your choosing, and under all those nerves, you are happy (I hope)

Try to confirm with all your vendors, and then take some time for yourself! You need to get some sleep, girl, or else you will have bags under your eyes on your special day. Don't sweat the small stuff - just give your FH a big 'ole hug and smile!
Happy wedding!

Re: Melissa...

I wish I had some great adivese or wisdome for you but I think the rest of the girls covered most of it. You won't be able to make everyone happy so don't even try. This is your day. Everyone should be worrying about making you and your FH happy. You two are the only ones that will really matter on that day. And some things will just be simply out of your control so just try to roll with the punches...and vent to us anytime. That is what we are here for.

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Hi Melissa - I remember those last two weeks well Its a crazy time.

Maybe do something totally different for a few hours to get your mind off the wedding and then try to refocus on all the beautiful things you have spent so much time on like your relationship with your FI, your beutiful gown, how much fun you will have dancing how beautiful and romantic the ceremony will be. Try to keep your focus positive, dont let anything or anyone spoil your wedding day.

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