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she told me that if her friend doesnt come she wont come- of course it was out of anger - but I said, so You are choosing a friend over your son? She said, well you and your mother are making a big deal out of nothing...
Posted by july06bride
she told me that if her friend doesnt come she wont come- of course it was out of anger - but I said, so You are choosing a friend over your son? She said, well you and your mother are making a big deal out of nothing...
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by july06bride
she told me that if her friend doesnt come she wont come- of course it was out of anger - but I said, so You are choosing a friend over your son? She said, well you and your mother are making a big deal out of nothing...
Then tell her to stay home. It's your wedding. If she wants to be like that-she can see the video later.
Your FMIL needs a reality check. It's not her call.
Posted by shellnroc
It just happened to me too.
I invited my cousin and his wife. I'm not too close to them and they live out of state. Well, my RSVP date was a week ago and they called up my mom to apologize that it wasn't sent out. But that they are coming to the wedding(my cousin and his wife) and that they are bringing their daughter too.
Ummmm....the invite was made out to Mr. and Mrs.xxxxx. Plus, the daughter is not like 5 and they need a babysitter she is like 25.
I just find it RUDE to take upon yourself to invite others to someone elses wedding.
I agree! no offense, but your FMIL is being a selfish BEYOTCH! and she's not even paying, so she has no say. end of story.
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by july06bride
she told me that if her friend doesnt come she wont come- of course it was out of anger - but I said, so You are choosing a friend over your son? She said, well you and your mother are making a big deal out of nothing...
Then tell her to stay home. It's your wedding. If she wants to be like that-she can see the video later.
Your FMIL needs a reality check. It's not her call.
I really hope I don't have any of these problems!!!
Posted by july06bride
there is no babysitter available for daughter so if she is not invited she cant come
That gives me an idea... hehehe
Posted by Naunie
Posted by july06bride
there is no babysitter available for daughter so if she is not invited she cant come
Ummm, it's 6 weeks away, how can they say that there is no babysitter?
Thats BS
Ok since so many of you have expereinced these Uninvited guests, how are you going to/have you handeled it? Any advice?
Posted by Angel2006
Ok since so many of you have expereinced these Uninvited guests, how are you going to/have you handeled it? Any advice?
IMO, it all depends on who is paying for the wedding.
Posted by CaseyVM214
Posted by Angel2006
Ok since so many of you have expereinced these Uninvited guests, how are you going to/have you handeled it? Any advice?
Ditto this!
it turned ugly... but push comes to shove and she got her way, the kid is coming, my mom saw/heard how upset I was getting over this and she told her forget it jsut bring her, I am so upset with the things FMIL said to me, especially since I considered us to have a good relationship. Its a mess right now, I am so sad! Fh is put in the middle and really doesnt want to be, but has to be, he doesnt want to fight with his mother, which I understand, but some of the things she did and said were wrong... he knows that.
I wanted no kids at the wedding whatsoever but I let DH's one 7 year old cousin come because they are really close and all but MIL knew other than that there were NO KIDS - so what does she do - the day of the wedding she let's her one niece bring her 1 year old to my wedding and I didnt notice it until during the second dance. So as I walked off the dance floor I said 'Who is that baby' and she tried to say something and I just said 'Get it out of here' and made them leave. I seriuosly disliked her for so many reasons previuos to that so at that point I could care less.
I’m sorry that this upset you so much and that you and your mom felt compelled to back down. just remember, you’re the better person! I only hope that this incident doesn’t set the tone for the future and I also hope that she doesn’t pull any more of these stunts!
Posted by july06bride
it turned ugly... but push comes to shove and she got her way, the kid is coming, my mom saw/heard how upset I was getting over this and she told her forget it jsut bring her, I am so upset with the things FMIL said to me, especially since I considered us to have a good relationship. Its a mess right now, I am so sad! Fh is put in the middle and really doesnt want to be, but has to be, he doesnt want to fight with his mother, which I understand, but some of the things she did and said were wrong... he knows that.
GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!
Posted by apkisles
I wanted no kids at the wedding whatsoever but I let DH's one 7 year old cousin come because they are really close and all but MIL knew other than that there were NO KIDS - so what does she do - the day of the wedding she let's her one niece bring her 1 year old to my wedding and I didnt notice it until during the second dance. So as I walked off the dance floor I said 'Who is that baby' and she tried to say something and I just said 'Get it out of here' and made them leave. I seriuosly disliked her for so many reasons previuos to that so at that point I could care less.
