We're on a break....

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Posted by GinaBambina88

I actually went through this before FH and I got engaged, things were going great, and then all of a sudden, he wanted a break! So i'm like, what for? What aren't you sure about? I know i'm a good woman, and if he doesn't know that by now (it was a year and a half at the time) then something is wrong. So whenever he called for about a week or so I would just ignore his calls or just make myself too busy for him. After we spoke for the first time in a while I told him I didn't have time for breaks and that he needed to decide whether or not he was willing to live without me. And he made the right decision...sometimes you have to give guys some tough love so that they realize how easily they can lose you so that they try extra hard to keep you... I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through...I know it's hard...but I think you should try not to make yourself too available to him for a little while...

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I agree good advice!

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Posted by GinaBambina88

I actually went through this before FH and I got engaged, things were going great, and then all of a sudden, he wanted a break! So i'm like, what for? What aren't you sure about? I know i'm a good woman, and if he doesn't know that by now (it was a year and a half at the time) then something is wrong. So whenever he called for about a week or so I would just ignore his calls or just make myself too busy for him. After we spoke for the first time in a while I told him I didn't have time for breaks and that he needed to decide whether or not he was willing to live without me. And he made the right decision...sometimes you have to give guys some tough love so that they realize how easily they can lose you so that they try extra hard to keep you... I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through...I know it's hard...but I think you should try not to make yourself too available to him for a little while...

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Thanks...I really am going to give him his space and I really do hope that he realizes how much he loves me

I think he might have cheated on me....

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Posted by DnellD809

I think he might have cheated on me....

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Why do you think that?

well i looked on the girls myspace that i didn't want him to hang out with and he did and she had a comment from her friend that said this...

Um...there is a relatively good chance I might be going to hell. Next time we go out...Hannah needs to watch out for your phone, and you need to watch out for my decision making. Had a blast though...well done (mostly) girls night.


And just the tone of his voice and the way he told me about the night.....I think something happened

I am so sorry.

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Posted by DnellD809

well i looked on the girls myspace that i didn't want him to hang out with and he did and she had a comment from her friend that said this...

Um...there is a relatively good chance I might be going to hell. Next time we go out...Hannah needs to watch out for your phone, and you need to watch out for my decision making. Had a blast though...well done (mostly) girls night.


And just the tone of his voice and the way he told me about the night.....I think something happened

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Well you don't want to make assumptions. Just give him his space and when the time comes, you should put all your cards on the table.

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Posted by DnellD809

well i looked on the girls myspace that i didn't want him to hang out with and he did and she had a comment from her friend that said this...

Um...there is a relatively good chance I might be going to hell. Next time we go out...Hannah needs to watch out for your phone, and you need to watch out for my decision making. Had a blast though...well done (mostly) girls night.


And just the tone of his voice and the way he told me about the night.....I think something happened

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You could be reading into more than what's there. IF you asked him do you think he would tell you the truth?

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Posted by PrincessJen

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Posted by DnellD809

well i looked on the girls myspace that i didn't want him to hang out with and he did and she had a comment from her friend that said this...

Um...there is a relatively good chance I might be going to hell. Next time we go out...Hannah needs to watch out for your phone, and you need to watch out for my decision making. Had a blast though...well done (mostly) girls night.


And just the tone of his voice and the way he told me about the night.....I think something happened

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You could be reading into more than what's there. IF you asked him do you think he would tell you the truth?

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well i already asked him that the last time we talked...he said no...but it's like I could hear it..he did...
I said I wanna know why she's going to hell and he said i don't know...the way he said it made me sick

i am so sorry...i hope things work out for you.

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Posted by DnellD809

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Posted by PrincessJen

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Posted by DnellD809

well i looked on the girls myspace that i didn't want him to hang out with and he did and she had a comment from her friend that said this...

Um...there is a relatively good chance I might be going to hell. Next time we go out...Hannah needs to watch out for your phone, and you need to watch out for my decision making. Had a blast though...well done (mostly) girls night.


And just the tone of his voice and the way he told me about the night.....I think something happened

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You could be reading into more than what's there. IF you asked him do you think he would tell you the truth?

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well i already asked him that the last time we talked...he said no...but it's like I could hear it..he did...
I said I wanna know why she's going to hell and he said i don't know...the way he said it made me sick

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Things will work out. He could be telling the truth & really didn't do anything with her. Try to focus on yourself & he'll come to see what he stands to lose.

WHAT?! If he has cheated...

I hope you find yourself a man that will treat you right and dump his *** to the curb, once a cheater always a cheater. Been there, and ya know what, he did it again!--- 3yrs wasted on a piece of poo. No woman deserves to be treated like that. I don't believe in 'slipups' jmo and if you spent the night at a guys place, how would he have reacted, just curious

Hopefully its not the case and your both just feelin weird with the distance yadda yadda....

My heart is with you, and we're all here to listen and give what advice we can....

Awwww I'm so sorry that you are going through this!

Oh my god.... are you serious. i'm so sorry. Why did he decide this

I am so sorry to hear about this. this has got to be so hard for you.
This is the time to really think about things. If you are questioning what he is doing in Colorado with this girl, you have to imagine that there will be other times in life where you will question hat he doing when you are not around.
I would want to know why he proposed he felt this way and he did feel like this when he proposed, what changed now?

im so sorry this is happening, i can only imagine the pain you are feeling and how sick to your stomach you must be about this heartbreak.

I sure hope he comes to his senses but regardless you should really consider what it means that he is doing this to you AFTER you are engaged. if he dosent take this seriously, how is he going to treat marriage?

you know I am thinking about you saying that your FH spent the night with some hoochie mama...and it reminds me of this story.
this guy I know was spending time with his freinds wife....and she went with this guy to visit his family and took off her wedding band when she came to visit the family. The husband seemed clueless and not until months later did he comfront her and you know what the wife and her husband's friend were having an affair.
The wife claimed that when her then husband proposed she cried b/c she didn't want to say yes. I think there are times people feel pressured into this situation.

I am sooo sorry!!!

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Posted by kab523

you know I am thinking about you saying that your FH spent the night with some hoochie mama...and it reminds me of this story.
this guy I know was spending time with his freinds wife....and she went with this guy to visit his family and took off her wedding band when she came to visit the family. The husband seemed clueless and not until months later did he comfront her and you know what the wife and her husband's friend were having an affair.
The wife claimed that when her then husband proposed she cried b/c she didn't want to say yes. I think there are times people feel pressured into this situation.

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That's terrible!!!