My FH and I were talking about that the other day...it would be strange to call my inlaws Mom and Dad. Is that bad??
May05Bride
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i don't think thats bad. We already had that discussion, and I told my FI that I will not be calling them Mom & Dad. I already have a Mom and Dad. He agreed, he would feel weird calling my parents that too.
So, my FI calls my parents by their first name. Me, on the other had, I call his parents - 'you'
LuvMyMichael
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I DONT KNOOOOWWWWWWWWWW. I need some help on this topic!
NPbride
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I call FI's dad by his first name (mom is deceased). FI still calls my parents Mr. and Mrs. No idea what's going to happen when we're married!
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I just call them by their first names. I was never really sure what to call them--I think I started with Mr. ___ and Mrs. _____. I gave up on that though
ETA: FH has never called my mom ANYTHING. Somehow he's managed not to call her by her first or last name. It's funny because she mentioned the other day, 'I don't think he knows that I know he's never called me anything. He can just call me by my first name--he should know that!'
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right now i call them by their first names. not sure what's going to happen when we're married. i feel like it's artificial to immediately start calling them mom and dad once we're married, so i was sort of hoping that we would gradually ease into it if it were going to happen at all. but they live in florida so we don't really see them too often so i have no idea!
they typically sign all of their emails 'mom' and 'dad'. but i still would feel weird suddenly starting to call them that.
i realize i haven't helped the situation at all. i've just added my own angst. sorry!!!
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ETA: FH has never called my mom ANYTHING. Somehow he's managed not to call her by her first or last name. It's funny because she mentioned the other day, 'I don't think he knows that I know he's never called me anything. He can just call me by my first name--he should know that!'
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I dont' know !! right now I call his mom by her 1st name and his dad.......well, i just kind of wait for him to look my way. - i know tha's awful but I'm too terrified that if I call him Mr. K--- he'll say 'oh call me Dad' and i just CAN NOT call them mom/dad ! FH calls mine Mr and Mrs. 'M' b/c I have this crazy long last name. - I don't know what he'll do once we're married.
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I've known my FIL's for almost 15 years. They have gone from Mr & Mrs to their first names. I haven't even figured if I'm going to do the Mom & Dad thing yet. Maybe when we have kids?
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I call them by first names. They sign cards, Mom and Dad. When we talk about them (FI and I) we say Mommy M or Mommy G.
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Thank you ladies, as always. I just don't know. My Sister in Law calls my parents by their first name, and my mom being the old fashioned Italian, HATES it. My father, on the other hand, can care less. He was laughing the other day and told my FH to call him O'l Bast***. So I don't know what I will call the in laws and I don't know what the FH will call mine. SUCH DECISIONS!!!
Aga
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I avoid calling them anything
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FH's parents are divorced and I call his mom by her first name. I call his father Mr. Cunningham - I think he wants to be called dad, but that's just not going to happen. I'd like him to call me by my first name, but for some reason when he gets me on the phone or greets me at the door it is 'Hi there young lady.' I hate that.
FH calls my parents by their first names.
Happybride2005
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My parents are still alive. I will call them by there first name.
February05
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Posted by Aga
I avoid calling them anything
Ditto!!!!
I think it'll be easier when we have kids... then i'll just call them grandma and grandpa
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The day we announced our engagement I called them Flo and Allen! I only have one mom (deceased) and one Dad. I've only known them for a year and a half and FH and I are on our own. I think I saw them 10 times before we got engaged so I didn't feel comfortable calling them M and D, proabably never will.
FH doesn't call my Dad anything. This does bug me a bit as my Dad has little speech due to a stroke but I know that my Dad knows that FH doesn't call him anything. I am very close to my Dad and can 99.9% of the time know what bugs him.
Why don't you just ask? Or think about what you would feel comfortable calling them.
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I call them by their first names - when I do call them! They are very laid back people.
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i want to call his parent mom and dad because we are close and he has already started to call my parents mom and dad. i think you will get used to it!!! i know i already have a mom and dad but it's really nice now that i have 2 sets!!! besides his parents are always there for me, especially his mom with the planning!!! she's been fabulous!!!!!!!!!!
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I was wondering the same thing recently.
I call his parents by their first names, and he calls my parents by their first names too. But last time we were home, my mom told FI that he can call them Mom and Dad. He was a little caught off guard and didn't say anything, so I think he still just uses their first name.
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I call my FMIL by her first name and in fact, her kids do too when she isn't around. Its pretty funny. All the kids call his stepdad by his first name, so I will as well. I really couldn't call her mom- she's just not the type anyway.
