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What did your FH actually do in the wedding planning process?

Original post by Bridex100

For the longest time, I considered FH a deadbeat Fiance because I felt he didn't really do anything. He was shocked because he felt like he was very emotionally supportive and gave lots (his definition of lots) of input.

My FH did the following:

Ceremony Musicians
Tuxes

I think that is it.

He takes credit for the following but it was basically me doing all the research and him booking at the end:

Guestbook
Unity Candle
DJ

I think that's it!
smplynluv Posted:

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My FH already claimed duties He put himself in charge of the band, tuxes and limos. I'm practically making him be part of the other departments too. I'm probably going to get my ideas for everything and just get a final ok from him. . . . But he actually wants a say in some stuff and I love that; I'm such a bad decision maker. . .. good thing for this site lol

Oh, and HE is the negotiator in this couple so he is very needed if we don't want to go over budget
HollyMac Posted:

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I'm not from LI so my FH drove me to A LOT of places to meet with vendors.

He also volunteer to do the seating chart but we will see...

He's been helpful though, I really can't complain
imas98 Posted:

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My FH did alot. He came with me for every appointment when we were trying to choose between the Reception Halls, Photographer & the Band.

I went with him to choose the suits but he went back with the GM's on his own after that.

He helped me choose the invites. And he booked the HM on his own.
rkl1130 Posted:

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FH has been pretty good during this whole process. We used to work together and know our strengths and weaknesses, so we kinda tackled it like a project.

*He went with me to see every vendor, except for flowers and we both sat down and talked about each one.
*He picked out the date.
*He will be doing tuxes
*He came up with the guest list
*FH got the guestbook for us

So far, so good.
cindyandkevin Posted:

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I was the one who wanted the big wedding, DH didn't plus he works nights which is when I did the bulk of our research and planning so I didn't mind his lack of involvement on some things (like DIY projects). However, I still think he did plenty:
Planned the HM (I gave input but he did all the work)
Picked out the tuxes and made sure all the guys were measured
Met with the DJ before we booked and our final meeting
Met with our officiant (had to)
Went for our marriage license (had to)
Went for our food tasting (there was no way he'd miss this!)
He saw the hall for his approval before we booked, same with our Wedding World package.
Helped pick out a dress for our jrBM (his daughter)
Gave his honest opinion on my hair & MU trials
Researched w-rings we liked and came with me to buy (had to)
Dropped our invitations off at the Post Office
I picked the date but he picked the time
Figured out the tips with me
Collected everyone's addresses on his side and contacted those on his side that didn't RSVP
Registered at 1 of the 2 places with me
Helped bring all of our stuff over to the RH the night before

He really did a lot now that think about it!!! After the wedding he also did all of the work for buying our house, which I figure makes us even now. Your FH will start to get more involved now that you're getting down to the wire, it's just that a lot of guys feel 'it's all about the bride' so they stay out of it for as long as they can!!
Kara and Todd Posted:

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My FH has done everything with me except pick out my dress and the girls dresses.

He's been to every single appointment. He did all of the legwork himself for the limos while I was on business in China and then we went together to book. He made all the phone calls to various bands when we were in the process of selecting a band. He made most, if not all, of the calls to RHs for preliminary information and to schedule appointments when we were first looking at halls. He's helped with every DIY project yet, like putting together our STDs. He'll also help with all the future ones, too. He's good like that. He'll even humor me while I walk around Michaels, trying to figure out if there are any must haves. He was there at both stores we registered at and was a part of everything we picked out.

I've probably done more from a research standpoint, but he's been involved every step of the way. Then again, we are a couple that does just about everything together... so none of this came as any surprise.

He deserves the fiance of the year award! Seriously, he is the BEST sport ever!
JM4EVA Posted:

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FH has been really great so far! We have done everything together. Looking for mt dress will be the only thing we cannot do together. He's made appointments and been to all of them with me. We go to bridal shows together and he'll even input on the BM and FG dresses I bought. I like his input, so it is like we have say.
In general though we always do things together, so why should wedding planning be any different. It's fun, along with stressful at times, but all good. I love him so much and can't wait to say 'I DO'
Lemons Posted:

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My lovely FH has done nothing except criticize any and everything I choose....gotta love him!

TreAnt425 Posted:

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Caused me stress!

We went to all appt with me and made a few phone calls when I made him!

He also helped out with putting things together here and there
tricia3381 Posted:

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mines really good at nodding his head yes.
portjeffbride Posted:

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he participated with all vendor meetings I arranged, found the limo, booked OOT guest rooms for his family, picked out cake flavors and menu items with me, and obviously participated with picking out the tux.... oh and helped me assemble programs and place cards......

not too much, but then again, he's a guy! They're not interested in this stuff...

snapp29 Posted:

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bug me

LOL---i love him though
erdbeere Posted:

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FH made phone calls and drove me around. Thats it.
Queensbebe Posted:

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I've booked everything, but he's had a say...ex:

Me: 'do you like this one or this one...'
FH: 'uumm...this one'

So he's had input..but basically after I narrowed it down...does that count? Plus, I've dragged him with me everywhere!
BunnyBride Posted:

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Posted by kahlua716

Posted by stealthgroom

(this is why I encourage the creativity of folks like my sister GettinHutched).

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GettinHutched is your sister?!?! I didn't know that


Actually, Tara doesn't have any brothers (we've been friends for years!) I think stealthgroom meant 'soul sister'
stealthgroom Posted:

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Posted by BunnyBride

Posted by kahlua716

GettinHutched is your sister?!?! I didn't know that


Actually, Tara doesn't have any brothers (we've been friends for years!) I think stealthgroom meant 'soul sister'




yeah, we're siblings in a huge yankees fan/hard rock loving/helping each other on liweddings kinda way. except she's an islander fan, which makes me wonder if I'm adopted.
Kara and Todd Posted:

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I'm not gonna lie. A little piece of me just died learning that stealthgroom is a Yankees fan.

stealthgroom Posted:

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Posted by Kara and Todd

I'm not gonna lie. A little piece of me just died learning that stealthgroom is a Yankees fan.


yeah, well, having parents and grandparents from the bronx and going to 100 games over a life will do that to a man.

does it make you feel better that FW is a Mets fan?

--the stealth groom
(giving meat eating, Yankees and Rangers watching, poker playing, bourbon drinking men a voice on liweddings since 10/06)
Autumn08 Posted:

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Posted by Queensbebe

I've booked everything, but he's had a say...ex:

Me: 'do you like this one or this one...'
FH: 'uumm...this one'

So he's had input..but basically after I narrowed it down...does that count? Plus, I've dragged him with me everywhere!


Fh actually would rather me narrow it down. That seems to work with us. I mean after all he only cares about the food. He couldn't care less about flowers so if I narrow the choices he can make the decision. It's usually whatever is cheaper!
Queensbebe Posted:

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Posted by Autumn08

Posted by Queensbebe

I've booked everything, but he's had a say...ex:

Me: 'do you like this one or this one...'
FH: 'uumm...this one'

So he's had input..but basically after I narrowed it down...does that count? Plus, I've dragged him with me everywhere!


Fh actually would rather me narrow it down. That seems to work with us. I mean after all he only cares about the food. He couldn't care less about flowers so if I narrow the choices he can make the decision. It's usually whatever is cheaper!
he usually says...whatever u want...drives me crazy!! If I knew, I wouldn't be asking you!

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