My FH's BM called to say that he doesn't want to go to the bachelor party being planned for FH because he is not into strip clubs, etc.
My FH is sooooooo upset that his BM doesn't want to be there for him. What do I do- Aside from ripping BM's eye balls out????
Mrs. dleeny
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going to a strip club is not for everyone. my FH hates them.
besides, he could have a wife or girlfriend who is opposed to it.
is there something else that they can do so the BM wouldn't be left out?
2BeAMrs.
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I know it's not for everyone, but you'd think for ONE night you can suck it up for your best friend. It's not like the girls really come over to you unless you pay them to.
I just feel bad for him...........
Love_my_Freddybear
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There is nothing he can do but to except it. Maybe BM will come around. Does the BM's girlfriend have anything to do with this????? Maybe so. Didn't BM have anything to do with the planning???? It's just a little weird, I think there is more to it. B/c even if he wasn't into strip bars, he can s*ck this one up b/c it's his friends BP!!! The night is about your FH not BM and I am sure he knows that. JMO but I think there is more to it, like another party involved...AKA HIS WIFE/GIRLFRIEND!!!!!
2BeAMrs.
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See then it would make sense to me. But he is single, no wife, no girlfriend.
He's really shy and if my BIL didn't plan the party, then FH would never have even had one. BM would have never called everybody to get together. Strange I know, but FH has been friends with him for like 11 years..................
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I guess he's just not into it... maybe a before-party can be arranged, such as a dinner... that way the BM can attend, and maybe he'll just decide to go along with the strip club... if not, at least he was present for the dinner.
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Posted by 2BeAMrs.
I It's not like the girls really come over to you unless you pay them to.
OH YES THEY DO
FH went as a GM for a friends bp two weeks ago and told me about how the topless girls rub their tits on the guys back to 'entice' them for a lapdance
Make me sick to just think about it
I think its horrible that you and fh are upset he wont go....stripclubs are sleazy and no one should feel forced to go for someone elses sake
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Posted by PinkSoil
I guess he's just not into it... maybe a before-party can be arranged, such as a dinner... that way the BM can attend, and maybe he'll just decide to go along with the strip club... if not, at least he was present for the dinner.
now that would be a great compromise
2BeAMrs.
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EXCUSE ME!! You are entitled to your opinion, and I am entitled to mine.
You can think what you want, I personally do not see any harm in going to strip clubs. If you dont trust your guy, then you probably shouldn't be marrying him.
This is his BM and it is about FH NOT BM!!!!!!!!
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I didnt go to my friends BP, b/c they were going to a strip club. Maybe the two of them can go out to dinner and drinking one night. Im sure once the idea of him not being there settles, your FH will be ok. Im sure he wants to be there for him...
2BeAMrs.
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FH also asked him to do the golf and dinner before hand and then leave before they go the strip club, he said 'no.' And didn't even give a reason...............I just feel bad for FH cause this is his BF.
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Posted by 2BeAMrs.
EXCUSE ME!! You are entitled to your opinion, and I am entitled to mine.
You can think what you want, I personally do not see any harm in going to strip clubs. If you dont trust your guy, then you probably shouldn't be marrying him.
This is his BM and it is about FH NOT BM!!!!!!!!
Hey Now! I didnt say a thing about not trusting my guy! How dare you take it there!
All I said was that the girls at strips clubs do touch the guys without being asked or paid.
And if you didnt want anyones opinion on this subject, then why post about it?
2BeAMrs.
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The point was not about the strip club, but that his BM should be there for him regardless of the location.
I'm not going to argue with you over the internet on what's sleazy and what's not. That is just silly..................
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Posted by 2BeAMrs.
FH also asked him to do the golf and dinner before hand and then leave before they go the strip club, he said 'no.' And didn't even give a reason...............I just feel bad for FH cause this is his BF.
That makes no sense. Why wouldnt he want to go to dinner? Did you FH ask him about it?
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Best friend's decision not to go to the strip club could be a little more than 'just not being into it', some people are actually offended by places like that.
You said that he has also declined a golf outing, could it be a money thing? Maybe he doesn't have the money to go out with the guys and is embarrassed.
2BeAMrs.
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Yea, he said that he didn't want to ruin his night. FH was like 'dude, not having you there at all will ruin my night.' He didn't really say anything after that. FH was just really hurt.
I'm at a loss of what to do for FH b/c the rest of the guys planned this for him b/c BM didn't even try to plan anything.
2BeAMrs.
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Posted by adioguardi
Best friend's decision not to go to the strip club could be a little more than 'just not being into it', some people are actually offended by places like that.
You said that he has also declined a golf outing, could it be a money thing? Maybe he doesn't have the money to go out with the guys and is embarrassed.
Thanks for all the support ladies, but it just keeps not making any sense.......his BM is pretty well off, has no wife/gf that would get upset by it. I don't know.......I'm just really groping for reasons.
I try to tell him he will have fun regardless of whether or not BM is there. Oh well.
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Ok, Maybe he is Gay? could be, or maybe he is just EXTREMLY shy to the point where he would feel uncomfortable around an enviornment like that. I am sure it will all work out! Your FH will enjoy himself anywhere the guys take him!!! I know you think Fh is the best and he only deserves the best. Don't worry, his guys won't let him down, even if BM doesn't go............
This has nothing to do with your FH, or anyone else's FH but Girls in Strip clubs will come up to a guy and start touching them, just to get their money. They will even sneak up from the back and start masagging the guys and then slap them with 20 bucks. They will do anything just to make their pockets fatter. I know how it works. I have been to enough to know how it all goes down. No, I don't go that route, I never even kissed a girl in my life. I've just been there before with friends... both girls and guys.
Love_my_Freddybear
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and BM SHOULD be there for him regarless where it is....but some guys don't think like we do. I know the point of this is not the strip club.....
But the fact that BM should stick around ANYWHERE they decide to go, may never cross his mind. In his mind he's like 'just count me out, no big deal'
Mrs_B
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If your FH really wants him there then why not just skip going to a strip club. Does he have to go to one? I mean I know that one of FH's BM wanted to take him to one and FH said he didnt want to and they dropped it at that. Why cant your FH just plan something else?
