buy the dress- and alterations Wear any silver shoes they have and I bought them their DOJ.
I asked them to get their hair and makeup done with me in leui of buying those expensive dyable shoes and jewelery... it will only cost them 130 and I will tip for everyone.
I also know many of my friends wanted to did go away for their bach parties...I told them save their money and we will just do typical bach party
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just to buy the dress and everything that goes along with that.
be there for the shower/bachelorette party and help plan it if my MOH needs anything.
and just to show up the day of to support me and fh
thats it, nothing more
mega dittos I am far from demanding i want peace and happiness when it comes to the wedding.
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Buy the dress, get it altered. Wear silver shoes (any type) Have hair and makeup done - not necessarily professional, but appropriate Help my mom and sisters out with my shower Be at the shower, bach party, and RD Be supportive of FH and I.
That's really it, and I don't think it's much to ask. My girls have all known since December that they're BM's, so they have plenty of time to plan things out. Not to mention, I'd do the same (and more) for any one of them.
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- Buy their dress/alterations - Hair & makeup (doesnt have to be professionally done) - Show up!!!
I am only having my sister, best friend and my cousin who is like a sister to me.
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All I expect them to do is to purchase the dress and show up to the wedding. I do expect that they would show up to the E-party, Bridal Shower, Bachelorette, & RD too. But I would totally understand if there was a problem.
I told them all that I don't like the word 'maid' because it implies that they are serving me. I prefer to call them 'bridefriends' because they are there with me because I love them and they are my friends.
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- Buy the dress/alterations - Pay for hair (or they can blowdry it themselves) - Attend shower - Be there at my wedding - Have a great time!!
And my sister, my MOH, I would love to be at my fittings and I know she will be.
They can get their makeup done but don't have to, and they can wear their hair however they want, as long as it doesn't look EXACTLY like mine.
That's all.
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- Buy the dress/alterations - Pay for hair (or they can blowdry it themselves) - Attend shower - Be there at my wedding - Have a great time!!
And my sister, my MOH, I would love to be at my fittings and I know she will be.
They can get their makeup done but don't have to, and they can wear their hair however they want, as long as it doesn't look EXACTLY like mine.
That's all.
ETA: Come to RD too.
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Well they all know that my mom wont be throwing me a shower so one of my bms and one MOH have stepped up and are planning this for me (I love em). If the others dont want to, it's ok but considering that they are a group of my best friends, and knowing them, they wouldnt mind.
Other than than, just buy your dress on time, come to my bachlorette which I know for a fact they are gonna plan (but if they didnt I would be happy planning on my own ), showto the RD, and thats it really.
I think its nice if your bms/MOH come to a fitting with you or to look around for wedding stuff but like others have said, no matter how close you are with the bride, this doesnt mean your wedding takes priority on every single weekend, etc of the bms/MOh lives.
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ummm pay for their dresses and alterations, be present at important events like bachelorette parties, bridal shower, e-party, rehearsal dinner, etc....contribute (monetarily wise as well as helping the day of) to bridal shower along with my sisters (MatronOH's)....be supportive during this year of planning!....i dont think it's alot!
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I just want them to want to be there! I would be soooo pissed if they showed up with all the other stuff in order n have a $uck a$$ attitude!!!! As long as they want to be there and are happy abt it them fulfilling thier other obligations is a pluse.
I've told them all if you dont wanna be there plz dont show up and if fulfilling your obligations is too much you are more than welcome to be a GUEST!
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that is exactly what i think too
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just to buy the dress and everything that goes along with that.
be there for the shower/bachelorette party and help plan it if my MOH needs anything.
and just to show up the day of to support me and fh
I agree completly
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just buy their dresses and alter them - and obviously i would expect them to come to all my wedding events but i have asked nothing of them
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Buy the dress, get it altered. Wear silver shoes (any type) Have hair and makeup done - not necessarily professional, but appropriate Help my mom and sisters out with my shower Be at the shower, bach party, and RD Be supportive of FH and I.
That's really it, and I don't think it's much to ask. My girls have all known since December that they're BM's, so they have plenty of time to plan things out. Not to mention, I'd do the same (and more) for any one of them.
i agree
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I am only having a MOH and a Jr BM- the Jr BM will only be 12 at the time so I am not expecting anything from her except look cute and to walk her brother (RB) down the aisle who will be 5 at the time. My MOH ---to pay for her shoe, dress ,alterations, to be there for me to help me get dressed and to stand up for me. Anything extra she does is just that ...extra.
edit: I also forgot to show up for RD and for our group nite out (No bach party)
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To buy/alter their dresses.
Be on time the day of the wedding; I'm very crazy about people being on time for anything.
Help with the shower/bach party, I do not want my two MOH's and mother planning and paying for everything.
That's about it.
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Well said!!
I just want my girls to do the following:
Show up for the bridesmaid brunch/dress shopping.
Get all of their alterations done on time.
Attend the shower (help mom decorate!!!)
Attend the bachelorette party.
Attend the rehearsal dinner.
Show up to the wedding on time, smile in pics, DANCE DANCE DANCE and let me know if I have any food in my teeth.
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i expect the same things that you do but I also want opinions from them about certain stuff...if they don't like it I want to know because I need help with decorating and stuff since I will not have a coordinator ya know? And that's it....my bridesmaids are my friends and I do not want them to feel like they have a million responsibilities for MY wedding!
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My bridal party is responsible for their own dress and alterations.
They are responsible for their own hair and makeup (it does not have to be professionally done).
I am pretty sure they're going to help me put together my invites.
And, um, they're my FRIENDS, they'll help with anything else along the way. I am so un-demanding that my MOH is wondering if there's still a wedding.
This is a personal preference, and while I am not working my BP to the bone, if I need them to come dress shopping with me, help me bring things to the RH the week before, etc it'll be NO problem...
